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The Role Sex Plays in a D/s Relationship

The Role Sex Plays in a D/s Relationship

Sex and how we’ve learned about sex can form our own opinions about how sexual D/s forms in our lives and how we respond to it. The emphasis of sex in a D/s relationship comes about in a variety of forms and is only limited by your imagination. What role does it play in your relationship?

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Sex and Sexuality
The Benefits of Orgasm Control and How to Get Started

The Benefits of Orgasm Control and How to Get Started

Learn about orgasm control and how to get started adding it to your own sexual exchanges!

3 comments Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Play and Sex

How Sub Space Affects Sexual Sensations During Play

What we can all agree on is that subspace alters your senses during play. I’m going to talk about why orgasms fail to happen during subspace and the very tiny minority that can achieve orgasm during subspace.

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Play and Sex
But I Don’t Like Pain! Learning to See the Eroticism in Pain as Pleasure

But I Don’t Like Pain! Learning to See the Eroticism in Pain as Pleasure

for the Submissive Guide Newsletter 2/7/15 I have heard it a thousand times, someone doesn’t like pain so they are not interested in BDSM. In practically every case the person making that statement retracts it once they find out how erotic some pain can be. Pain doesn’t have to be painful, and other stimulus can [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Play and Sex
Broken Vows: When Vanilla Marriage Falls Apart Because of Kink

Broken Vows: When Vanilla Marriage Falls Apart Because of Kink

I was married before my relationship with my Master, KnyghtMare. We fell in love when dating online was still an unusual thing. We courted and dated for years before we got married. Marriage seemed to be the inevitable next step, so we did that too. Our sex life was very much kink-lite. For the most [...]

41 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
Little Known Ways We Experience Sub Space

Little Known Ways We Experience Sub Space

I admit that I used to whisper tales of sub space and the other blissful states that I’ve been in as if they were magical golden hours of submission.  I actually believed long ago that sub space is what made me a “real” submissive. Trust me, that bubble didn’t last long. Once it was popped [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Orgasm on Command Training – Ultimate Goals and Variations

Orgasm on Command Training – Ultimate Goals and Variations

It can be quite obvious what the goal of orgasm on command training is but there are so many things you can do with that goal to make it interesting and exciting for everyone involved. I’m going to talk about a few things that I learned about while doing the research for my own training, [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Orgasm on Command Training – The Process for the Submissive

Orgasm on Command Training – The Process for the Submissive

When you enter a training program as intensive as orgasm training you can get overwhelmed easily. There is a lot of weight on the submissive to perform and succeed. Much of the detailed accounts I’ve read talk about what goes on as far as the training but never how the submissive internalizes it and makes [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Initial Steps Into Orgasm on Command Training

Initial Steps Into Orgasm on Command Training

I have to start out this post by saying that I am not an expert and can only write about what I understand and have learned. KnyghtMare and I have been embarking on making orgasm on command work for our relationship and ultimately I know it will happen. It’s an exciting journey in itself and [...]

10 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Intense Orgasms Need Extreme Toys from Extreme Restraints

Intense Orgasms Need Extreme Toys from Extreme Restraints

This post features Submissive Guide affiliates, meaning that if you buy something featured, you’ll be financially supporting this site’s mission of bringing awesomeness to readers everywhere. I have a love/hate relationship with my Hitachi Magic Wand. It took about 6 months for me to even adjust to the sensation and thought it was absolutely not [...]

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How Masturbation Changed in My D/s Relationship

How Masturbation Changed in My D/s Relationship

Before I entered a D/s relationship masturbation was a regular recreational activity for me. It was also private. Even when I was married I didn’t masturbate in front of him or let him know when I was taking care of myself. It just wasn’t something I shared. Neither did he. And then I committed myself [...]

7 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships, Sex and Sexuality
Orgasm Control: Learning How to Ask for an Orgasm

Orgasm Control: Learning How to Ask for an Orgasm

In D/s sexuality one of the more common rules is that the Dominant controls the orgasms and sexual release of the submissive. Some require that the submissive not even touch themselves without the say so of the Dominant. In this style of power exchange it is familiar territory that the submissive will learn how to [...]

10 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Sex and Sexuality
A Lesson in Control with Self-Punishment

A Lesson in Control with Self-Punishment

Each and every day there is the chance to scew up and be disobedient. Luckily, most of us won’t break rules every single day but when we do we know that punishment will come swiftly and precisely. That is, unless you are an online submissive. Then there are a few other steps to having punishment [...]

16 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Online Submission, Relationships
The Truth About Orgasm Control and Denial

The Truth About Orgasm Control and Denial

The idea of orgasm control or denial strikes fear in novice submissives. “What do you mean give over my ability to orgasm whenever I want?” Sure you could think of it that way, but in terms of your submission it could mean so much more. Let me start with the basic definitions. Orgasm Control: When [...]

21 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex

Maintenance Spankings; Why Do It?

This week’s video post is about maintenance spankings. Maintenance spankings are a way to keep the relationship fresh, revive the roles on a regular basis and to not let life away from the dynamic interfere with what your relationship goals are. A maintenance spanking can be anything from a scheduled night of the week where [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships, Video Posts
Finding Your Spirituality In Service

Finding Your Spirituality In Service

A recent journal prompt I came across really inspired me to write about it.  It is spirituality. A lot of what I hear about spirituality is related to religion, but BDSM can be spiritual too and I’d like to explore that with you. What is the relationship between spirituality and religion? Is BDSM spiritual? –Submissive [...]

15 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Mindset, Service, Spirituality

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