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Explain It To Me: The Draw of Being Spanked

Explain It To Me: The Draw of Being Spanked

Despite being commonplace in kinky relationships, explaining the appeal of being spanked to someone who is new to the scene or curious about it can be difficult.

17 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics

Why Your Sexual Needs Matter in a D/s Relationship (or ANY Relationship)

Other than fulfilling pleasure, your sexual needs are just as important as any other needs you have in a relationship; from love or happiness, trust and honesty, being taken care of or anything else you’ve determined is a need for you in a relationship.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Play and Sex, Relationships, Sex and Sexuality
Butt Plugs for Training and Pleasure

Butt Plugs for Training and Pleasure

I’m going to share the secrets of my success with wearing anal toys for long periods of time–by which I mean anywhere from an hour or two to overnight.

3 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Play and Sex
What is a Fetish?

What is a Fetish?

We use the term fetish to describe many actions or conditions which appear with relative prevalence within the BDSM communities.

Comments Off Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: BDSM Glossary

Chat Night Transcript from “How to Talk Dirty” Chat

This chat occurred on 10/1/13 in the Submissive Guide Chat room. ~lunaKM: alright, let’s get going Hello and welcome to another chat night here on Submissive Guide. Please feel free to talk about the subject whenever a thought comes to mind, this is not a moderated talk and you do not have to ask permission [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Views & More...

Pain Play Discussed Online – Explore The Variety of Views

Some of the best online reading on the topic. Browse the list, watch the videos and learn more about pain play.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Ask lunaKM – Weakness and Triggers, 24/7 Start and Incompatibility

Ask lunaKM – Weakness and Triggers, 24/7 Start and Incompatibility

Dear lunaKM, I am new to the Submissive role and BDSM in general. To make a long story short I am finally with my best friend from high school 10 years later, after being through a hellish marriage for 5 years and a physically abusive relationship before that…I love my now boyfriend and he is [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
When Your Owner’s Home Grows: The Impact of Having Additional Live-in Dominants and submissives

When Your Owner’s Home Grows: The Impact of Having Additional Live-in Dominants and submissives

Anytime you have a Home with one Master and no matter how well ordered, three s-types one of them new to the Home there is going to be administrative issues if nothing else. We have faced everything from handling of the children to dealing with punishments and chore allocation. Never-mind interpersonal issues focusing around relationships and commitments as well as insecurity and a little passive aggressiveness.

2 comments Posted by malak Briar-rose | Posted in: Relationships
Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: Introduction

Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: Introduction

Since the popularization of cyberspace, the practitioners of the community have been locked in a stalemate debate: do long distance D/s relationships really work? There are a great many arguments for and against the validity of long distance relationships—many of which are compelling in one way or another.

11 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Online Submission
Male Submission – Selfishness

Male Submission – Selfishness

Many male subs portray themselves through their own words that they are selfish in that they do not actually care what a potential dominant partner wants or needs.

18 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission
Single in the Scene Part II: Service

Single in the Scene Part II: Service

As we apply the term service to hierarchical relationships, it’s really simple: what the Owner requires or needs. Those things that make the Owner’s life easier, more comfortable, and more joyous (at the very least).

2 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Personal Growth, Service
Recapturing Common Sense

Recapturing Common Sense

All novice submissives have a moment where a lapse in judgment can happen. No one is impervious to the lures of desire and dark needs. When offered a chance to experiment or explore our new-found desires we overlook that most important instinct – our gut instinct.

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Personal Growth
The Most Popular and Favorite Books on BDSM – According to Our Readers

The Most Popular and Favorite Books on BDSM – According to Our Readers

The following is a compilation of the most purchased BDSM-related books on Amazon – by our community.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
What To Do When You Encounter Limits Mid Scene

What To Do When You Encounter Limits Mid Scene

I’d like you to understand that it is okay to find limits you didn’t know where there. They could be play activities that you never experienced before that you found you don’t like or it could be a pain or sensation edge. Either way, it does not make you any less of a person or a submissive or a masochist. It actually makes you that much more unique and special.

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
The Top 7 Posts of 2012 on Submissive Guide

The Top 7 Posts of 2012 on Submissive Guide

I’d like to showcase several of these posts from the last year of Submissive Guide.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive
Submissive Advent – Day 4: Rewards for Service

Submissive Advent – Day 4: Rewards for Service

What are you proud of achieving this year? What would you like to toot your own horn about? Let us praise your progress and reward you for service well done.

13 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Advent Calendar
Is Your Heart Truly In It? – Fulfilling Submission Needs Desire

Is Your Heart Truly In It? – Fulfilling Submission Needs Desire

Submission does not have to be full-time. It doesn’t even have to be in the same room. But it does have to fill a need inside of you and when done right should fill you up and reaffirm your choices.

27 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Mindset
Active Submission Means Always Improving Yourself

Active Submission Means Always Improving Yourself

Being effective in submission should make you happy in your life. Far too many times I see novices and experienced submissives floundering and wondering how to make their Owner happy without a thought to how to make themselves happy too.

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Personal Growth
Massage as Ritual

Massage as Ritual

It can be a hand rub, a back rub or a full body massage. The ritual part is that it’s done regularly and with reverence to the act. It becomes a special moment in time for you and your partner. You get to absorb yourself in your service and they get to receive a relaxing massage.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Rituals and Routines
Trust is a Five Letter Word

Trust is a Five Letter Word

A D/s relationship with a basis of trust has a lot of responsibility in both parties to uphold that trust and to not belie it. Honesty is a form of trust and the most common violation of that trust that I have encountered in my time as a submissive and talking with others.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
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