Poll: What Book are You Most Interested in?

I review books once a month here at Submissive Guide.  I use the affiliate money I get from Amazon to buy those books. Because of the holiday season I will have a bit of money to buy a few review books for the coming year. I have put together a poll on the sidebar (and included in this post) of some possible books I could review. Please let me know what you’d like to see reviewed here on Submissive Guide.  I’ll get the top 3 and queue them up for review.

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Polls

The Meaning Of Collars [Poll Results]

Last week I asked you to tell me how important your collar is to you and the meaning of it in your relationship. The poll is now closed and the results are posted below. I got several comments and a few emails telling me that my poll was too vague and didn’t cover all the meanings that there could be. This brings me to the point I wanted to make.

Your collar means only whatever you want it to mean. Some said they consider it as the same importance as their wedding ring; but how important is that? A ring or collar or any other piece of jewelry is only going to have the symbolism and importance that you want it to have. Thus, if you consider your collar more important to you than your wedding band, then it is. No one can say otherwise.

The reason the poll was so vague was to try to encourage people to say that none of the thoughts fit them, and I did get one response to that (thank you).  I’m appreciative to be told that the poll didn’t fit their definition and that it couldn’t be voted on.

My collar is very important to me, but it’s not on the same scale as a wedding ring. Honestly I think I could be happy never getting remarried and be just as fulfilled in life as if I had. For some reason, marriage is the ultimate surrender and union and I believe it has something to do with the faith I was raised in; even if I do not follow that faith now.

If the poll didn’t fit your definition and meaning of the collar you wear or the collar you wish to wear, what does it mean to you?

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Poll: What Does Your Collar Mean to You?

A physical reminder of your D/s relationship is a collar. As you have read it can come in many different forms. I’d like to know what is its importance to you? Could you please answer the following poll? I’ll post the results next week. Thanks!

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What Type of Relationship Are You In [Poll Results]

Last month I had a poll on the right side about the types of relationships you are engaged in. I’m happy to see such a variety of relationship dynamics representative here. I identify as submissive in a D/s relationship, but I’ve had people mistake me as being a slave in a Master/slave relationship. I love that you can connect to what I am writing and am very inspired by the wide range of opinions I’ve gotten so far. Thank you.

Why am I sharing this? Because it shows you that no matter how you identify you have a common purpose; to better yourself. Let me know if there is ever anything I can do to help you on your journey.

Curious to know?  Here are the results:

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Is Submission in Opposition to Feminism?

Recently there has been a lot of talk about Feminism and it’s role in society where it’s related (or not related) to submission in a D/s context. I read kaya’s post from Under His Hand, that while being a rant, was a well thought out discussion on how narrow minded a lot of feminists are who believe submission is a step backwards in the Feminist movement.

I believe that the feminist movement can move in parallel to what submission is to the D/s world. It’s about making choices, even if the choice is to not have any choices. Hard core feminism tries to state that any situation where the male dominant society continues is not welcome, thus submission in a Male/female connotation would be opposite that of feminism. Sure, I can see that, but it’s not how feminism started.

Again, it was about oppression, sure, but oppression of a lot of things other than where a woman stands in a relationship. It was to break out of social norms of the housewife, bringing them into a breadwinner role. It was about giving a woman a right to have a job that was typically for men only. The military opened up to women. All of these things gave women a choice.

So what’s wrong with choosing submission? For feminists it’s the idea that you want to be in the role they tried so hard to break free from. We can be the enemy or we can be an example. I like being an example.

I’m an example that feminism works. I can choose to be anything I want; get a job I want, live as a single mom without too much scorn, make more money than my male counterparts (can be hard still, but doable). Yet I choose to live at home, work at home, care for my man and take care of the family. That’s what I want to do.

So am I a feminist? Yes. Am I hard core? No.

Where do you stand on feminsim? Do you believe that submission is in opposition to feminism? Let your voice be heard!

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Poll: What Training Would You Like?

I’m putting together one of my first 14 week training courses that Submissive Guide will be providing so that you can improve yourself and your submission. I’m relatively certain I know what this one will be about, but please let me know what you are looking for in training from me and this site. I need your input!

I’d love to have everyone’s input. Please vote in the following poll. If I don’t have enough options for you (I can’t think of everything), please comment and let me know what is most important to you!

Thank you.

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