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How to Tell When That Online Training Dom is a Wolf In Sheep’s Clothing

How to Tell When That Online Training Dom is a Wolf In Sheep’s Clothing

While it’s a small few, there are people who can threaten your sense of trust and your own emotions. These are the wolves of the online D/s world.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
I’m New to BDSM, Where Do I Find Information?

I’m New to BDSM, Where Do I Find Information?

Knowing where to start can be difficult when you don’t know a whole lot about BDSM.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, BDSM Fundamentals
It’s Okay to be New – Exploring and Learning as a Novice Submissive

It’s Okay to be New – Exploring and Learning as a Novice Submissive

When you visit this site, I don’t expect you to have all the information you need to make educated responses, or to know what to do first, second and next. It’s a process.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive

Where To Go to Find a Kinky or D/s Partner: The Big List

When you are ready for dating you might start with this list of places. I’ll do my best to list as many places as I can but I’m not currently dating so I may be rusty. I also can’t guarantee that these sites will work for you, but if you don’t try then you’ll never know.

13 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships

The Top 3 Books I Recommend to Everyone New to BDSM

I’ve taken some of the guesswork out of it for you by providing you the top 3 books I recommend to everyone new to BDSM. The only thing you have to do is figure out which one you want to buy first!

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Reviews
Ask lunaKM – Forced to Lose Weight, Snarky Submissives and Looking for Community

Ask lunaKM – Forced to Lose Weight, Snarky Submissives and Looking for Community

Dear lunaKM, I have been with my Master for a number of months. Most of the time our relationship is great and we have a very strong bond. My only problem is that he seems to have a fixation with my weight. When I first met him he asked me to lose a few pounds. [...]

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Take the Bite Out of Submitting to Pain – Sadomasochism Is Not a Part of Submission

Take the Bite Out of Submitting to Pain – Sadomasochism Is Not a Part of Submission

You do not have to like pain or be a masochist to be submissive. That’s it. That piece of news right there leads to one of the largest reasons so many of you are confused.

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics

Find a Munch at FindaMunch.com!

Are you looking for kink friends and fun close to you? Have you heard about munches, but don’t know what they are, much less where to look? Are you traveling or relocating and not sure about the community at your destination? Or, are you already involved, and you want your local organization to grow?

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Views & More...
Is The Influx of Bossy Newbies Killing Old School Traditions?

Is The Influx of Bossy Newbies Killing Old School Traditions?

What can i say to those who snub their noses at the old school ways of BDSM to maybe make them see how damaging what they are doing is? Or even possibly help to change their attitudes?

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Community
This is Not a Game – BDSM is My Life

This is Not a Game – BDSM is My Life

I feel that there are so many who come into the lifestyle and do not realize what being a slave or submissive really entails. They come into the lifestyle having a certain expectation, a certain fantasy, but once they really get their feet wet, they realize it’s nothing that they expected.

1 comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Community
Your Responsibilities in Play – In and Out of a Relationship

Your Responsibilities in Play – In and Out of a Relationship

The responsibility of a submissive doesn’t disappear at any time. You need to look out for yourself and learn to communicate effectively with those you wish to play with, whether it’s the first or 500th time you’ve done so.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Play and Sex
How to Safely Manage Sub Frenzy

How to Safely Manage Sub Frenzy

How to manage sub frenzy so that it leaves you smarter, stronger and more prepared to handle the rush.

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Why You Should Know the Truth About Topping from the Bottom

Why You Should Know the Truth About Topping from the Bottom

Ask one hundred submissives why they consider topping from the bottom as bad and they will likely come up with something relating to “forcing the Dominant’s hand.” They’d be right. The real, honest to goodness, truth is that forcing the Dominant’s hand is the only way you can bottom-top. How you do that is situational, different for different people or different reasons and you really can’t list the exact ways that it comes about.

7 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics

What is a Collar? What Does it Mean to be Collared?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. A common question with novices is what is being collared, what does it mean? Is it like a wedding ring or something more? Something different altogether? First, some basic [...]

22 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary
How Do I Know What I Like? I’m Brand New

How Do I Know What I Like? I’m Brand New

We more experienced people do have a habit of looking at new people funny when they don’t know what they are into. I think we forget that we were there once, that we floundered and stuttered when asked if we liked bondage or spanking, or if we were a Dominant or submissive. So, hopefully, we’ll learn from this little article too – that we were there once.

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
Book Review: Playing Well with Others

Book Review: Playing Well with Others

This book by Lee Harrington and Mollena Williams is the quintessential guide for novices and seasoned players ready to enter the BDSM community. No other book like this exists so it’s a great addition to your personal kink library.

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Reviews
Rule #1 – Don’t Touch Anything Without Permission

Rule #1 – Don’t Touch Anything Without Permission

You’ll meet white collar, blue collar and poverty stricken people in the same room enjoying conversation with each other. But a select few people haven’t learned about spatial boundaries or that the number one rule in groups across the country and perhaps the world is that you don’t touch anyone or anything without permission.

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Community
Why BDSM and Sex are Not Always Connected

Why BDSM and Sex are Not Always Connected

Sure it may turn you on, but you still get to decide how far you go to care for that. After all, BDSM is about exchanging sensations and exploring your body’s responses to stimulus. It is not always sex.

17 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex, Sex and Sexuality
The Secret to Better Submission Every Day

The Secret to Better Submission Every Day

I’ve compiled a few things that I’ve learned that make the way I submit more fulfilling and improved at every turn of the clock. Take what you can from these and make them work for you.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Personal Growth
Active Submission Means Always Improving Yourself

Active Submission Means Always Improving Yourself

Being effective in submission should make you happy in your life. Far too many times I see novices and experienced submissives floundering and wondering how to make their Owner happy without a thought to how to make themselves happy too.

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Personal Growth
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