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9 Books on BDSM and D/s I’ve Read More Than Once (They’re THAT Good!)

9 Books on BDSM and D/s I’ve Read More Than Once (They’re THAT Good!)

You have to admit that the books that resonate with you the most, are ones you’ve read more than once. Here’s my list of 9 of the best BDSM and D/s related books that I’ve pulled off the shelf time and time again.

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Reviews
New to BDSM and Sexual Experience

New to BDSM and Sexual Experience

Can a virgin with no sexual experience be a sub?

1 comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything
Feeling Unfulfilled: Do My Sexual Needs Not Matter in a D/s Relationship?

Feeling Unfulfilled: Do My Sexual Needs Not Matter in a D/s Relationship?

I find myself resentful that, mostly, sex involves his orgasms and not mine. Do I need to accept that my pleasure is not a consideration in our relationship?

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
How Do I Explore BDSM and Grow While I’m Single?

How Do I Explore BDSM and Grow While I’m Single?

Hi!, I am new to BDSM and Kink and was just wondering if it were possible to try and learn and explore and grow without a Dom by my side at least for the moment? How is a submissive able to train and prepare for her future Dom? I am not out in my local [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Personal Growth
Book Review: Kinky Sex-The Secret to Long Term Desire

Book Review: Kinky Sex-The Secret to Long Term Desire

I stumbled across this book via a book group on Fetlife and I am happy that I did. The author, Jessica Howe has done something absolutely amazing with her time and energy with putting together “Kinky Sex: The Secret to Long-Term Desire”. Even though this book doesn’t really focus on being in a D/s or [...]

Leave a comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Reviews
It’s Okay to be New – Exploring and Learning as a Novice Submissive

It’s Okay to be New – Exploring and Learning as a Novice Submissive

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 5/3/14 Oftentimes, the first lines of an email to me or an opening thread in a discussion group go something like this; “I’m new and am nervous to ask these silly questions so be nice to me.” “I’m really embarrassed to ask since I’m so new, but…” “I’m new to [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive

The Top 3 Books I Recommend to Everyone New to BDSM

Since the late 90′s there has been an increase in the number of books available for people wanting information about BDSM and D/s style relationships. I can’t say it’s a saturated market, but it is overwhelming sometimes trying to find quality material to read that won’t leave you confused or stuck in a “this is [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Reviews
Ask lunaKM – Sexting, How to get Started and Scene Fantasies

Ask lunaKM – Sexting, How to get Started and Scene Fantasies

Dear lunaKM, My D/s is a long distance relationship. We have not met in person. Just starting out, he’s training me so to speak. I am new. We are planning to meet eventually, it is set. So my question: He sends me scenes via text. Does a submissive send scenes as well? What scene form [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Talking Shop – Tips for Purchasing BDSM Toys

Talking Shop – Tips for Purchasing BDSM Toys

On my own blog I’ve recently been reviewing various BDSM toy suppliers that I’ve used but I thought it would be interesting to write a guide on how to choose what to buy and where to buy it from and what sort of factors that should be considered during the joys of shopping! Who makes [...]

Leave a comment Posted by thisgirl | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Fictional Stories of Male Submission

Fictional Stories of Male Submission

Fictional BDSM stories or erotica are often not only enjoyable but also may be a good way to learn what might be enjoyable to the reader in real life.  Those who are new to BDSM often do not know what activities and mindsets they might enjoy and while non-fiction articles, blogs, and communities are a [...]

6 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission
Book Review: Master/slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice

Book Review: Master/slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice

I had to really think about whether I wanted to review this book on Submissive Guide or not because it’s not directed to submissives. In fact the description of the book says that it’s for Masters and those new to BDSM that are called to Mastery. I started reading it with an open outlook though [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Reviews
Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner: Part 3- My Partner is Interested!

Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner: Part 3- My Partner is Interested!

In part 1 of this series of articles we examined the initial approach for discussing your submissive desires with your vanilla partner. In  part 2 we examined how to address the issue if your partner does not respond positively to the initial approach. In this final part 3 we examine how to proceed if your vanilla [...]

3 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Relationships

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