By Guest Author on May 19, 2010
This guest post was written by Rick’s Fucktoy. It was first published on Sensual Service which I closed when I opened Submissive Guide. I don’t think I could ever forget the first time I felt it. He was buried deep inside me as my thighs straddled His hips, riding Him slowly as we talked. I [...]
Posted in Playtime | Tagged bruises, control, face slapping, Mindset, slap |
By nan {SL} on February 26, 2010
Many submissives have jobs where they are managers, business owners, or in charge in some way or another. Sometimes it can be difficult to re-enter your submissive head-space at the end of a busy work day. A sub can use rituals in order to help her achieve the right mind-apace, leaving the outside world behind [...]
Posted in Mindset, Rituals and Routines, Service, Submissive Positions | Tagged connection, mind-space, Mindset, purpose, reminder of place, ritual, rituals, significance, submissive, submissive mindset |
By lunaKM on November 4, 2009
So, you want me to tell you how you can tell if you are submissive or not? Asking someone else if you are submissive is like asking a blind man what color your dress is. Is there some magical online quiz that can say whether you are submissive or slave? Unfortunately no and I don’t [...]
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By lunaKM on October 21, 2009
Protocol. It can be a scary word if you are new to submission. In a relationship, it is likely that you will have some protocol established to control your behavior. So, what is protocol? Simply defined, protocol is the set of special rules that you follow for defined situations that remind you of your place [...]
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By lunaKM on June 23, 2009
This may seem like a really odd topic to be posting in a submissive blog, but there is reason. I’ve had a question recently from a submissive woman who has been asked on occasion to be assertive and dominant in bed by her Dominant. She says she can’t connect with that because she is submissive [...]
Posted in Sex and Sexuality | Tagged assertive in bed, celebration, control, Dom, Dominance, dominant, female, help, love, Mindset, normal, play, role play, roles, rt, serving, sex, sexual dominance, standing, submission, submissive, switching roles, take control of sex, toy |
By lunaKM on June 12, 2009
Is the desire to be submissive natural or is it part of the way you were brought up? Especially when there was abuse involved. Those internal radars go off and want to blame the abuse for how you live your life now. I can’t say that I have the global answer, but I do have [...]
Posted in Submission | Tagged abuse, BDSM, blogs, child abuse in relation to submission, choice, choices, cons, control, Dom, dominant, dominants, fear, IRC, love, Mindset, natural, nature vs nurture, NLA-I DVP, nurtured, poses, purpose, relationship, Relationships, rt, safe, sex, submission, submissive |
By lunaKM on June 6, 2009
Exploring submission play can involve intense sensation. As a normal part of some submissive’s play is sub space. Not everyone reaches subspace each and every time and you can not expect to reach it at all. Sub space is a way your body responds to endorphins. Described as similar to a runner’s high this is [...]
Posted in Playtime | Tagged danger, Dom, dominant, endorphins, essays, experience, favorite, friends, internet, m/s, mental space, Mindset, normal, novice, play, relationship, rt, safe, stress, sub space, submission, submissive, subspace, trust |
By lunaKM on May 14, 2009
Getting in trouble. We’ve all been there a time or two. It comes with learning and training new things as well as changing behaviors. Our Dominants generally don’t derive any pleasure out of punishing us and the guilt we put on ourselves can be more damaging than the misdeed in the first place. Allowing that [...]
Posted in Submission | Tagged advice, attitude, behavior patterns, carte blanche, changing, changing behavior, clean, communication, cons, control, Dom, dominant, dominants, energy, experience, focus, guilt, help, journey, learned, learning, Mindset, needs, normal, novice, play, progress, punishment, punishments, relationship, Relationships, rt, rules, submission, submissive, support, training, trust, wants |
By Guest Author on April 11, 2009
Today’s guest post is by Aria, a bi poly switch kinkster. So currently I have 2 dominants, Edge and Vice. You would think that to have 2 Doms I would have to be the most submissive woman ever, but I’m a switch. I often call myself a beta-top because I love to co-top with them. [...]
Posted in Relationships | Tagged advice, Aria, bottom, chat, communication, connection, cons, conventions, dating, Dom, dominant, dominants, dress, email, emotions, event, experience, fetlife, focus, guest post, help, jealousy, lifestyle, loneliness, love, Mindset, natural, normal, partners, play, poly, polyamory, punishment, punishments, real world, relationship, Relationships, rt, rules, scene, sex, share, submission, submissive, switch, trust, two dominants, wants, writing |
By lunaKM on March 9, 2009
My first question for March Question Month is about making the mental switch from work to home life. I know from experience that this is a very difficult time for both the Dominant and the submissive. You could have had an intense day at work, or the submissive is in a position of power at [...]
Posted in Mindset, Rituals and Routines | Tagged ad space, changing, clothing, Dom, dominant, dress, dynamic, email, experience, focus, help, kneeling, mediation, Mindset, needs, poses, purpose, question month, relaxation, ritual, rituals, routine, rt, rules, shift, short, shower, stress, submissive, switch, work-to-home |
By lunaKM on March 2, 2009
Rules, instructions and assignments are things that are given to me by my Dominant for very important reasons. To follow them should bring me the pride and happiness that I feel for him, and remind me that he cares for me. Rules are in place to keep me in line, place my heart and mind [...]
Posted in Mindset, Relationships, Rituals and Routines | Tagged activities, Bondage, checklist, comfort, commitment, cons, control, development, Dom, dominant, fulfillment, happiness, help, love, Mindset, owned, pride, punishment, purpose, relationship, Relationships, rt, rules, submission, submissive, tasks, trust, wants |
By lunaKM on February 27, 2009
The most frequent question I get asked is what is about rituals; what are they, how do I start one, are they hard, do they help with your submission, etc. They really aren’t that difficult once you understand what they are. There’s no sacred rites or incantations or anything, unless that is what you want. [...]
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