By lunaKM on August 18, 2010
From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 2/6/10 (Caveat: I am not an expert historian of BDSM. What I have learned I picked up along the way. I can’t say with certainty what is true and what is false. I have made every effort to let you know if I’m uncertain of the validity of a certain [...]
Posted in Newsletter Archive, Social Norms | Tagged acceptance, chat rooms, community, danger, false information, Impact, internet, munch, purpose, submissive guide newsletter |
By lunaKM on July 12, 2010
From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 4/10/10 One of the most feared activities of a novice is getting up the nerve to meet other people face to face. Yet this is one of the first things that I and many others recommend for those wishing to get into BDSM. I encourage people to learn all they [...]
Posted in Newsletter Archive, Social Norms | Tagged activities, discussion, event, first time, groups, learning, local community, munch, munches, nerves |
By lunaKM on January 25, 2010
This year I’m starting a new series of posts that will occur once a month just like the Roundtable did last year. Novice Q & A is for you to ask questions about things you’d like more information on, advice you are looking for or anything else. You can even ask me personal questions! My [...]
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By Guest Author on January 8, 2010
This is a guest post by bgtreasure for the BDSM Play Feature Series here on Submissive Guide. I choose this topic to write about because it is my favorite form of play and has been since I’ve found this wonderful thing we call “The Lifestyle”. The general definition of Impact Play that you will find [...]
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By lunaKM on September 25, 2009
So, you’ve met submissives and slaves online, their Dominant and Master counterparts but as you get to know them and how they interact you start to see the things they do blurring the lines of what you had believed a submissive was, or that a slave wasn’t supposed to act this way, etc. It brings [...]
Posted in Social Norms, Submission | Tagged comfort, definitions, Dom, dominant, help, labels, learning, lifestyle, munch, novice, novices, online, rt, slave, submission, submissive |
By lunaKM on September 24, 2009
<~luna[KM]> Now I’d like to hear from everyone… have you experienced subspace? If you don’t know if you have, it’s okay. <selene1123> i’m pretty new…so i think i have but am not sure <slavelauren> i have <radiogirl> I most definitely have <pet_rain> i’m not sure i think i would like a clear definition i’v heard [...]
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By lunaKM on August 8, 2009
This week’s video post is on First Meetings Safety. When you are ready to meet your dream Dominant for the first time, what goes through your mind? Do you think about safety at all or do the nervousness and excitment overload your common sense? You may not think that safety is necessary for someone you’ve [...]
Posted in Safety, Video Posts | Tagged blind date, choice, choices, comfort, common sense, D/s, danger, dates, dating, Dom, dominant, dominants, dress, first meetings, information, munch, nervousness, normal, online, personal safety, play, questions, relationship, rt, safe, safe call, Safety, security, short, value, wants |
By lunaKM on May 29, 2009
There is no way to be sure but, the large majority of information about the D/s lifestyle is in fiction form. While it’s nice to escape into emotional and physical stories, they are fantasy. For submissives looking to get their feet wet, these stories could hinder or harm the very ideas that develop in the [...]
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By lunaKM on May 2, 2009
Just 2 days left in the Submissive Positions project here at Submissive Guide. If you need a review, please take a look at the primary post; it has links to all of the posts in the project. Today I’d like to talk about the bane of many a submissive; fidgeting. Sitting still is really hard [...]
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By lunaKM on March 3, 2009
This week’s video tip is about what to expect at your first munch. So you are ready to venture into the great wide expanse of public life and meet people face to face. That’s great! A munch is a safe and fun environment to do that in. A munch is a meet and greet of [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics, Video Posts | Tagged BDSM, boundaries, chat, comfort, common sense, community, Dom, dominant, dress, friends, hands, help, kinky, munch, munches, protocol, questions, rt, rules, safe, Safety, submissive, support, value, wants |
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