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Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 2 of 7) – More Specific Guidelines

In this part of Ambrosio’s series on Leather protocol and etiquette; appropriate behavior at munches and other gatherings where socializing happens as well as how to handle trolls and other inappropriate behavior.

Comments Off Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Rituals and Routines
Things That Hinder You Getting to Know People At a Munch and How to Overcome Them

Things That Hinder You Getting to Know People At a Munch and How to Overcome Them

Here are a few of the common issues with munches that you can either adjust to or at least work around to try to make your nervous butt feel better at a munch and meeting people for the very first time.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Community, Newsletter Archive
Entering the Community: The Different Ways to Socialize with Local Kinksters

Entering the Community: The Different Ways to Socialize with Local Kinksters

Play parties aren’t the only way to meet and socialize with other kinky people. Take a look at the shortlist of other ways you can meet up and make friends!

Comments Off Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Community
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Finding Your Tribe-The Importance of the Kink Community

I realized there was a lot out there I was missing and how important it was to get involved in the local groups and to have mentors and other s-types that I could talk to about things.

5 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Relationships, Views & More...
Afraid to Go to a Munch Alone: How to Overcome Your Fears and Meet People!

Afraid to Go to a Munch Alone: How to Overcome Your Fears and Meet People!

I don’t know what to do…I want to go but I’m terrified as well because I won’t know a single soul.

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Ask Readers:  How do I show my over-protective husband that the community is a safe, respectable place?

Ask Readers: How do I show my over-protective husband that the community is a safe, respectable place?

How do I get the support from the community/like minded people, while he learns it can be a safe, respectful place?

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
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An Accidental Outing: Encountering Other Kinky People in Your Vanilla Life

The key is making sure that your newfound friends understand your comfort level at being identified as a kinkster. If you get that out into the open from the start, you’ll be fine!

1 comment Posted by pinksubgeek | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Single in the Scene VII: The Unaccompanied slave

Single in the Scene VII: The Unaccompanied slave

Attending an event as a free slave doesn’t have to be a point of anxiety.

Comments Off Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Community, Mindset
Ask lunaKM – Fear of Losing Yourself, Poor Contact Frequency and Sending Nude Pictures

Ask lunaKM – Fear of Losing Yourself, Poor Contact Frequency and Sending Nude Pictures

Dear lunaKM, My husband and I have been playing in the BDSM lifestyle for several months now.  I love the idea of this but have always had a strong personality.  I love to please him and want to be a good submissive to him but I fear losing myself or for it to go too [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Ask lunaKM – Forced to Lose Weight, Snarky Submissives and Looking for Community

Ask lunaKM – Forced to Lose Weight, Snarky Submissives and Looking for Community

Dear lunaKM, I have been with my Master for a number of months. Most of the time our relationship is great and we have a very strong bond. My only problem is that he seems to have a fixation with my weight. When I first met him he asked me to lose a few pounds. [...]

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything

Find a Munch at FindaMunch.com!

Are you looking for kink friends and fun close to you? Have you heard about munches, but don’t know what they are, much less where to look? Are you traveling or relocating and not sure about the community at your destination? Or, are you already involved, and you want your local organization to grow?

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Views & More...
Using a Slave Journal – It’s Not What You Think!

Using a Slave Journal – It’s Not What You Think!

The Slave Journal is a log of command, instructions, and requests from the Dominant. When they ask for you to do something, you write it down. Things like new rules, mention that they prefer Charmin toilet paper or that they love the red dress you wore the other night.

18 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Service, Training Resume
Do You Make These Mistakes? Avoid Outing a Fellow BDSM Lifestyler

Do You Make These Mistakes? Avoid Outing a Fellow BDSM Lifestyler

There is one rule that breaking it is considered a cardinal sin in the world of BDSM-outing a fellow lifestyler. Doing such can have life changing effects on their vanilla life and the kinky life of the person who does the outing.

1 comment Posted by LaneyDoll | Posted in: Community
Learn How to Nourish Yourself, Your Relationship and Your Submission

Learn How to Nourish Yourself, Your Relationship and Your Submission

Like anything else, one has to learn to go with the flow and take the highs with the lows. I hope that any beginners, and even those who are well experienced will continue the sometimes rocky journey despite the aspects of the lifestyle that can destroy and fully embrace the aspects of the lifestyle that can nourish it.

4 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Don’t I Know You From Somewhere? – Encountering People You Know at a Munch

Don’t I Know You From Somewhere? – Encountering People You Know at a Munch

You might be recognized. That’s right, there just might be someone there that you know from your life at these things. And that puts lead in so many boots. It doesn’t have to be that way if you know how you want to handle that before you step out the door.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Community
What are we? The label game

What are we? The label game

I would like to know where do you begin and how do you know if you are dom or sub?

Comments Off Posted by SehAnru | Posted in: Ask Anything, Views & More...
Fantastic Submissive Videos for Learning and Growth on Kink Academy

Fantastic Submissive Videos for Learning and Growth on Kink Academy

If you can’t get out to munches in your community or conventions held around the world the next best thing is a website focused on kink education. I have nothing but praise for Kink Academy and the quality educators and topics that they cover on Kink Academy.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
Fainting, Headaches and Nausea: Facing Sudden Illness During Play/Scene Time

Fainting, Headaches and Nausea: Facing Sudden Illness During Play/Scene Time

When we play we have a chance that the blissful time we are experiencing will end well or may end suddenly from something unexpected. Yes we do everything we can to avoid having to stop play but when sudden illness takes hold the best thing is to stop and treat the problem.

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex, Safety
How to Use FetLife to Broaden Your BDSM Learning

How to Use FetLife to Broaden Your BDSM Learning

I’d like to walk you through the ways that I use to find information and continue my learning with FetLife.

12 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Personal Growth, Play and Sex
Ask Anything | Where Do I Start with Submission?

Ask Anything | Where Do I Start with Submission?

Hi, I was wondering if you would be willing to talk with me about becoming a slave. Despite my obvious fetishes shown by my user name, I’ve never done any of this stuff before in real life. What’s more, I’ve always been shy about sex as a subject little lone the rest. My boyfriend and [...]

Comments Off Posted by SehAnru | Posted in: Ask Anything
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