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Struggling in Submission: Introspection on the Fight to Improve Yourself

Struggling in Submission: Introspection on the Fight to Improve Yourself

Recently I’ve experienced my own internal struggle that caused some tension in my relationship with KnyghtMare.

Ask lunaKM – Consideration Periods, Apologetic Sympathy and Sub in the Bedroom – Equal in Everything Else

Ask lunaKM – Consideration Periods, Apologetic Sympathy and Sub in the Bedroom – Equal in Everything Else

Hi lunaKM, I’m semi new to m/s relationships and my new dom and i have been together for a month now. I wanted to know how long does a consideration period last, and should I wait for him to bring up being collared? We agreed to take it slow but we are still very much [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
What to Do When You Are Haunted by Past Relationships

What to Do When You Are Haunted by Past Relationships

It is okay to miss someone you loved. It is okay to reflect upon the relationship. The trouble lies when it becomes an obsession.

5 comments Posted by LadySneak | Posted in: Relationships
Becoming Comfortable with My Submissive Role

Becoming Comfortable with My Submissive Role

Submitting did not make my thoughts less valuable or inappropriate, it simply meant that I would have to learn to accept that the final decision lay with my partner, my Dom, not with me.

5 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Single in the Scene Part III: The Slave Resume

Single in the Scene Part III: The Slave Resume

The slave resume is a snapshot of you – the services you thrive in, something you’d like to learn, S&M experiences/desires, interests, hobbies, in other words, you’re sharing the highlights of yourself that you desire to find a compatible match for.

3 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Personal Growth, Training Resume
Help! I Need to Learn to Swear to Please My Dominant

Help! I Need to Learn to Swear to Please My Dominant

I have never been a cusser. Never. But Sir really likes it. He is wonderfully patient with me, and disciplines as seems fit…but I am hoping that there is some advice to help me become more “natural” with the language. Is there some “bad language” cheat sheet that I could study?

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Play and Sex
Male Submission – Foot Fetish

Male Submission – Foot Fetish

A foot fetish is not necessarily related to submission, although for many guys the two combine well and there are a whole lot of varieties of activities and preferences for guys with a foot fetish.

11 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission, Play and Sex
How Do You Beg For Mercy?

How Do You Beg For Mercy?

My Master sometimes wants me to beg for mercy while he’s punishing me. I don’t really mind it, but I just don’t know how to beg for mercy. Any ideas on what my Master might want to hear exactly?

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Play and Sex
To Have Children Or Not, Now THAT is a Question

To Have Children Or Not, Now THAT is a Question

This post is more about the D/s decisions surrounding children that have come to my attention through requests for advice and by reading discussions on forums. Below are my personal opinions about these topics and anything I say here should be weighed against your own morals and beliefs. Make your own decisions about your life.

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
3 Easy Steps to Setting the Mood – Make Your Playtime More Orgasmic, Full of Energy and Fun

3 Easy Steps to Setting the Mood – Make Your Playtime More Orgasmic, Full of Energy and Fun

Sure we can! Just because we love rope, leather, floggers, and control doesn’t mean we can’t have the mood set beforehand. So, what do you do?

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
What To Do When You Encounter Limits Mid Scene

What To Do When You Encounter Limits Mid Scene

I’d like you to understand that it is okay to find limits you didn’t know where there. They could be play activities that you never experienced before that you found you don’t like or it could be a pain or sensation edge. Either way, it does not make you any less of a person or a submissive or a masochist. It actually makes you that much more unique and special.

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex

[Video Post] How To Help Your Dominant Through Dom Drop

How do you care for a Dom/Master who is suffering dom drop? What should a sub do to help them through this? It seems that they get reclusive. Is this normal?

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Video Posts
Is Submission a Need?

Is Submission a Need?

The issue is I feel like I have a need to submit. It’s not just fun for me; I crave it on every aspect, not just sexually. Is this normal? How can I explain to my girlfriend that our sporadic play is fun, but I need more rules and structure?

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Am I Submitting or Not?

Am I Submitting or Not?

Here’s are my questions. I have been communicating with a Dom for about two months and he insists that I am not submitting at all. I disagree but I wonder if I am afraid to submit. Is this normal? Secondly, he said that if I decide to submit I need to express it in a well thought out email. Any suggestions on what that email should say?

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Adding The Second Submissive – Branching Out Into Poly Relationships For The First Time

Adding The Second Submissive – Branching Out Into Poly Relationships For The First Time

Adding another to a once closed relationship has been a learning experience and one that I’m sure I have more to explore and understand. For now I think we are on a path to even more happiness than I could have imagined.

11 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
Orgasm on Command Training – The Process for the Submissive

Orgasm on Command Training – The Process for the Submissive

When you enter a training program as intensive as orgasm training you can get overwhelmed easily. There is a lot of weight on the submissive to perform and succeed.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner: Part 3- My Partner is Interested!

Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner: Part 3- My Partner is Interested!

Your partner has reacted to the revelation of your BDSM desires in a positive way or at least is willing to participate. Congratulations! This is a huge first step.

3 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Relationships
Ask Anything | Should I Submit to Controlled Rape to Face Past?

Ask Anything | Should I Submit to Controlled Rape to Face Past?

Dear SehAnru, I’m a very young submissive with a very strong will. I’m quite confused as to where my place is in the world of submission, because I strongly dislike being told what to do, and in my life I’m constantly under the thumb of everyone else. I also have very bad trust issues, have [...]

Comments Off Posted by SehAnru | Posted in: Ask Anything
Intense Orgasms Need Extreme Toys from Extreme Restraints

Intense Orgasms Need Extreme Toys from Extreme Restraints

This post features Submissive Guide affiliates, meaning that if you buy something featured, you’ll be financially supporting this site’s mission of bringing awesomeness to readers everywhere.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Sponsors
How Masturbation Changed in My D/s Relationship

How Masturbation Changed in My D/s Relationship

For my and probably many of your relationships, orgasms are probably the first thing your Dominant wants to control. Masturbation becomes a shared event; even if it just means you have to tell them when you do it. I have to ask to have orgasms as they ‘don’t belong to me’ anymore.

7 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships, Sex and Sexuality
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