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What Do I Call My Dominant?

What Do I Call My Dominant?

A Dominant can have a variety of titles. Which one will you pick? We have a small list of common and not so common names you could use for your Dominant. Check out the list and find the one that feels the best to you or use it to inspire your own ideas for Dominant titles!

Comments Off Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything
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Kink and Mental Health: Temporary Relief

I won’t pretend kink’s a magic cure-all, and I sure as hell won’t suggest it’s a cure for OCD, but it does help mine when it comes to M.

4 comments Posted by Rayne Millaray | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Note To Self: Selfish Pride Comes Before A Fall

Note To Self: Selfish Pride Comes Before A Fall

Pride is a slippery emotion that I believe many a slave deal with, even if we don’t recognize it

4 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Community, Mindset
Ask lunaKM – Sexting, How to get Started and Scene Fantasies

Ask lunaKM – Sexting, How to get Started and Scene Fantasies

Dear lunaKM, My D/s is a long distance relationship. We have not met in person. Just starting out, he’s training me so to speak. I am new. We are planning to meet eventually, it is set. So my question: He sends me scenes via text. Does a submissive send scenes as well? What scene form [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
The Longing of Being Owned

The Longing of Being Owned

I think realizing your true calling with the one you want to serve is one of the greatest feelings any slave or submissive can feel.

10 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
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Single In The Scene Part VI: Vulnerability

I’m of the opinion that there are many slaves who are unowned for one reason: fear of being vulnerable. The way relationships tend to flow in the vanilla world vulnerability isn’t a necessity to maintain the relationship. Usually most are not surrendering to their partners and both tend to rest assured that they are equals [...]

1 comment Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Mindset, Personal Growth, Relationships, Service
Ask lunaKM – Consideration Periods, Apologetic Sympathy and Sub in the Bedroom – Equal in Everything Else

Ask lunaKM – Consideration Periods, Apologetic Sympathy and Sub in the Bedroom – Equal in Everything Else

Hi lunaKM, I’m semi new to m/s relationships and my new dom and i have been together for a month now. I wanted to know how long does a consideration period last, and should I wait for him to bring up being collared? We agreed to take it slow but we are still very much [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Paralysis of Analysis: Over-thinking Your Submission

Paralysis of Analysis: Over-thinking Your Submission

You become paralyzed in thought. Sometimes, that thought becomes so big and overwhelming, it can cause an interruption in daily living

2 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Ask lunaKM – Forced to Lose Weight, Snarky Submissives and Looking for Community

Ask lunaKM – Forced to Lose Weight, Snarky Submissives and Looking for Community

Dear lunaKM, I have been with my Master for a number of months. Most of the time our relationship is great and we have a very strong bond. My only problem is that he seems to have a fixation with my weight. When I first met him he asked me to lose a few pounds. [...]

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Ask lunaKM – Compatibility, Safewords when Deaf and Power Play Preferences

Ask lunaKM – Compatibility, Safewords when Deaf and Power Play Preferences

Dear lunaKM, I’m a complete newbie when it comes to the D/s world. January of this year I met my very first Dominant online. He was sweet and attentive yet firm. We live in two different states but I had decided to move to His town to be closer to Him. I did everything in [...]

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Ask lunaKM – Final Tests of Submission, BBWs in Kink and Dominant Titles

Ask lunaKM – Final Tests of Submission, BBWs in Kink and Dominant Titles

Dear lunaKM, I recently met a Dom online and corresponded with him for over a month. He made it clear from the beginning what his ‘rules’ were and I agreed to them in principle though I also requested some limits of my own as this was to be my first Master/slave relationship. During the months [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Ask lunaKM – Another Batch of Quick Answers

Ask lunaKM – Another Batch of Quick Answers

Hi Luna! Do you feel that another submissive would be a better Mentor to a novice submissive rather than another Dominant? I personally feel that a person of similar role to you can advise and mentor you better than someone who could be your Dominant. So if you are a slave, you should have a [...]

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Single in the Scene Part V: The Truth about Singlehood

Single in the Scene Part V: The Truth about Singlehood

There’s a downright ugly side to it, especially when the slave has been ‘alone’ for a long period of time. That has been my situation. Whew… Breathe with me, for I’m about to share some things that people either don’t think really happens or are afraid to admit to happening …

4 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Mindset, Personal Growth, Relationships
Ask lunaKM – Weakness and Triggers, 24/7 Start and Incompatibility

Ask lunaKM – Weakness and Triggers, 24/7 Start and Incompatibility

Dear lunaKM, I am new to the Submissive role and BDSM in general. To make a long story short I am finally with my best friend from high school 10 years later, after being through a hellish marriage for 5 years and a physically abusive relationship before that…I love my now boyfriend and he is [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything

Chat Night Transcript from Pervertables Talk with FroggyKM

Chat night transcript from the Pervertables Chat with froggyKM on  7/16/13 froggyKM: ok lets get things started! Hello and welcome to another chat night here on Submissive Guide. Please feel free to talk about the subject whenever a thought comes to mind, this is not a moderated talk and you do not have to ask [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Views & More...
When Your Owner’s Home Grows: The Impact of Having Additional Live-in Dominants and submissives

When Your Owner’s Home Grows: The Impact of Having Additional Live-in Dominants and submissives

Anytime you have a Home with one Master and no matter how well ordered, three s-types one of them new to the Home there is going to be administrative issues if nothing else. We have faced everything from handling of the children to dealing with punishments and chore allocation. Never-mind interpersonal issues focusing around relationships and commitments as well as insecurity and a little passive aggressiveness.

2 comments Posted by malak Briar-rose | Posted in: Relationships
Ask lunaKM – Pushing Limits, Exploring as a Top and Talking to Therapists

Ask lunaKM – Pushing Limits, Exploring as a Top and Talking to Therapists

Dear lunaKM, I am a new submissive.  I have been in a relationship with my Dominant for about a year.  I am struggling because my Dominant wants me to explore and push my limits.  He knows that I have had group sex experiences in my past and that they were not positive.   He knows [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Keys to a Successful Relationship-It’s All About Communication

Keys to a Successful Relationship-It’s All About Communication

I know that communication in the lifestyle is one of those topics that are constantly talked about, but I believe that’s because a lot of people don’t truly understand the importance of communication and how easily a relationship can turn sour if there is a breakdown in communication.

6 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics

Chat Night Transcript – Dominant Aftercare

from the Submissive Guide Chat held 7/09/13 on Aftercare for Dominants [20:10] <~lunaKM> Hello and welcome to another chat night here on Submissive Guide. Please feel free to talk about the subject whenever a thought comes to mind, this is not a moderated talk and you do not have to ask permission to speak or [...]

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Roundtable Discussions
Single in the Scene Part IV: Petitioning

Single in the Scene Part IV: Petitioning

Petitioning is an acknowledgment of structure and formality; it is definitely a humbling experience for a slave. It is also a way for a slave to solidly express their desires – no hemming and hawing, no beating around the bush, just a determined statement of the desire.

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