By lunaKM on May 21, 2010
This is a continuation of the series on the most common forms of service in a D/s relationship. The forms are: Transactional Devotional Positional Situational Today I’m going to talk about situational service. Situational service encompasses what I called conditional service. You serve only when presented with a specific set of circumstances, thus the situation is perfect [...]
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By Guest Author on September 16, 2009
This is another guest post by dina of kajiradreams. She continues her thoughts on Gor and the life of a kajira. You can also read her thoughts on what it’s like to be an owned kajira. The strengths of a kajira and the misconceptions of what a kajira is and does. And what strengths better [...]
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By lunaKM on August 26, 2009
It can be very scary approaching a Dominant and asking them to play with you. The butterflies in your belly can make it very difficult to take that first step. It can be every worse if you two don’t negotiate the scene so that you get what you want out of it and s/he does [...]
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By lunaKM on August 14, 2009
A check in is where either partner provides clues as to their comfort, pain tolerance, pleasure level or other information during a scene or play session. Even the most experienced players continue to check in with their partners during play; it is a good practice to have. Whether you are playing with your partner or [...]
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By lunaKM on July 27, 2009
An important part of negotiating a scene is discussing what you want out of the scene. Sure there are a lot of really thorough BDSM checklists that you could fill out if you don’t want to really think about what turns you on and drives you crazy with pleasure. BDSM checklists all live under different [...]
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By lunaKM on June 17, 2009
A collar for submissives is one of the most fundamental symbols of their relationship and one that is usually gaurded and protected with their heart. With all the essays online about collars I thought I’d jump in with my own take on what everyone says and believes about collars. Play Collars The first type of [...]
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By lunaKM on May 11, 2009
Each social situation we expose ourselves to has it’s own set of rules and behaviors. This is also true of BDSM events, perhaps even moreso. A play party will have different rules at each location you may attend one. There will be established rules as well as house/location rules. There are also unspoken rules that [...]
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By lunaKM on March 23, 2009
If you’ve been around the BDSM and D/s scene at all there is one of many books that always comes up in conversation as a good book to read when you are new to the whole lifestyle. This book is Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism by [...]
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By lunaKM on February 25, 2009
Since the advent of the internet and the birth of BDSM online there has been slash speak. Slash speak is a protocol established by online dominants for their submissives to decern who’s on top and who’s on bottom. It’s said to be a form of respect for those online. For those of us who don’t [...]
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