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Simply Service eZine: May 2008

Simply Service eZine: May 2008

D/s e-Zine focused on Service, written by bootpig. This is the archive from May 2008. Topics include Productivity Tools, Is Slavery Real?, Rules of Bedding and more! Available in PDF format for free download.

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Service
Simply Service eZine: November 2006

Simply Service eZine: November 2006

D/s e-Zine focused on Service, written by bootpig. This is the archive from November 2006. Topics include Personal Responsibility in BDSM, The Role of Slavery in Modern Society, a Dominant’s View of Service and more! Available in PDF format for free download.

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Service
Safewords Are Not “Safe Words”

Safewords Are Not “Safe Words”

Playing comes with dangers and risks. Making sure you are going to be as safe as you wish to be is up to you. That’s where safewords come in.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
[Video Post] Beginning BDSM: Using Safewords for Safe Play

[Video Post] Beginning BDSM: Using Safewords for Safe Play

A safeword is how you can protect yourself with a trusting partner.

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Video Posts
Keep Your Voice: Your Rights as a Submissive

Keep Your Voice: Your Rights as a Submissive

With franchises like Fifty Shades of Grey having integrated themselves almost completely in the mainstream, I have had the combined frustration and horror of my role as a submissive and my role as a teacher nearly clashing more than once. While I would NEVER share any part of my home activities with any of my [...]

10 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Personal Growth
24/7: Long Term Relationships

24/7: Long Term Relationships

This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. Long Term Relationship. 24/7 simply means 24 hours a day – 7 days a week. Not so simply, it usually means the desire for lifetime commitment or a relationship with many or [...]

2 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Relationships
4 Things You Should Not Put Up With Just Because He’s a Dominant

4 Things You Should Not Put Up With Just Because He’s a Dominant

I’ve been in relationships before. I know how they should work, or at least I think I do. Sometimes I wonder if everyone has forgotten how things are supposed to work just because they are in a D/s relationship instead of a vanilla one. Many of the questions on social networking for kinky people stems [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
How To Ask for More Without Being a Pushy Submissive

How To Ask for More Without Being a Pushy Submissive

“I want my Dominant to spank me more.” “How can I tell him I need more praise and approval without topping from the bottom?” “I need more attention, how can I tell him without being pushy?” “Can I tell him I love him and still be submissive? “How do I tell him that my needs [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships
Some of the Best Kept Secrets to Sub Drop Recovery

Some of the Best Kept Secrets to Sub Drop Recovery

Sub drop. Declared among submissives as a horrible affliction and the bane of  play and relationships. We try to understand what it happening when it starts to bring us down and if we don’t know what it is can scare us into never playing again. It’s true; sub drop can be bad. For those of [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Single Submissives Need Personal Responsibility

Single Submissives Need Personal Responsibility

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 1/5/13 Your personal responsibility is one of the most important tools in a single submissive’s arsenal. It keeps you safe and protected from the most common predators, it will help you learn and grow while waiting and often has a positive result if maintained once you are no longer single. [...]

My Dominant is Struggling Emotionally, How Can I Help?

My Dominant is Struggling Emotionally, How Can I Help?

I really don’t know where to start. I am really confused & I don’t know what to do. My Master hasn’t been that ‘masterful’. I have been His sub for almost 5 years. Even when things seem okay. He is constantly in the negative. He is not tending to His personal affairs at all & [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
Are You A Reflection of Your Dominant?

Are You A Reflection of Your Dominant?

You are a Reflection of Your Dominant – Or Are You? I’ve heard this numerous times and I’m sure I’m not the only one. Kind, good-intentioned people say that submissives should be on their best behavior because they are the reflection of the Dominant who owns them. The personal responsibility of the submissive is all [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Community, Personal Growth

Submitting Is Not Without Personal Responsibility

This post was going to be a video post but since I’m working off of my little netbook for the time being (my laptop died) I was unable to create the video. I promise to get back to doing videos when I have a new laptop. In a play party last night I witnessed a [...]

8 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex, Safety

For Consent to Count…ASSENT Has to Matter

This is a guest post by SherynB. Please take the time to read the whole thing. It’s an important issue that needs to be addressed. Okay, there’s a 600lb gorilla in the room, and I’m done pretending it’s not there. What we do isn’t pretty or politically correct, and frankly, it’s dangerous if we can’t get (and [...]

10 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Community, Safety
Single in the Scene Part I: Boundaries

Single in the Scene Part I: Boundaries

Recently, I was contemplating the situation of being single in the Scene because of an email I received from someone concerning interacting with male dominants. Essentially, she responded to the sexual whims of the men she met online from the space of not having any boundaries set. Part of her inquiry to me was why [...]

2 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Mindset, Personal Growth
Who Has the Greatest Responsibility in a D/s Relationship?

Who Has the Greatest Responsibility in a D/s Relationship?

In my first few months of submission I was asked about my ideal relationship by a Dominant friend of mine. It’s something that I still ask novice submissives when they come to me asking how to find a Dominant that they are compatible with. My answer reflected ignorance and misunderstanding. I believed that my ideal [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships

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