By lunaKM on August 25, 2010
Q: I am a relatively new submissive. I have had two previous D/s relationships. One was ended suddenly – just a week or so after being given a collar, he suddenly disappeared from my life with no explanation. I have since realised that the collar came without any understandings or pre-requisites should have been a [...]
Posted in Novice Q & A | Tagged expectations, learning, needs, novice, questions, safe words, SehAnru, trust, wants |
By lunaKM on June 23, 2010
Each month I answer questions asked by readers like you. Come see what I’ve answered this month. Q: I’m quite new to the idea of being a submissive, but after a lot of research and buying a lot of books, I feel that I am ready to explore a bit more. I met an online [...]
Posted in Novice Q & A | Tagged amazon.com, commitment, D/s relationship, Dominance, information, needs, novice, questions, submission, understanding, wants |
By lunaKM on June 7, 2010
From Submissive Guide Newsletter sent 12/7/09 Not everyone is capable of being submissive. It is even possible that you are not really cut out for it. We all have different thresholds for what we can and can’t do, but realizing we can’t be submissive isn’t the end of the world. Great, so how do you [...]
Posted in Newsletter Archive, Submission | Tagged desires, honesty, needs, personality traits, self-help, submission, submissive guide newsletter |
By lunaKM on May 26, 2010
Every month I ask for your anonymous questions and pleas for advice. Here are the few I got this month. First one is about introducing D/s into an existing relationship. I also cover 2 dominant relationship, just starting out and writing a letter of intent. How do I introduce my husband to the D/s or [...]
Posted in Novice Q & A | Tagged advice, expectations, experience, information, marriage, needs, negotiation, negotiations, novice, poly, questions, serving, training, Training Resume, two dominants, understanding |
By lunaKM on November 27, 2009
The Submissive Guide Newsletter is your personal direct channel to what’s on my mind. It’s delivered every 2 weeks right to your inbox for you to read at your own leisure. You are missing out if you haven’t signed up. I’ve got so much more to tell you; and I’m doing it with the newsletter. [...]
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By Guest Author on November 16, 2009
This is a Guest Post by A. She is a new submissive in her first 24/7 dynamic. I received this wonderfully written review of her first 30 days and she offered to share it with everyone here. Enjoy! It has come to my attention after reading submissiveguide.com that my training with Sir has already begun, [...]
Posted in Submission | Tagged 24/7, acceptance, BDSM, Bondage, clean, cleaning, clothing, control, D/s, Dom, Dominance, dress, dynamic, experience, favorite, fetlife, focus, grooming, growth and development, guest post, hands, help, honesty, infraction, kneeling, learned, learning, lingerie, love, natural, needs, online, orgasm control, play, positions, progress, protocol, punishment, RACK, relationship, requests, review, risk, ritual, rituals, rt, sex, share, spanking, speech, submission, submissive, submissive understanding, toy, toys, training, understanding, wants, worship, writing |
By lunaKM on November 9, 2009
When aftercare is mentioned, it is rarely associated with the Dominant. We hear all about how to help the submissive come down from the endorphin high, treat the marks and aches and emotionally recover from the scene. Do we think that Dominants feel nothing during play that they don’t need care afterwards? Think again. When [...]
Posted in Playtime | Tagged aftercare, bdsm play, connection, control, Dom, dominant, dominant aftercare, dominant recovery, dominants, endorphins, energy, experience, focus, help, Impact, marks, needs, partner focus, play, recovery from play, relationship, rt, scene, sex, shower, submissive, trust |
By lunaKM on October 16, 2009
A very common first request of a potential Dominant, either online or offline is to have you start a submissive journal. If you’ve never kept a diary then this can be a daunting task. Having to write openly and honestly about your feelings and experiences can have a huge impact on your submissive and personal [...]
Posted in Mindset, Service | Tagged blogging, choice, comfort, development, Dom, dominant, experience, help, Impact, journaling, needs, online, online journal, personal development, relationship, rt, submission, submissive, tasks, writing |
By lunaKM on October 15, 2009
lunaKM> So, first I’d like to get some impression about how new you are to submission. Could you please tell me how long you have been exploring submission and if you are in a relationship right now? lunaKM> hello aquamuse aquamuse> Hello, I’m new of course. eagerslut> I am in a relationship and just recently [...]
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By lunaKM on October 14, 2009
Being an emotionally healthy person is a goal that all of us have but a smaller margin actually accomplish. With the constant stress of commitments and modern day obligations our emotions face the brunt of it. The goal of a submissive is to seek that balance in emotional states so that our service appears stress-free [...]
Posted in Health and Beauty | Tagged balance, comfort, commitment, cons, control, desires, emotional health, emotional state, emotions, friends, friendships, happiness, health, healthy submissive, help, Impact, memories, mental strength, needs, online, relationship, Relationships, rt, Service, stress, submissive, suggestions |
By lunaKM on October 12, 2009
I love surfing the submissive blogs to see what other people are talking about. Many times it gives me something to talk about here on this site. This post is one such example. Over on Underhishand.com, kaya asked about submission and what qualifies it as submission. She asked if you are not expected to do [...]
Posted in Submission | Tagged activities, blogs, changing, competition, cons, discussion, Dom, dominant, limits, love, needs, normal, opinion, preference, preferences, RACK, relationship, routine, rt, submission, submissive, submissive blogs, washing dishes, what is submissive |
By lunaKM on September 28, 2009
My first ebook up for review is “How To Get The Spanking You Want: The Complete Guide to Asking For it, Getting it, and Making it Better” by Vivian of The Disciplined Feminist. I have an excerpt on this site if you’d like to read it. The author has over 23 years of spanking experience [...]
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By lunaKM on September 21, 2009
I’ve always believed that safewords are only good if you know how to use them. Good ole communication is great for things like numb limbs, an itch you can’t reach or a bathroom break. Submissive Guide is here for novices and it’s always good to teach about safewords and recommend that you have one. In [...]
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By Guest Author on September 16, 2009
This is another guest post by dina of kajiradreams. She continues her thoughts on Gor and the life of a kajira. You can also read her thoughts on what it’s like to be an owned kajira. The strengths of a kajira and the misconceptions of what a kajira is and does. And what strengths better [...]
Posted in Submission | Tagged book, books, comfort, commitment, cons, control, decisions, desires, Dom, dominant, dreams, emotions, fantasy, fear, female, Gor, Gorean Lifestyle, guest post, hands, help, honesty, ideals, journey, kajira, lifestyle, love, misconceptions of Gor, needs, obedience, owned, play, player, purpose, rt, safe, series, sex, slave, sorry, spirit, standing, strengths of kajira, submission, submissive, switch, tall, trust, understanding, value, wants |
By Guest Author on September 15, 2009
Today’s guest post is by dina from Kajiradreams. She’s donated a few posts for this week on Gorean Living so watch for them in the coming days! My Master gave me the task of writing down my thoughts on what it means to be an owned kajira. I can only ever write this from my [...]
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By lunaKM on September 13, 2009
This week I’m going to take it easy. I was so very sick last week that I had to postpone any writing because I just couldn’t put my words together into sentences. That means that this week’s posts aren’t written. I had the worst chest cold or bronchitis or something but holy cow did it [...]
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By lunaKM on September 12, 2009
Submissive Guide now has a bi-weekly newsletter that can help you improve submission and explore BDSM, just like the website. Why subscribe to the newsletter? Unique, quality content delivered directly to your email! Essays and tips not available on the website! Each newsletter is on a different topic, and you drive the suggestions for topics! [...]
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