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Explain It To Me: The Draw of Being Spanked

Explain It To Me: The Draw of Being Spanked

Despite being commonplace in kinky relationships, explaining the appeal of being spanked to someone who is new to the scene or curious about it can be difficult.

17 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Book Review: Processing Pain in Play

Book Review: Processing Pain in Play

I got the chance to buy lunaKM’s new version of Processing Pain in Play a littler earlier than everyone else because I had previously purchased the book. And, I hate to admit this, but despite purchasing the previous version of Processing Pain, I had not read it. *hangs head in shame* I know, I know. [...]

Leave a comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Play and Sex, Reviews
Exploring Hormone Junkies: Part 2 – Oxytocin

Exploring Hormone Junkies: Part 2 – Oxytocin

This is a guest post by Erika McClean. Everything your partner is doing is driving you crazy.  They leave the toothpaste cap off.  There was no note to let you know where they went off to that morning.  There is fast food trash in your car when you hop in to go to work.  The [...]

1 comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Play and Sex
Exploring Hormone Junkies: Part 1 – Adrenaline

Exploring Hormone Junkies: Part 1 – Adrenaline

This is a guest post by Erika McLean. Why do people kneel and let other people order them about and hit them with things?  It’s perhaps the most common thing I get asked when people find out my sexual interests.  Why, why, why?  There are volumes of things written about this but, being as I’m [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Play and Sex
Ask lunaKM – New Kink Relationship, Seeking Daddy Doms and Resources to Help Those Coming Out Kinky

Ask lunaKM – New Kink Relationship, Seeking Daddy Doms and Resources to Help Those Coming Out Kinky

Dear lunaKM, I just met a man that is a dom, I am very interested in this lifestyle but also VERY new to it. We are both interested in each other and are both looking for a vanilla life outside the bedroom. My question is how do I start a relationship without jumping in bed [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything

Pain Play Discussed Online – Explore The Variety of Views

Submissive Guide isn’t the only place you can get quality information about the topics of BDSM and this month I’ve been focusing on sadomasochism and pain play. So I’ve done a bit of research and pulled together some of the best online reading on the topic. Browse the list, watch the videos and learn more [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex

How To Manage, Increase and Explore Pain Tolerances in SM Play

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 5/18/13 Whether you are a hard-core masochist or just a light explorer of sadomasochistic pain play there are always opportunies to experience more, push yourself harder and enhance your pain management techniques. How you learn to do this, and the techniques you employ are unique from submissive to submissive (masochist [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Take the Bite Out of Submitting to Pain – Sadomasochism Is Not a Part of Submission

Take the Bite Out of Submitting to Pain – Sadomasochism Is Not a Part of Submission

I’m here to break the news to you about a piece of misinformation about submissives. Are you ready? You do not have to like pain or be a masochist to be submissive. That’s it. That piece of news right there leads to one of the largest reasons so many of you are confused. You think [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Learning Better Pain Processing Through Visualization

Learning Better Pain Processing Through Visualization

This essay was first written and published in the Society of Janus newsletter “Growing Pains.” I hope you enjoy! from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 5/4/13 Pushing boundaries in pain tolerance is a common request for submissives of all flavors. As a masochist I enjoy pain for the sake of pain. I don’t always want to [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Male submission – Financial Domination

Male submission – Financial Domination

Financial Domination is an area of BDSM which often elicits strong opinions. With other BDSM activities such as spanking and bondage, at some point after the Safe, Sane, and Consensual scene is over there is no damage done and things are typically physically back to the way they were. However, if a sub’s money is [...]

24 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission, Relationships

What are Brats and Smart-Assed Masochists?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. brat: A “bratty” submissive has a reputation for talking back, being disrespectful or mildly disobedient. On the surface, this is a negative quality in a submissive; however, a certain amount of [...]

10 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary
Conquer Me Book Club – Week 2

Conquer Me Book Club – Week 2

Welcome to week 2 of the book club event! This week’s reading was intense and meaty, trust me I know! I had to read it twice in order to get everything out of it that I wanted to. What are you thinking about the book so far? The reading this time had to do a [...]

10 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Roundtable Discussions

What is Punishment?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. Depending on who you talk to, punishment can mean different things. Some people have different meaning if you capitalize the P or if you don’t. Others use it synonymous with play. [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary
Perspectives: Flogging

Perspectives: Flogging

I believe the second kinky activity introduced to me after spanking was flogging. Since then I’ve had a love/love relationship with it. Flogging is when a top uses a multi-tailed whip to strike in a swinging motion, often times rhythmically. The material that the flogger is made of varies as much as the sensation. Suede is [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Perspectives: Erotic Spanking

Perspectives: Erotic Spanking

Erotic spanking. It is probably the most common kinky play activity and is done in a lot of relationships that may know nothing about kink at all to those who are extremely kinky. It’s just a hot thing to do during sex. I was being spanked long before I entered the scene. I hope that [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex

[Video] Can I Access Subspace Too?

We talk about subspace a lot in our descriptions of play and scenes we may get into. As an experienced submissive I tend to forget that moment early on when I wanted so badly to experience subspace but had absolutely no clue how to get there or if I would know I had reached it [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex, Video Posts
Embarrassment vs. Humiliation – One Opinion

Embarrassment vs. Humiliation – One Opinion

This has always been a fascinating subject for me. Humiliation, for many, is a large – perhaps even important – part of their D/s dynamic. For these people, there can be a very strong desire to be humiliated. But what is humiliation? We’ve all experienced embarrassment from time to time, and have a fairly good [...]

3 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Play and Sex
What a Pain: Does Pain Tolerance Change Over Time?

What a Pain: Does Pain Tolerance Change Over Time?

A question I was recently asked : “how has you pain tolerance been affected [sic]sense you began BDSM? Also when you first met grimly, if he were to put you through a session like the ones you can stand now, how much would your pain and pleasure be different than now? I’m curious cuz I’m [...]

5 comments Posted by thisgirl | Posted in: Play and Sex
Processing Pain in Play: What is the Benefit of Pain, Anyway?

Processing Pain in Play: What is the Benefit of Pain, Anyway?

Continuing on the topic of processing pain we come to a very basic question, “What’s the benefit of this pain, anyway?” If you aren’t a masochist this can be a question with no clear answer. Some say, “it is part of submission,” others “to please their Sadistic Top,” and still others can say, “the benefits [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Submitting to Pain When You Are Not a Masochist

Submitting to Pain When You Are Not a Masochist

BDSM immediately conjures up images of a whip-wielding Dominatrix punishing some poor submissive who is screaming in pain. As delightful as that image is, not everyone who is a bottom or submissive is in this lifestyle to experience pain. It must be daunting for the newbie who does not enjoy pain to come to a [...]

9 comments Posted by nan {SL} | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Play and Sex
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