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Submissive Journals: Bullet/Analogue Journal Review

Submissive Journals: Bullet/Analogue Journal Review

Developed by Ryder Carroll, the idea of analog/bullet journaling is kind of elegant in its simplicity. You have one notebook. Everything goes in that notebook. So what can you put in it that’s related to submission?

2 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Ask the Readers – In Poly, do all partners have other partners?

Ask the Readers – In Poly, do all partners have other partners?

I am looking for opinions on whether or not poly means both sides of the slash should be able to have other partners.

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
Review: Black Titanium Wrist Cuff by Eternity Collars

Review: Black Titanium Wrist Cuff by Eternity Collars

A critical review of Eternity Collars’ Black Titanium Wrist Cuff.

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Reviews
What Would YOU Change To Make Submissive Guide Better?

What Would YOU Change To Make Submissive Guide Better?

The survey is totally anonymous, and you can fill it out right here on the blog.

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
What Do You Mean When You Say Communicate? I am Communicating!

What Do You Mean When You Say Communicate? I am Communicating!

Communicate. Communicate. Communicate. People in the D/s and BDSM lifestyles love to say this word. We emphasize that it’s the cornerstone of the relationship, that it is the key to a successful relationship and that negotiation, a form of communication, needs to be done on a regular basis depending on the situation and relationship type. [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Thoughts on Isolation and Feeling Alone

Thoughts on Isolation and Feeling Alone

This is a guest post by kaya from Underhishand.com. I live a fairly isolated lifestyle. I suppose in comparison to some people, you could say that I live an extremely isolated life. It’s not unusual for me to go days on end without ever leaving the house. I don’t answer the door, I don’t answer [...]

6 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Personal Growth
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I Am Submissive–Hear Me Roar!

I went to a local kink event and as an icebreaker the host asked everyone to say what kind of animal they relate to.  When I said I relate to a lioness, I got a ton of strange looks.  I suppose it makes sense.  As a submissive, it might not seem like I’d relate to [...]

1 comment Posted by pinksubgeek | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Struggling in Submission: Introspection on the Fight to Improve Yourself

Struggling in Submission: Introspection on the Fight to Improve Yourself

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 6/15/13 The most asked question from experienced submissives in the past few months has to do with struggle internally with your own submission, with your resistance to discipline and overall disagreement in a relationship.  It is of course, a natural progression of behavior adjustment and of introspection.  We all know [...]

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Single In The Scene Part VI: Vulnerability

I’m of the opinion that there are many slaves who are unowned for one reason: fear of being vulnerable. The way relationships tend to flow in the vanilla world vulnerability isn’t a necessity to maintain the relationship. Usually most are not surrendering to their partners and both tend to rest assured that they are equals [...]

1 comment Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Mindset, Personal Growth, Relationships, Service
Ask lunaKM – Consideration Periods, Apologetic Sympathy and Sub in the Bedroom – Equal in Everything Else

Ask lunaKM – Consideration Periods, Apologetic Sympathy and Sub in the Bedroom – Equal in Everything Else

Hi lunaKM, I’m semi new to m/s relationships and my new dom and i have been together for a month now. I wanted to know how long does a consideration period last, and should I wait for him to bring up being collared? We agreed to take it slow but we are still very much [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Expressing Your Submission (with hair!)

Expressing Your Submission (with hair!)

I’ve read a half-dozen articles on scattered around the scene that talk about all sorts of methods for keeping your body clean, for dressing to inspire confidence—or tactics to boost confidence without wearing anything at all; I’ve seen articles detailing in methods of hair removal, of after-hair-removal-care, but somehow in the jumble of cyberspace, I [...]

6 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics

How to Turn Your Submissive Experience Into Education for Your Dominant

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 6/1/13 We don’t often think about the submissive having anything to teach the Dominant, and in many cases a Dominant is teaching the submissive. There’s nothing wrong with that, but when the submissive has more experience or learning in an area it does make it easier if the Dominant is [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships, Service
Ask lunaKM – Compatibility, Safewords when Deaf and Power Play Preferences

Ask lunaKM – Compatibility, Safewords when Deaf and Power Play Preferences

Dear lunaKM, I’m a complete newbie when it comes to the D/s world. January of this year I met my very first Dominant online. He was sweet and attentive yet firm. We live in two different states but I had decided to move to His town to be closer to Him. I did everything in [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Male submission – Financial Domination

Male submission – Financial Domination

Financial Domination is an area of BDSM which often elicits strong opinions. With other BDSM activities such as spanking and bondage, at some point after the Safe, Sane, and Consensual scene is over there is no damage done and things are typically physically back to the way they were. However, if a sub’s money is [...]

24 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission, Relationships
Becoming Comfortable with My Submissive Role

Becoming Comfortable with My Submissive Role

Although many submissive individuals would say that they were born submissive personalities, there are some who found themselves surprised by how much they enjoyed being the submissive partner in their relationships. By nature, I am not a submissive person. I was taught from a very early age to have my own opinions and to assert [...]

5 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics
What Influences Your Submission?

What Influences Your Submission?

The other day, I found myself wondering who and what influences me with the decisions I make. The reason why I found myself pondering this is because I had begun to doubt myself and everything I believed and how I lived my life because of something someone had said about me. This person who had [...]

3 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Community, Personal Growth
Little Known Ways We Experience Sub Space

Little Known Ways We Experience Sub Space

I admit that I used to whisper tales of sub space and the other blissful states that I’ve been in as if they were magical golden hours of submission.  I actually believed long ago that sub space is what made me a “real” submissive. Trust me, that bubble didn’t last long. Once it was popped [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Is The Influx of Bossy Newbies Killing Old School Traditions?

Is The Influx of Bossy Newbies Killing Old School Traditions?

My question is not so much specifically for a submissive, to be honest, i don’t know where to go about this. But after all i have read from you, Luna, i respect your opinions & views & thought you would be best to ask. I have noticed that in the last few years, so many [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Community
This is Not a Game – BDSM is My Life

This is Not a Game – BDSM is My Life

I am a tumblr whore. There’s no other way to describe it. I spend way too much time on there looking for pictures. Most of the pictures I re-blog and most of those who I follow post lifestyle related pictures. I am very particular about the pictures that I re-blog. The pictures that I post [...]

1 comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Community
The Ring and the Collar: A Personal Opinion on the Symbolism of a Collar

The Ring and the Collar: A Personal Opinion on the Symbolism of a Collar

I am a product of the 80’s, which I think is the greatest decade, ever. I may be a bit partial with my thinking. The music, television, and especially the movies is what makes the 80’s such a memorable decade. One of my favorite movies from that era is “The Princess Bride”. To me, that’s [...]

8 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Relationships
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