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When He Slapped Me: My Impressions of Face Slapping

When He Slapped Me: My Impressions of Face Slapping

First published on KinkAcademy.com. I wrote this almost 5 years ago and am sharing it again with you here. As with everything BDSM has to offer, there are what are considered light play activities and those that are intense, even on the edge or taboo. Face slapping is considered the latter.  Two years ago I [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
How Should a Submissive Act at a Dungeon Party?

How Should a Submissive Act at a Dungeon Party?

Hi.  My slave and I are going to a dungeon together for the first time.  I’m wondering about how she should talk.  She has rules for talking with me.  But not for talking with others in the community.  I know she should be respectful to all.  But how should she address other Masters and slaves? [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Play and Sex
How Can You Reduce the Appearance of Marks and Bruises After Play?

How Can You Reduce the Appearance of Marks and Bruises After Play?

Hi lunaKM, I was wondering if there is anything that can be done to minimize the appearance of bruises and marks after rough play. I am very Irish and my skin is just this shade of death warmed over/ goth girl dream. This makes every mark stand out like a billboard and I get marked VERY [...]

7 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything

Understanding Safe Words for Safe Play

The adventures in the bedroom or dungeon are a lot of fun and you can get lost in the intense responses and pleasure during these moments. It is not without it’s own challenge of safety and communication. When the intensity of activities go up it’s not uncommon for tops and bottoms alike to lose the [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex

Personal Safety Mantra: Safe Sane and Consensual (SSC)

When a novice submissive first learns about BDSM or D/s power exchange it can be a scary place. The first thing I like to help these novices learn is about safety mantras, particularly the widely accepted Safe, Sane and Consensual or SSC. What is SSC? It’s a credo that people in the BDSM community use [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Safety

Chat Night Transcript from “How to Talk Dirty” Chat

This chat occurred on 10/1/13 in the Submissive Guide Chat room. ~lunaKM: alright, let’s get going Hello and welcome to another chat night here on Submissive Guide. Please feel free to talk about the subject whenever a thought comes to mind, this is not a moderated talk and you do not have to ask permission [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Views & More...
Ask lunaKM – Roleplay Scenarios, Unable to Kneel and Boost of Confidence

Ask lunaKM – Roleplay Scenarios, Unable to Kneel and Boost of Confidence

Dear lunaKM, My question involves role play, I was wondering if there are some scenarios that are available to give an individual some idea of how to start a scene. And or what kind of scene would be the easiest to get started with because I am a beginner and I usually go my instinct [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything

Making Him the Dom of Your Dreams – Working With The Man You Have

Oftentimes we find our desire to be submissive or kinky when we are already in a relationship and are not sure really how to proceed with that. It can come as a shock to try to force your desires on your partner and if you address the subject without their thoughts in mind it could [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
Ask lunaKM – Sexting, How to get Started and Scene Fantasies

Ask lunaKM – Sexting, How to get Started and Scene Fantasies

Dear lunaKM, My D/s is a long distance relationship. We have not met in person. Just starting out, he’s training me so to speak. I am new. We are planning to meet eventually, it is set. So my question: He sends me scenes via text. Does a submissive send scenes as well? What scene form [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything

Submissive Guide Ecourses – Do They Really Help?

You’ve probably seen the link at the top of this site, or the banners on the side and wondered if the ecourses that I offer are really going to help you learn more about BDSM or submission than reading the websites and books on the subject can do. My answer is yes. The difference between [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Personal Growth
Book Review: Leading and Supportive Love

Book Review: Leading and Supportive Love

The truth about Dominant and submissive relationships isn’t that we are an alternative lifestyle within the BDSM arena, it’s that we are a strong and supportive relationship type that goes beyond and sometimes without kink. Chris Lyon has written a fantastic book that does a great job describing and detailing the two roles of a [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Reviews

Pain Play Discussed Online – Explore The Variety of Views

Submissive Guide isn’t the only place you can get quality information about the topics of BDSM and this month I’ve been focusing on sadomasochism and pain play. So I’ve done a bit of research and pulled together some of the best online reading on the topic. Browse the list, watch the videos and learn more [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Ask lunaKM – Compatibility, Safewords when Deaf and Power Play Preferences

Ask lunaKM – Compatibility, Safewords when Deaf and Power Play Preferences

Dear lunaKM, I’m a complete newbie when it comes to the D/s world. January of this year I met my very first Dominant online. He was sweet and attentive yet firm. We live in two different states but I had decided to move to His town to be closer to Him. I did everything in [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
What to Do When You Are Haunted by Past Relationships

What to Do When You Are Haunted by Past Relationships

There are times in our life that we seem to be haunted by the relationships in our past. They cling to us like a life form and don’t seem to want us out their grasp. Most of the time, I feel this occurs because we feel that something is left unresolved with it. Perhaps the [...]

5 comments Posted by LadySneak | Posted in: Relationships

How To Manage, Increase and Explore Pain Tolerances in SM Play

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 5/18/13 Whether you are a hard-core masochist or just a light explorer of sadomasochistic pain play there are always opportunies to experience more, push yourself harder and enhance your pain management techniques. How you learn to do this, and the techniques you employ are unique from submissive to submissive (masochist [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Take the Bite Out of Submitting to Pain – Sadomasochism Is Not a Part of Submission

Take the Bite Out of Submitting to Pain – Sadomasochism Is Not a Part of Submission

I’m here to break the news to you about a piece of misinformation about submissives. Are you ready? You do not have to like pain or be a masochist to be submissive. That’s it. That piece of news right there leads to one of the largest reasons so many of you are confused. You think [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Ask lunaKM – Another Batch of Quick Answers

Ask lunaKM – Another Batch of Quick Answers

Hi Luna! Do you feel that another submissive would be a better Mentor to a novice submissive rather than another Dominant? I personally feel that a person of similar role to you can advise and mentor you better than someone who could be your Dominant. So if you are a slave, you should have a [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Learning Better Pain Processing Through Visualization

Learning Better Pain Processing Through Visualization

This essay was first written and published in the Society of Janus newsletter “Growing Pains.” I hope you enjoy! from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 5/4/13 Pushing boundaries in pain tolerance is a common request for submissives of all flavors. As a masochist I enjoy pain for the sake of pain. I don’t always want to [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Ask lunaKM – Relationship Stress, Cruising Protocol and Poly Issues

Ask lunaKM – Relationship Stress, Cruising Protocol and Poly Issues

Dear lunaKM, I’ve been a sub for about 6 mo now…online Dom. (this is my first experience being a sub) I have a lot of respect for Him, but can’t get my act together enough to obey everything He wants me to do. I am overwhelmed with my personal life and work and the stress [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Enhance Your Sex and BDSM Play with Rituals in the Bedroom

Enhance Your Sex and BDSM Play with Rituals in the Bedroom

You are a bedroom submissive. You may only submit only in the bedroom, or on weekends or for only set time periods. So having rituals seems foreign to you, right? Maybe. They aren’t meant for you, right? Wrong. If you’ve ever thought that ritual and meditation was for full time submissives only or those in [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Personal Growth
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