By Guest Author on January 8, 2010
This is a guest post by bgtreasure for the BDSM Play Feature Series here on Submissive Guide. I choose this topic to write about because it is my favorite form of play and has been since I’ve found this wonderful thing we call “The Lifestyle”. The general definition of Impact Play that you will find [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged BDSM, bdsm lifestyle, bdsm play, bdsm play feature, bgtreasure, connection, cons, edge play, event, experience, favorite, feature series, fetlife, fists, floggers, focus, guest post, hands, help, Impact, impact play, lifestyle, love, munch, normal, owned, paddles, play, positions, relationship, rt, series, share, spanking, stress, submissive, subspace, wants, whips |
By lunaKM on November 13, 2009
With Thanksgiving (USA) just around the corner I thought it would be fitting to write about gratitude, and how to express your gratitude to the one you serve. Sure you can say thank you. That’s standard. I really hope you take every opportunity to say thank you, but what if you want a few more [...]
Posted in Relationships, Rituals and Routines | Tagged bath, being thankful, development, Dom, Dominance, dominant, dynamic, focus, gratitude, happiness, help, kneeling, love, normal, online, play, relationship, Relationships, requests, ritual, rituals, rt, rules, Service, setting the table, sex, share, showing appreciation, skills, stress, submission, thanksgiving |
By lunaKM on October 21, 2009
Protocol. It can be a scary word if you are new to submission. In a relationship, it is likely that you will have some protocol established to control your behavior. So, what is protocol? Simply defined, protocol is the set of special rules that you follow for defined situations that remind you of your place [...]
Posted in Rituals and Routines | Tagged BDSM, bdsm fiction, book, books, communication, cons, control, Dom, dominant, essays, etiquette, event, experience, fantasy, focus, happiness, help, learned, leather, lifestyle, m/s, meditation, Mindset, normal, online, play, progress, protocol, RACK, relationship, review, ritual, routine, rt, rules, scene, sensuous, sex, stress, submission |
By lunaKM on October 12, 2009
I love surfing the submissive blogs to see what other people are talking about. Many times it gives me something to talk about here on this site. This post is one such example. Over on Underhishand.com, kaya asked about submission and what qualifies it as submission. She asked if you are not expected to do [...]
Posted in Submission | Tagged activities, blogs, changing, competition, cons, discussion, Dom, dominant, limits, love, needs, normal, opinion, preference, preferences, RACK, relationship, routine, rt, submission, submissive, submissive blogs, washing dishes, what is submissive |
By lunaKM on September 24, 2009
<~luna[KM]> Now I’d like to hear from everyone… have you experienced subspace? If you don’t know if you have, it’s okay. <selene1123> i’m pretty new…so i think i have but am not sure <slavelauren> i have <radiogirl> I most definitely have <pet_rain> i’m not sure i think i would like a clear definition i’v heard [...]
Posted in Views & More... | Tagged 24/7, aftercare, balance, bath, chat, chat night, comfort, communication, connection, cons, definitions, Dom, Dominance, dress, email, emotional state, emotions, endorphins, experience, focus, happiness, healing, help, limits, love, munch, normal, play, PMS, relationship, Relationships, ritual, rt, safe, safewords, scene, separation, serving, share, shower, slave, sorry, spirit, spiritual, stress, Study, sub drop, sub space, submissive chat, subspace, tall, transcript, writing |
By lunaKM on August 8, 2009
This week’s video post is on First Meetings Safety. When you are ready to meet your dream Dominant for the first time, what goes through your mind? Do you think about safety at all or do the nervousness and excitment overload your common sense? You may not think that safety is necessary for someone you’ve [...]
Posted in Safety, Video Posts | Tagged blind date, choice, choices, comfort, common sense, D/s, danger, dates, dating, Dom, dominant, dominants, dress, first meetings, information, munch, nervousness, normal, online, personal safety, play, questions, relationship, rt, safe, safe call, Safety, security, short, value, wants |
By lunaKM on August 5, 2009
I’m personally not a very domestic person. When I do find the desire to clean it’s normally to relieve stress (believe it or not). It can help calm my nerves and give my mind something else to do while working on the house. Since I’ve become Master’s stay at home submissive I find I need [...]
Posted in Domestics | Tagged balance, basics, blogs, clean, cleaning, danae, Dom, Domestic Servitude, Domestics, dominant, fantasy, help, internet, learned, learning, links, love, normal, rt, Service, share, single, skills, stress, submission, submissive, tips, washing dishes |
By lunaKM on June 23, 2009
This may seem like a really odd topic to be posting in a submissive blog, but there is reason. I’ve had a question recently from a submissive woman who has been asked on occasion to be assertive and dominant in bed by her Dominant. She says she can’t connect with that because she is submissive [...]
Posted in Sex and Sexuality | Tagged assertive in bed, celebration, control, Dom, Dominance, dominant, female, help, love, Mindset, normal, play, role play, roles, rt, serving, sex, sexual dominance, standing, submission, submissive, switching roles, take control of sex, toy |
By lunaKM on June 13, 2009
This video post is about how to deal with a submissive bout of PMS. It’s not your normal run of the mill PMS. You don’t have cramps or bloating or headaches or chills, but your mood is so out of whack that you are getting in trouble just by opening your mouth. You don’t know [...]
Posted in Mindset, Video Posts | Tagged attitude adjustment, bad mood, BDSM, blogging, discipline, Dom, dominant, event, focus, help, learned, manners, meditation, normal, PMS, purpose, rt, self-centering, self-discipline, Service, serving, slave, submissive, submissive pms, value |
By lunaKM on June 6, 2009
Exploring submission play can involve intense sensation. As a normal part of some submissive’s play is sub space. Not everyone reaches subspace each and every time and you can not expect to reach it at all. Sub space is a way your body responds to endorphins. Described as similar to a runner’s high this is [...]
