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Dolly Learns To Balance Kink and Everyday Life

However committed and passionate you may be about your Dom/sub relationship, making time for your kink among the cold, harsh realities of daily living is a continuous and often difficult balance.

Comments Off Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships
Ask lunaKM – Roleplay Scenarios, Unable to Kneel and Boost of Confidence

Ask lunaKM – Roleplay Scenarios, Unable to Kneel and Boost of Confidence

Dear lunaKM, My question involves role play, I was wondering if there are some scenarios that are available to give an individual some idea of how to start a scene. And or what kind of scene would be the easiest to get started with because I am a beginner and I usually go my instinct [...]

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything

How to Turn Your Submissive Experience Into Education for Your Dominant

Ways that a submissive can teach without worrying about “being Dominant” in order for the education to happen and also ways that a submissive could take on education and share that knowledge with their Dominant as a part of their service.

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships, Service
Developing Effective Communication in Long Distance Relationships

Developing Effective Communication in Long Distance Relationships

To say that communication is important in a relationship is like saying that man must breathe to live: one simply shouldn’t have to specify its importance. Yet somehow, although I have never heard of a person who died because he forgot how to breathe, I have seen many relationships fall apart due to a distinct [...]

4 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Online Submission
Single in the Scene Part V: The Truth about Singlehood

Single in the Scene Part V: The Truth about Singlehood

There’s a downright ugly side to it, especially when the slave has been ‘alone’ for a long period of time. That has been my situation. Whew… Breathe with me, for I’m about to share some things that people either don’t think really happens or are afraid to admit to happening …

4 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Mindset, Personal Growth, Relationships
Male submission – Financial Domination

Male submission – Financial Domination

There are several different types of Financial Domination, including dynamics which do not involve the dominant receiving any money whatsoever. This is often not understood when some people rail against Financial Domination as a legitimate kink.

24 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission, Relationships
Ask lunaKM – Protocol-Driven Leather Lifestyle, Adding Another Submissive and Starting a Submissive Journal

Ask lunaKM – Protocol-Driven Leather Lifestyle, Adding Another Submissive and Starting a Submissive Journal

Dear Luna, In response to your post “Influx of Bossy Newbies Killing Old School Traditions”, I wanted to ask: Where can I learn about the protocol-driven Leather Lifestyle? I’ve wanted to learn about it for some time. On FetLife I’ve seen other’s ask similar questions and each time they were answered with “Every relationship is [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
5 Simple Steps to Creating a Personal Submissive Mantra

5 Simple Steps to Creating a Personal Submissive Mantra

For a personal mantra to work, it has to be positive. It has to reaffirm your choices in life and establish a realistic goal you can accomplish or a life dream fulfilled.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Personal Growth
Becoming Comfortable with My Submissive Role

Becoming Comfortable with My Submissive Role

Submitting did not make my thoughts less valuable or inappropriate, it simply meant that I would have to learn to accept that the final decision lay with my partner, my Dom, not with me.

5 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Single in the Scene Part IV: Petitioning

Single in the Scene Part IV: Petitioning

Petitioning is an acknowledgment of structure and formality; it is definitely a humbling experience for a slave. It is also a way for a slave to solidly express their desires – no hemming and hawing, no beating around the bush, just a determined statement of the desire.

Rules for the Working Sub

Rules for the Working Sub

It was difficult to find any information about balancing my professional life with my submissive desires, so this article is dedicated to the people who, like me, wish to explore the D/s relationship dynamic and continue to work in the professional world.

3 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Single in the Scene Part III: The Slave Resume

Single in the Scene Part III: The Slave Resume

The slave resume is a snapshot of you – the services you thrive in, something you’d like to learn, S&M experiences/desires, interests, hobbies, in other words, you’re sharing the highlights of yourself that you desire to find a compatible match for.

3 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Personal Growth, Training Resume
How to Write a BDSM Scene Report

How to Write a BDSM Scene Report

The point of a scene report requested is to help you analyze your responses and emotions surrounding the play. So let’s figure out how to write a useful scene report.

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
[Video Post] Your Responsibilities As A Submissive Go Beyond ‘Obedience’

[Video Post] Your Responsibilities As A Submissive Go Beyond ‘Obedience’

If all we have for responsibility is to be obedient then we are getting the easy job. And that’s just not the way I see submission. There is no power exchange if you just have to obey commands.

18 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Video Posts
Coming to an Understanding – I am a Slave

Coming to an Understanding – I am a Slave

Sometimes, I do feel weak for having these moments, but I have to realize that after all, I’m still human and have all those wonderful human emotions and thought processes to deal with.

12 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics

Dealing with Stress in a D/s Relationship

My Sir is dealing with a lot of stress right now, and as a result he seems to be less interested in dominating me. As a result I am questioning my submissiveness. As a submissiveness, should I be accepting this change in him as part of my submitting to him and his needs?

7 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
Male Submission – Foot Fetish

Male Submission – Foot Fetish

A foot fetish is not necessarily related to submission, although for many guys the two combine well and there are a whole lot of varieties of activities and preferences for guys with a foot fetish.

11 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission, Play and Sex
Single in the Scene Part II: Service

Single in the Scene Part II: Service

As we apply the term service to hierarchical relationships, it’s really simple: what the Owner requires or needs. Those things that make the Owner’s life easier, more comfortable, and more joyous (at the very least).

2 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Personal Growth, Service

Can Trust Be Repaired When He’s Caught Cheating?

I have forgiven him, but now I am having a hard time trusting him. I don’t feel that our relationship is Safe, Sane or Consensual anymore. My question to you is….can this relationship be salvaged once the trust has been broken, especially so early in the relationship?

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
What Everyone Ought to Know About Finding and Managing Limits

What Everyone Ought to Know About Finding and Managing Limits

When you are brand new to anything related to BDSM it is likely that you will not know many of your limits and that’s okay. Make sure you are prepared to share that information if you want to play, but also to stop as soon as you think you’ve reached a limit.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Play and Sex
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