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New to D/s Relationships? Here’s Your Foolproof Guide to Starting Out – Part 2

In part 2, you’ll learn how to figure out what you need in a D/s relationship and what is expected of you within the blossoming relationship. It’s all about what you want and need and getting as much of that as possible. Live happy. Don’t settle.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
New to D/s Relationships? Here’s Your Foolproof Guide to Starting Out – Part 1

New to D/s Relationships? Here’s Your Foolproof Guide to Starting Out – Part 1

What makes a D/s relationship so different from mainstream relationships? Learn the key differences, how you can apply what you learn to your own relationships and watch it develop into your most fulfilling relationship possible.

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
Must I Always Wait for My Dominant to Tell me What to Do?

Must I Always Wait for My Dominant to Tell me What to Do?

You aren’t a doormat. As a submissive, you can have autonomy and an active submission you can be proud of. So, must you always wait for orders? You tell me.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
Help! My Dominant Says and Does Things I Didn’t Agree To

Help! My Dominant Says and Does Things I Didn’t Agree To

My Dominant is constantly changing the rules of the relationship and I don’t agree with them. I love him and don’t want to give him up but I am starting to question if he ever really loved me at all?

1 comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything
31 Days of Submissive Journaling – Day 3: What is a Submissive Journal?

31 Days of Submissive Journaling – Day 3: What is a Submissive Journal?

A journal is the most common way to write and ponder your inner workings and mind. Diaries have existed since the dawn of pen and paper and they will likely never go out of style. Often these are more private than what can be said of online journals.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: 31 Days of Submissive Journaling, Beginner Basics, Personal Growth
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When Needs Change: How Communication Worked When My Partner Didn’t Want to Be Dominant Anymore

Through open communication and the ability to listen to one another, we were able to come to a conclusion that met both of our needs.

1 comment Posted by andyiccee | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships
Talking Even When Words Are Hard: Opening the Lines of Communication With Your Dominant

Talking Even When Words Are Hard: Opening the Lines of Communication With Your Dominant

Your partner cannot read your mind. If you are not practicing open communication, then they cannot know what is bothering you, even if they know you very well.

Comments Off Posted by andyiccee | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships
How to Ask for More BDSM Playtime

How to Ask for More BDSM Playtime

Once you open up to allowing yourself to ask for what you want you will find so many more doors open for you.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
How Do I Know If I Can I Make it In This Lifestyle?

How Do I Know If I Can I Make it In This Lifestyle?

Please help because we have a one of a kind love for each other that I don’t want to lose but the constant power struggle between us is exhausting. I want to come to a compromise that we’re both happy with.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Beginner Basics
Why I Could Never Return to a Vanilla Relationship

Why I Could Never Return to a Vanilla Relationship

We are the sum of our experiences, after all, and if I hadn’t learned these lessons I don’t think I’d be where I am today.

7 comments Posted by pinksubgeek | Posted in: Beginner Basics
4 Things You Should Not Put Up With Just Because He’s a Dominant

4 Things You Should Not Put Up With Just Because He’s a Dominant

Please consider the following situations as a wake up call if you are in a relationship where you’re feeling used or disrespected. Being a Dominant does not give them an automatic “be a dick” card.

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Male Submission – Fantasy vs Reality

Male Submission – Fantasy vs Reality

Many submissive men have fantasies which have been developed over many years, sometimes leading to a focus on extreme and/or specific situations despite not having experienced anything. This may lead to misunderstandings with potential partners between fantasies and actual desires as the sub man may not even be able to recognize the difference at first.

25 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission

Living M/s Book Club Wrap-Up Participation Showcase

Today I wanted to take some time and showcase all of the favorite quotes, some of the key thoughts and comments on the book from this event. Thank you, everyone, for participating!

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Roundtable Discussions
Tearing Down the Green-Eyed Monster – Handling Jealousy

Tearing Down the Green-Eyed Monster – Handling Jealousy

Most confuse jealousy and envy. I know I’ve been bitten a few times by jealousy but thankfully I worked through them and realized that there was nothing to worry about. I’ve conquered jealousy and you can too. Today we’ll talk about what jealousy is, compare it to envy and then figure out some tips on combating jealousy.

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Personal Growth
How Do We Add D/s To The Bedroom?

How Do We Add D/s To The Bedroom?

This being our situation, how do I get him to take more control, be more imaginative, be more dom like so that I can be more accepting of him instead of trying to teach him while we play?

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Developing Trust  in Your Dominant and The Proper Use of a Safe Word

Developing Trust in Your Dominant and The Proper Use of a Safe Word

It is important to develop a safe word system with your Dominant. There are many reasons why this is such a very good idea.

9 comments Posted by LadySneak | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Play and Sex
Fantastic Submissive Videos for Learning and Growth on Kink Academy

Fantastic Submissive Videos for Learning and Growth on Kink Academy

If you can’t get out to munches in your community or conventions held around the world the next best thing is a website focused on kink education. I have nothing but praise for Kink Academy and the quality educators and topics that they cover on Kink Academy.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
The Secret of Communicating When You Are Shy

The Secret of Communicating When You Are Shy

Open communication is complicated by shyness. Addressing that shyness could help you open up to your partner and others instead of the social discomfort you constantly feel. You can get over being shy and start living your life free from social awkwardness.

How to Talk to Your Dominant About Your Needs and Desires While Submissive

How to Talk to Your Dominant About Your Needs and Desires While Submissive

The more you hold in, the less you are really getting in your submission that you could potentially be enjoying. Open your mouth and speak up. Make your live how you’d like it. Stop dreaming of talking to your Dominant and start doing it.

44 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships

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