Posted in Playtime | Tagged danger, Dom, dominant, endorphins, essays, experience, favorite, friends, internet, m/s, mental space, Mindset, normal, novice, play, relationship, rt, safe, stress, sub space, submission, submissive, subspace, trust |
By lunaKM on May 30, 2009
This post is from Norische. She allows anyone to post her articles anywhere they will do some good. I could not come up with a better way to say what she does in this article. Please enjoy and comment! I’d love to hear if you have told your family and how it went. “So what [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged abuse, acceptance, activities, BDSM, bdsm lifestyle, choice, choices, Christian, clean, comfort, communication, community, cons, consensual, control, Dom, dress, email, family, fear, floggers, friends, harnesses, help, implement, information, kink acceptance, kinky, leather, lifestyle, love, myths, natural, negotiation, normal, obedience, openness, opinion, outting yourself, paddles, play, progress, relationship, religion, rt, rules, safe, sane, sex, sharing, single, sister, slave, slavery, standing, stress, submissive, tall, telling family, toy, toys, understanding, whips, writing |
By lunaKM on May 14, 2009
Getting in trouble. We’ve all been there a time or two. It comes with learning and training new things as well as changing behaviors. Our Dominants generally don’t derive any pleasure out of punishing us and the guilt we put on ourselves can be more damaging than the misdeed in the first place. Allowing that [...]
Posted in Submission | Tagged advice, attitude, behavior patterns, carte blanche, changing, changing behavior, clean, communication, cons, control, Dom, dominant, dominants, energy, experience, focus, guilt, help, journey, learned, learning, Mindset, needs, normal, novice, play, progress, punishment, punishments, relationship, Relationships, rt, rules, submission, submissive, support, training, trust, wants |
By lunaKM on May 9, 2009
The world is full of false truths. These false truths tend to be the assumptions of the uninformed or the beliefs of those who want to scare novices out of their wits. Many of these are because of a narrow view of the world or an inability to accept varying viewpoints. In this post I’m [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged acceptance, advice, assumptions, BDSM, bdsm lifestyle, bdsm myths, BDSM practitioner, bisexuality, deeper submission, Dom, dominant, dominants, false information, falsehoods, female, female submissives, history, information, labels, lifestyle, love, Masochism, masochist, misunderstandings, myths, normal, novice, novices, online, play, poly, polyamorous, polyamory, predators, relationship, rt, self-awareness, sex, sexual identity, sexual orientation, share, slave, standing, submission, submissive, switch, tall, titles, understanding, viewpoints |
By Guest Author on April 11, 2009
Today’s guest post is by Aria, a bi poly switch kinkster. So currently I have 2 dominants, Edge and Vice. You would think that to have 2 Doms I would have to be the most submissive woman ever, but I’m a switch. I often call myself a beta-top because I love to co-top with them. [...]
Posted in Relationships | Tagged advice, Aria, bottom, chat, communication, connection, cons, conventions, dating, Dom, dominant, dominants, dress, email, emotions, event, experience, fetlife, focus, guest post, help, jealousy, lifestyle, loneliness, love, Mindset, natural, normal, partners, play, poly, polyamory, punishment, punishments, real world, relationship, Relationships, rt, rules, scene, sex, share, submission, submissive, switch, trust, two dominants, wants, writing |
By lunaKM on April 10, 2009
One of the first questions a new submissive asks themselves is are they normal for desiring the things they do. This could be kinky sex, humiliation or service. Anything that appears to fall outside the vanilla umbrella can cause a novice to question if they are normal. This in fact, is normal. Everyone questions themselves [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged acceptance, BDSM, Bondage, comfort, danger, desires, experience, kinky, love, normal, normalcy, novice, questions, relationship, Relationships, risk, rt, Service, sex, standing, submissive, understanding |
By lunaKM on March 27, 2009
Sub Drop can come in many different forms. Sub Drop is the emotional and physical affects of the release and drop of endorphins in the body after a play session. Most of what you read online are the physical aspects; the fatigue, sadness, aches and pains and recovery from marks. There is a more intense [...]
Posted in Mindset, Playtime | Tagged ad space, advice, aftercare, balance, BDSM, book, boundaries, communication, connection, cons, consensual, depression, dress, emotions, endorphins, experience, fear, friends, help, history, instability, intimacy, kinky, lifestyle, limits, loneliness, love, marks, normal, online, partners, play, purpose, questions, recovery, relationship, Relationships, rt, sadness, scene, sub drop, submissive, trust |
By lunaKM on February 26, 2009
Everyone has gone though bouts of depression at one time or another. For some, it’s practically debilitating and others can handle it in stride without much of a bat of the eyelashes. I recently recovered from a long time depression with the help of medications and my Dominant’s caring. It’s never an easy process, but [...]
Posted in Health and Beauty, Mindset | Tagged balance, bath, bathing, comfort, depression, Dom, dominant, dress, friends, handling a submissive with depression, happiness, health, help, normal, play, routine, rt, rules, sadness, self-care, short, standing, submission, submissive, understanding |
By lunaKM on January 28, 2009
Begging is an art form for submissives. Each of us has our own talent or lack thereof in this area. For some it is part of humiliation, or just every day activities. There are different approaches to begging. Verbal Approach Master insists that I beg for a lot of things and I think that most [...]
Posted in Playtime, Sex and Sexuality | Tagged activities, advice, ask me, asking for permission, BDSM, begging, Bondage, Bondage.com, bow, curtsy, Dom, dominant, dominants, Gor, hands, help, humbling yourself, kissing hands, kneeling, learning, leather, love, normal, prostration, Raven Shadowborne, routine, rt, sex, sexual submission, short, submission, submissive, wants |
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