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I’m So Clumsy! Is There Anything I Can Do?

I’m So Clumsy! Is There Anything I Can Do?

Hi. I am in a master and slave relationship and I am the slave in our relationship. I have moments when I am so clumsy and I really hate it. Sometimes I do things like spill drinks on the floor or on myself. Today I spilled some soda on myself and I also spilled some [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Personal Growth
Being Fully Present: Slowing Down to Live in the Moment

Being Fully Present: Slowing Down to Live in the Moment

Sunday morning, we were sitting at the dining room table finishing breakfast. Sir sat there, sipped His tea slowly and thoughtfully. He was deep in the stillness of the moment. I was a different story. My mind began to race with all the lists of to-do’s and should-do’s that awaited us for the day ahead. [...]

3 comments Posted by moonlight | Posted in: Mindset

Where To Go to Find a Kinky or D/s Partner: The Big List

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 4/5/14 I think the most frequent question on every novices lips is, “where do I go to find people, partners and relationships now that I’ve found kink and D/s?” It’s a huge hurdle to get over and something that everyone seeks. A partner. A lover. A relationship. It’s not as [...]

13 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
That Anxious Space from the Petition to the Collar

That Anxious Space from the Petition to the Collar

In the post Single in the Scene Part IV: Petitioning, I address the matter of presenting a petition to a potential Master. However, I didn’t fully address that space between the time of presenting the petition and (hopefully) the collar, at least not at length. But, this can be one of the most trying times for [...]

2 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Mindset, Personal Growth, Relationships
Why I Could Never Return to a Vanilla Relationship

Why I Could Never Return to a Vanilla Relationship

I didn’t know I was submissive when I was in my last vanilla relationship.  I never would have guessed it at all and would have denied it if someone made the suggestion.  I was too independent to be submissive (so I thought).  I did, however, have a lingering fascination with rope and bondage after my [...]

7 comments Posted by pinksubgeek | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Ask lunaKM – Protocol-Driven Leather Lifestyle, Adding Another Submissive and Starting a Submissive Journal

Ask lunaKM – Protocol-Driven Leather Lifestyle, Adding Another Submissive and Starting a Submissive Journal

Dear Luna, In response to your post “Influx of Bossy Newbies Killing Old School Traditions”, I wanted to ask: Where can I learn about the protocol-driven Leather Lifestyle? I’ve wanted to learn about it for some time. On FetLife I’ve seen other’s ask similar questions and each time they were answered with “Every relationship is [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Me vs the German Language  – A Lesson in Patience

Me vs the German Language – A Lesson in Patience

This past year has just been a whirlwind of excitement for me. Moving to a new country to be with my Daddy and everything that comes with moving to a new country, adjusting to a new culture, a new way of life, and a new language. The biggest challenge of my move has been the [...]

2 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
I’m a Shy Web Cam Model, Can That Be Detrimental to Finding a Dominant?

I’m a Shy Web Cam Model, Can That Be Detrimental to Finding a Dominant?

I’m very new to this lifestyle. I became interested in it because I work part time as a webcam model and found I really enjoyed doing as I was told. I am exploring online and trying to better understand what I like. However the Dominants I have encountered have issues with me. They don’t like [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Beginner Basics
The Chase is On – Communicating Openly With Your Dominant

The Chase is On – Communicating Openly With Your Dominant

I was talking with a friend of mine awhile ago and she said something that really piqued my attention. She was telling me about her boyfriend and how upset she is over the fact that he won’t chase after her. They had some kind of argument and stormed out of the apartment. She got in [...]

11 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics

Living M/s Book Club Wrap-Up Participation Showcase

We are all done with this book club, but if you are still reading feel free to comment on this or any of the previous week’s posts. Today I wanted to take some time and showcase all of the favorite quotes, some of the key thoughts and comments on the book from this event. Thank [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Roundtable Discussions
Dealing With Anger As a Submissive

Dealing With Anger As a Submissive

“If your angry, take deep breaths. If your really angry, swear.” – Mark Twain My friend says on her blog, “Anger and I are old friends.” This is why I like her blog so much, because she is very realistic. You’ll probably see a lot of submissives say that they never get angry at their [...]

6 comments Posted by selkie | Posted in: Relationships
Letting Go of the Bank Account – Submitting to Financial Control

Letting Go of the Bank Account – Submitting to Financial Control

Introducing one of Submissive Guide’s newest contributing authors – selkie! Of all the subjects to write about on submission, this seems the most vanilla to me, probably because it didn’t used to be unusual for one partner in a partnership to maintain the bank accounts all that long ago. For some vanilla couples, it still [...]

11 comments Posted by selkie | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships

What AreThe Effects of Fisting?

  I was curious about the long term effect of fisting or even multiple fingers/larger toys in the vagina? I have what has been described as a tight vagina which I would imagine would be positive, however, I am entering into a D/s relationship with a Daddy that wants to eventually be able to fist [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Sex and Sexuality
Recovering From the End of a D/s Relationship

Recovering From the End of a D/s Relationship

Asking for release from a relationship is never an easy thing to do regardless of the reasons and how it is done. It is not something one does lightly and shouldn’t be something someone does without thought and consideration to all the factors involved. It is something that I have recently had to do – [...]

21 comments Posted by LadySneak | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner: Part 3- My Partner is Interested!

Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner: Part 3- My Partner is Interested!

In part 1 of this series of articles we examined the initial approach for discussing your submissive desires with your vanilla partner. In  part 2 we examined how to address the issue if your partner does not respond positively to the initial approach. In this final part 3 we examine how to proceed if your vanilla [...]

3 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Relationships
Ask Anything | The Trap of Self Expectations

Ask Anything | The Trap of Self Expectations

After years of research and thought, I recently entered my first D/s relationship. I was lucky to have found such a Gentleman so quickly. He respects my thoughts, listens to my rants, and is as emotionally available as our long distance allows. I can’t help but feel like I am constantly disappointing Him. He loves [...]

Leave a comment Posted by SehAnru | Posted in: Ask Anything
Enjoy Being a Single Submissive – Look Forward to a Relationship Later

Enjoy Being a Single Submissive – Look Forward to a Relationship Later

Inspired by the song “I Will Get There” by Boys II Men This post is for all the single submissives that read this site. I know there are a large percentage of you so there is no reason to be silent any longer. I know the pain and loneliness you are going through. I know [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics

For Consent to Count…ASSENT Has to Matter

This is a guest post by SherynB. Please take the time to read the whole thing. It’s an important issue that needs to be addressed. Okay, there’s a 600lb gorilla in the room, and I’m done pretending it’s not there. What we do isn’t pretty or politically correct, and frankly, it’s dangerous if we can’t get (and [...]

10 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Community, Safety
How a Quote about Child-like Blind Faith Taught Me to Submit Completely

How a Quote about Child-like Blind Faith Taught Me to Submit Completely

“We all use these terms freely like Daddy and little, but seriously think back to when you were 4 or 5… Did the thought ever enter your head of where supper came from? How your school clothes appeared in your closet? What caused that warm bed with the covers and teddy bear to be in [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics

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