By lunaKM on August 25, 2010
Q: I am a relatively new submissive. I have had two previous D/s relationships. One was ended suddenly – just a week or so after being given a collar, he suddenly disappeared from my life with no explanation. I have since realised that the collar came without any understandings or pre-requisites should have been a [...]
Posted in Novice Q & A | Tagged expectations, learning, needs, novice, questions, safe words, SehAnru, trust, wants |
By lunaKM on June 23, 2010
Each month I answer questions asked by readers like you. Come see what I’ve answered this month. Q: I’m quite new to the idea of being a submissive, but after a lot of research and buying a lot of books, I feel that I am ready to explore a bit more. I met an online [...]
Posted in Novice Q & A | Tagged amazon.com, commitment, D/s relationship, Dominance, information, needs, novice, questions, submission, understanding, wants |
By lunaKM on May 26, 2010
Every month I ask for your anonymous questions and pleas for advice. Here are the few I got this month. First one is about introducing D/s into an existing relationship. I also cover 2 dominant relationship, just starting out and writing a letter of intent. How do I introduce my husband to the D/s or [...]
Posted in Novice Q & A | Tagged advice, expectations, experience, information, marriage, needs, negotiation, negotiations, novice, poly, questions, serving, training, Training Resume, two dominants, understanding |
By lunaKM on May 24, 2010
Being that I’m a reader of Jack Rinella via his weekly column that he sent out via a mailing list and I enjoy his essays on his website I was looking forward to reading one of his books. The book I chose to start with is The Compleat Slave – Creating and Living an Erotic [...]
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By lunaKM on May 3, 2010
This is a response to the following request for advice: I have a Dom, and He loves me. But the things is, sometimes he act as my “boyfriend” then he acts as my Master. I am having trouble dealing with the fact that he wants that Master and sub relationship as my utmost and foremost [...]
Posted in Relationships | Tagged advice, blind faith, challenges, defining roles, learning, novice, power exchange, questions, understanding |
By lunaKM on April 28, 2010
This month I have a few new questions for you! As always, if you have questions you’d like answered then shoot me an email and I’ll do my best to help you out! If you find that you have another piece of advice to give that I may have overlooked please leave a comment. Your [...]
Posted in Novice Q & A | Tagged advice, learning, novice, pain threshold, play, questions, safewords |
By lunaKM on April 2, 2010
Not long ago I had someone ask me privately why I feel the need to help submissives with this website, and what qualifications I have to tell people how to improve themselves. And it’s true that I don’t have any life coaching training or experience with counseling, but for what I do here only one [...]
Posted in Service | Tagged experience, information, novice, perfection, understanding |
By lunaKM on March 26, 2010
from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 9-12-09 Throughout the process of learning about yourself and BDSM you hear talk of checklists. You can find yourself obsessing over what terms are in the complex checklist you found on www.onewaytodobdsm.com. I’ve even written about it several times on SubmissiveGuide.com. So What’s the Big Deal Anyway? For a novice [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged basics, bdsm checklist, checklists, fetishes, negotiation, novice, play |
By lunaKM on March 15, 2010
Another question from March Question Month comes from Coco: I am curious about what your thoughts on those who admit to participating underage is? I have been referred to as “vanilla” for being uncomfortable with those who identify/have identified as submissives and slaves at/from a very young age. I can understand experimenting at a young [...]
Posted in Social Norms, Submission | Tagged childhood, experimentation, information, novice, question month, teenagers in BDSM, underage |
By lunaKM on January 5, 2010
A year ago I started a small blog project called Submissive Guide. I wanted it to be an organized place where I could voice my opinions about submission, help novices discover who they are and explore BDSM through the written word. Since that time it has grown to so much more, including an e-book, a [...]
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By lunaKM on November 27, 2009
The Submissive Guide Newsletter is your personal direct channel to what’s on my mind. It’s delivered every 2 weeks right to your inbox for you to read at your own leisure. You are missing out if you haven’t signed up. I’ve got so much more to tell you; and I’m doing it with the newsletter. [...]
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Have you got a post that would work well on Submissive Guide? If so – Submissive Guide is currently looking for guest authors whether they be one off or regular contributors. Please include in your submission the title of the post you’d like to write and a brief (2-3 sentences) description of what it would [...]
By lunaKM on September 30, 2009
Last week I asked you to share some advice that you live by or love passing on to novices because it worked so well for you. Here’s the submissions I got. There is some excellent advice here folks! Check it out. Make sure you leave comments! Participants, repost the link list within a week and [...]
Posted in SubWise | Tagged advice, blogs, carnival, journey, love, novice, novices, rt, share, submission, submission carnival, submissions, submissive, SubWise |
By lunaKM on September 25, 2009
So, you’ve met submissives and slaves online, their Dominant and Master counterparts but as you get to know them and how they interact you start to see the things they do blurring the lines of what you had believed a submissive was, or that a slave wasn’t supposed to act this way, etc. It brings [...]
Posted in Social Norms, Submission | Tagged comfort, definitions, Dom, dominant, help, labels, learning, lifestyle, munch, novice, novices, online, rt, slave, submission, submissive |
By lunaKM on September 23, 2009
Submission during play can be overwhelming. How do you understand what you might like? What about the buzz words of subspace and sub drop? One of Submissive Guide’s goals is to help novice submissives understand BDSM and their place in it. To help you begin your exploration I’ve put together a list of the posts [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged aftercare, BDSM, bdsm checklist, bdsm play, checklist, comfort, cons, consensual, D/s, development, Dom, dominant, dominants, help, journey, novice, online, play, Playtime, questions, RACK, relationship, Relationships, risk, risk aware, rt, safe, safewords, sane, scene, share, single, SSC, sub drop, sub frenzy, sub space, submission, submissive, subspace, toy, toybag, trust |
By lunaKM on September 22, 2009
This is the second SubWise! You know what to do by now. I’m going to give you a topic to write about and your task goes like this: Write about the topic in your blog or online journal. You don’t have to have a blog to participate. If you have a FetLife account you can [...]
Posted in SubWise | Tagged advice, carnival, email, fetlife, friends, help, novice, online, online journal, readers response, rt, submission, submission carnival, submissions, SubWise, writing |
By lunaKM on September 21, 2009
I’ve always believed that safewords are only good if you know how to use them. Good ole communication is great for things like numb limbs, an itch you can’t reach or a bathroom break. Submissive Guide is here for novices and it’s always good to teach about safewords and recommend that you have one. In [...]
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By lunaKM on September 12, 2009
Submissive Guide now has a bi-weekly newsletter that can help you improve submission and explore BDSM, just like the website. Why subscribe to the newsletter? Unique, quality content delivered directly to your email! Essays and tips not available on the website! Each newsletter is on a different topic, and you drive the suggestions for topics! [...]
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Would you like to get a topical newsletter sent directly to your email on a regular basis? Submissive Guide now has a monthly newsletter that can help you improve submission and explore BDSM, just like the website. Why subscribe to the newsletter? Unique, quality content delivered directly to your email! Essays and tips not available [...]
Here at Submissive Guide I try to provide a lot of information for free so that you can learn and grow at your own pace. The products I provide here are quality ebooks and reports on specific topics that have importance to a novice and experienced submissive alike. Newsletter As of September 2009, I started [...]
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