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Talking to Your Dominant: When A Desire Becomes a Need

Being in a power exchange relationship at the time was more of a want and desire than a need. The more experience I gained, the more it became a need.

2 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Stop Being So Hard on Yourself-The Importance of Accepting Who You Are

Stop Being So Hard on Yourself-The Importance of Accepting Who You Are

Are you wondering why you’re wired the way you are? There’s nothing wrong with questioning, but just make sure you don’t spend all your time questioning and not living.

4 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Mindset, Relationships
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Your Kink is Not my Kink – Understanding Other People’s Kinks

The other day in a lifestyle group on Facebook, a member of the group posted a rant because she was tired of hearing about submissives and slaves being punished for stupid things, such as masturbating without permission. I was on the bus on my way home from shopping when I saw this and it upset [...]

6 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Beginner Basics
Ask lunaKM – Fear of Losing Yourself, Poor Contact Frequency and Sending Nude Pictures

Ask lunaKM – Fear of Losing Yourself, Poor Contact Frequency and Sending Nude Pictures

Dear lunaKM, My husband and I have been playing in the BDSM lifestyle for several months now.  I love the idea of this but have always had a strong personality.  I love to please him and want to be a good submissive to him but I fear losing myself or for it to go too [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Ask lunaKM – Roleplay Scenarios, Unable to Kneel and Boost of Confidence

Ask lunaKM – Roleplay Scenarios, Unable to Kneel and Boost of Confidence

Dear lunaKM, My question involves role play, I was wondering if there are some scenarios that are available to give an individual some idea of how to start a scene. And or what kind of scene would be the easiest to get started with because I am a beginner and I usually go my instinct [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything

Making Him the Dom of Your Dreams – Working With The Man You Have

Oftentimes we find our desire to be submissive or kinky when we are already in a relationship and are not sure really how to proceed with that. It can come as a shock to try to force your desires on your partner and if you address the subject without their thoughts in mind it could [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
The Longing of Being Owned

The Longing of Being Owned

I remember it was about ten years ago when I was first introduced to the Sleeping Beauty trilogy by Anne Rice. I had stumbled across the series by accident while browsing the erotica section of a local bookstore. I had no idea what they were about but had read a lot of Anne Rice’s works [...]

6 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Ask lunaKM – Consideration Periods, Apologetic Sympathy and Sub in the Bedroom – Equal in Everything Else

Ask lunaKM – Consideration Periods, Apologetic Sympathy and Sub in the Bedroom – Equal in Everything Else

Hi lunaKM, I’m semi new to m/s relationships and my new dom and i have been together for a month now. I wanted to know how long does a consideration period last, and should I wait for him to bring up being collared? We agreed to take it slow but we are still very much [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Paralysis of Analysis: Over-thinking Your Submission

Paralysis of Analysis: Over-thinking Your Submission

This is a guest post by Slave Kelly. Paralysis of analysis became a well-known phrase when used by Martin Luther King, Jr., during the Civil Rights Movement.  However, this human phenomenon has been documented for centuries. Paralysis of analysis occurs when one over-thinks an issue, or situation, to the point where the ability to act [...]

2 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Broken Vows: When Vanilla Marriage Falls Apart Because of Kink

Broken Vows: When Vanilla Marriage Falls Apart Because of Kink

I was married before my relationship with my Master, KnyghtMare. We fell in love when dating online was still an unusual thing. We courted and dated for years before we got married. Marriage seemed to be the inevitable next step, so we did that too. Our sex life was very much kink-lite. For the most [...]

41 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
Ask lunaKM – Forced to Lose Weight, Snarky Submissives and Looking for Community

Ask lunaKM – Forced to Lose Weight, Snarky Submissives and Looking for Community

Dear lunaKM, I have been with my Master for a number of months. Most of the time our relationship is great and we have a very strong bond. My only problem is that he seems to have a fixation with my weight. When I first met him he asked me to lose a few pounds. [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Book Review: Leading and Supportive Love

Book Review: Leading and Supportive Love

The truth about Dominant and submissive relationships isn’t that we are an alternative lifestyle within the BDSM arena, it’s that we are a strong and supportive relationship type that goes beyond and sometimes without kink. Chris Lyon has written a fantastic book that does a great job describing and detailing the two roles of a [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Reviews
Ask lunaKM – New Kink Relationship, Seeking Daddy Doms and Resources to Help Those Coming Out Kinky

Ask lunaKM – New Kink Relationship, Seeking Daddy Doms and Resources to Help Those Coming Out Kinky

Dear lunaKM, I just met a man that is a dom, I am very interested in this lifestyle but also VERY new to it. We are both interested in each other and are both looking for a vanilla life outside the bedroom. My question is how do I start a relationship without jumping in bed [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Keys to a Successful Relationship-Transparency is Like a Brick Wall

Keys to a Successful Relationship-Transparency is Like a Brick Wall

This is the last in my series about key factors it takes to have a successful relationship. Up to this point, I have talked about how important communication, honesty, and trust is to a relationship. For this last article, I will be talking about the importance of transparency in relationships. I saved this one for [...]

2 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships

Pain Play Discussed Online – Explore The Variety of Views

Submissive Guide isn’t the only place you can get quality information about the topics of BDSM and this month I’ve been focusing on sadomasochism and pain play. So I’ve done a bit of research and pulled together some of the best online reading on the topic. Browse the list, watch the videos and learn more [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Ask lunaKM – Compatibility, Safewords when Deaf and Power Play Preferences

Ask lunaKM – Compatibility, Safewords when Deaf and Power Play Preferences

Dear lunaKM, I’m a complete newbie when it comes to the D/s world. January of this year I met my very first Dominant online. He was sweet and attentive yet firm. We live in two different states but I had decided to move to His town to be closer to Him. I did everything in [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
What to Do When You Are Haunted by Past Relationships

What to Do When You Are Haunted by Past Relationships

There are times in our life that we seem to be haunted by the relationships in our past. They cling to us like a life form and don’t seem to want us out their grasp. Most of the time, I feel this occurs because we feel that something is left unresolved with it. Perhaps the [...]

5 comments Posted by LadySneak | Posted in: Relationships
Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: The Big Meet

Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: The Big Meet

As I mentioned in my introduction to this series, online submission is a bit of a hot-button among D/s practitioners. There are a lot of great arguments for why it doesn’t work, and for each of those, there’s an equally strong counterargument for why it’s a perfectly valid arrangement; but chances are, unless you’re submitting [...]

5 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships, Safety
Daddy-Little Girl Dynamics: It’s Not Easy Being A Little

Daddy-Little Girl Dynamics: It’s Not Easy Being A Little

I don’t know about you, but when I was child, I didn’t always think it was all that easy. I remember grownups all around me telling me how “easy I had it” and to “just wait until I became an adult” because that’s when life would start getting hard. I would always look at them [...]

16 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships
Developing Effective Communication in Long Distance Relationships

Developing Effective Communication in Long Distance Relationships

To say that communication is important in a relationship is like saying that man must breathe to live: one simply shouldn’t have to specify its importance. Yet somehow, although I have never heard of a person who died because he forgot how to breathe, I have seen many relationships fall apart due to a distinct [...]

4 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Online Submission
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