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Enhance Your Sex and BDSM Play with Rituals in the Bedroom

Enhance Your Sex and BDSM Play with Rituals in the Bedroom

If you’ve ever thought that ritual and meditation was for full-time submissives only or those in committed relationships then you haven’t broadened your thinking enough. It’s not just the full-time “lifestyle” submissives that can benefit from rituals, rules, and protocols in their lives. Submissives that dabble in the bedroom only have a lot they can do to enhance their experience in play and sex with their partner.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Personal Growth
A Day in the Life: Tlbsab

A Day in the Life: Tlbsab

This is a guest post for the Day in a Life Series. Thank you Tlbsab!

Leave a comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics

What is Situational Service?

This is a continuation of the series on the most common forms of service in a D/s relationship. The forms are: Transactional Devotional Positional Situational Today I’m going to talk about situational service. Situational service encompasses what I called conditional service. You serve only when presented with a specific set of circumstances, thus the situation is perfect [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Service
Strengths and Misconceptions of Kajira

Strengths and Misconceptions of Kajira

This is another guest post by dina of kajiradreams. She continues her thoughts on Gor and the life of a kajira. You can also read her thoughts on what it’s like to be an owned kajira. The strengths of a kajira and the misconceptions of what a kajira is and does. And what strengths better [...]

8 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics
The Basics of Negotiating a BDSM Scene

The Basics of Negotiating a BDSM Scene

It can be very scary approaching a Dominant and asking them to play with you. The butterflies in your belly can make it very difficult to take that first step. It can be every worse if you two don’t negotiate the scene so that you get what you want out of it and s/he does [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
How to Use Playtime Check Ins Wisely

How to Use Playtime Check Ins Wisely

A check in is where either partner provides clues as to their comfort, pain tolerance, pleasure level or other information during a scene or play session. Even the most experienced players continue to check in with their partners during play; it is a good practice to have. Whether you are playing with your partner or [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Play and Sex
The BDSM Checklist that Will Really Help You

The BDSM Checklist that Will Really Help You

An important part of negotiating a scene is discussing what you want out of the scene. Sure there are a lot of really thorough BDSM checklists that you could fill out if you don’t want to really think about what turns you on and drives you crazy with pleasure. BDSM checklists all live under different [...]

8 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Training Resume

What’s the Difference Between a Lifestyler and a Player?

This week’s video is about definitions of a lifestyler and a player. I received the following question via email the other day and thought I would cover it here in a video post. I’m in a D/s relationship where we tend to do most of our activities behind closed doors. Outside we are a normal [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Video Posts
This Collar, That Collar, Your Collar, My Collar

This Collar, That Collar, Your Collar, My Collar

A collar for submissives is one of the most fundamental symbols of their relationship and one that is usually gaurded and protected with their heart.  With all the essays online about collars I thought I’d jump in with my own take on what everyone says and believes about collars. Play Collars The first type of [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Relationships
Recommended Reading for New Submissives

Recommended Reading for New Submissives

The following is a list of books that I recommend for every novice submissive. The links lead you to Amazon if you are interested in buying the books. Part of your purchase goes towards supporting this site and my efforts at continuing to bring you content on this site. Books Conquer Me: girl-to-girl wisdom about [...]

7 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals

Don’t Embarrass Yourself: Learn the Etiquette for Play Parties Before You Go

Each social situation we expose ourselves to has it’s own set of rules and behaviors. This is also true of BDSM events, perhaps even moreso. A play party will have different rules at each location you may attend one. There will be established rules as well as house/location rules. There are also unspoken rules that [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Play and Sex
Book Review: Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns

Book Review: Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns

If you’ve been around the BDSM and D/s scene at all there is one of many books that always comes up in conversation as a good book to read when you are new to the whole lifestyle. This book is Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism by [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Reviews
The Novelty of Slash Speak in Online Submission

The Novelty of Slash Speak in Online Submission

Since the advent of the internet and the birth of BDSM online there has been slash speak. Slash speak is a protocol established by online dominants for their submissives to decern who’s on top and who’s on bottom. It’s said to be a form of respect for those online.  For those of us who don’t [...]

13 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Online Submission

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