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Feeling Like a Parrot: Saying What He Wants to Hear Instead of a Sincere Response

Feeling Like a Parrot: Saying What He Wants to Hear Instead of a Sincere Response

Dear Submissive Guide I hit the jackpot with my first (and quite likely only) Dom. He is kind and considerate and well, treats me like a queen. He makes being submissive to him so wonderful. But, in the rare times, we don’t see eye to eye and he tells me what he wants, he will [...]

1 comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything
Even in Lessons There Are More Lessons: How Being Punished Has More To Teach Than You Realize

Even in Lessons There Are More Lessons: How Being Punished Has More To Teach Than You Realize

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 6/6/15 Often when I come to write here, it’s because I’ve had a lightbulb moment and I feel the desire to share what I’ve discovered, realized or figured out. Still other times it’s because I’ve learned a lesson and want to do my best to help you avoid it, or [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive
An Overview of 1950′s Head of Household Style Power Exchange

An Overview of 1950′s Head of Household Style Power Exchange

In 2014, a local kink community member contacted me to say she had heard about an author compiling essays regarding different styles of the M/s dynamic, suggesting I respond regarding our 1950′s relationship. I did, and what I discovered in the correspondence about the project was surprising. The author had told me that when setting out to [...]

2 comments Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships
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M/s and When Life Happens: Unexpected Happenings

Over the past few months, my life has been a whirlwind of obligations, setbacks, injuries, working with an aging parent, and apparently an abundance of emails… ‘Life happened’ all over my perfectly scheduled routine and pristinely managed emotions. In the vanilla world ‘life’ is expected to happen – meaning, we expect the unexpected because that’s [...]

2 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Mindset, Personal Growth, Relationships, Service
A Simple Act of Submission Isn’t Always So Simple

A Simple Act of Submission Isn’t Always So Simple

It was like any other morning. Daddy and I had finished eating breakfast and both of us were getting ready to start our day. Daddy was using the bathroom and I was wandering around the apartment, forcing myself to change out of my comfy pajamas and into regular clothes for class. While I’m changing, there’s [...]

7 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Always Getting in Trouble – Submissive Meditation Monday

Always Getting in Trouble – Submissive Meditation Monday

I’m devoting this Monday to meditation, reflection and devotion to submission. I hope to select topics that will get you thinking differently about some part of your life or submission and then just maybe grow a little bit further. If you have ideas for topics that might work for a Meditation Monday, please email me. “I am [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Mindset
Empowerment, Not Exploitation: Women Activists are Wrong About the Kink Community

Empowerment, Not Exploitation: Women Activists are Wrong About the Kink Community

I am a submissive.  I have never felt exploited in any way.  In fact, I feel empowered.  I feel empowered in a way I have never felt before. It angers me to read that in light of the theatrical release of Fifty Shades of Grey, women activists believe that the kink community exploits women. That [...]

1 comment Posted by pinksubgeek | Posted in: Personal Growth
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Reactive and Proactive Service: What’s the Difference?

In the other article, I wrote about the differences between micromanaging and macromanaging and now I’m going to cover the differences between reactive service and proactive service. This was a little harder to do because most of what I could find online was comparing reactive service to anticipatory service, which is similar to proactive service, [...]

4 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Mindset, Personal Growth, Service
Obedience: A Slavey Meditation

Obedience: A Slavey Meditation

Recently I heard something in the midst of a talk about obedience that just made me stop and really think for a moment – and I mean deep thought too! Delayed obedience becomes immediate disobedience; partial obedience is complete disobedience. Yes, my mind had to reflect on the matter of obedience. Honestly, I can’t say [...]

2 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Personal Growth
Accepting Fear through Obedience

Accepting Fear through Obedience

This is a guest post by kaya of Underhishand.com. For Master. When I used to say “Oh I want someone who can push me.. who doesn’t stop when I say stop.. who does what they want and aren’t guided by MY reactions”, I can honestly say that I never believed such a person existed. I [...]

6 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships
Ask lunaKM – Final Tests of Submission, BBWs in Kink and Dominant Titles

Ask lunaKM – Final Tests of Submission, BBWs in Kink and Dominant Titles

Dear lunaKM, I recently met a Dom online and corresponded with him for over a month. He made it clear from the beginning what his ‘rules’ were and I agreed to them in principle though I also requested some limits of my own as this was to be my first Master/slave relationship. During the months [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Why Would Any Submissive Want to be Micromanaged?

Why Would Any Submissive Want to be Micromanaged?

from The Submissive Guide Newsletter 2/16/13 When fantasies abound about slavery they often go something like this: The slave is always nude, chained or caged waiting for the Master to decide what to do with them. They make no decisions themselves, the Master declares that he will tell them when to eat, sleep and piss. [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
[Video Post] Your Responsibilities As A Submissive Go Beyond ‘Obedience’

[Video Post] Your Responsibilities As A Submissive Go Beyond ‘Obedience’

I read a forum thread the other day that rubbed me the wrong way. So I thought I’d talk about it and share my opinion on the subject. I would love to hear how you would answer this same question. The topic was asking what a submissive’s/slave’s responsibilities were in a relationship. Out of the [...]

18 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Video Posts

Ask lunaKM – Dealing with Stress in a D/s Relationship

Today’s question is about handling when the D/s is shelved due to external (or internal) stress. Hi Luna, I wanted to ask you about when a relationship is going through a rough patch, and neither partner can seem to find it within them to fulfill their previous D/s roles. My Sir is dealing with a [...]

7 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
To Have Children Or Not, Now THAT is a Question

To Have Children Or Not, Now THAT is a Question

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 9/22/12 Disclaimer: I do not have children nor are they in my future. The post below discusses the issue of deciding to have children for a variety of reasons besides a natural progression of wanting them, having a partner that wants them and then working towards that end. When KnyghtMare [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
Submissive Advent – Day 4: Rewards for Service

Submissive Advent – Day 4: Rewards for Service

Today is day 4 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can go back to that now, or rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also read the introduction post. Being rewarded for our submission often feeds our pleasure center once in a while but it’s not required. We all know this [...]

13 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Advent Calendar
Conquer Me Book Club – Week 1

Conquer Me Book Club – Week 1

Hi everyone! I hope that you have had time to read the first section of the book club book, “Conquer Me” by Kacie Cunningham. If you want to read the book at a later time, I suggest you skip this book club series – as I can’t promise their won’t be “spoilers.” Then again, this [...]

31 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Roundtable Discussions

Research Page: Domestic Discipline

One of the easier topics for me to research has been Domestic Discipline. There is so much information out there of all types on this sort of relationship. Much of it is terrible. I’ve weeded through a lot of misunderstandings to get to the truth. Here’s what I’ve learned. Domestic Discipline is the practice between [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships, Research Pages
Is It Possible to Live as a Slave 24/7?

Is It Possible to Live as a Slave 24/7?

This post is written by Rick’s Fucktoy. It was first posted on Sensual Service, which I closed when I opened Submissive Guide. 24/7. All day, every day. Is it possible to live any lifestyle to that degree? More to the point, is it possible to live *this* lifestyle that I’ve chosen for myself on a 24/7 [...]

19 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships
You’ve Been a Bad Submissive: Learn How to Atone and Forgive Yourself

You’ve Been a Bad Submissive: Learn How to Atone and Forgive Yourself

I can’t say that everyone gets into trouble without admitting that I get into trouble so here goes. I get into trouble. Not regularly or habitually, but sometimes. I’m in trouble right now in fact. Some of my punishment completed but I have a few weeks of “no pop” to get through yet.  As a [...]

8 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Mindset
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