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Paralysis of Analysis: Over-thinking Your Submission

Paralysis of Analysis: Over-thinking Your Submission

This is a guest post by Slave Kelly. Paralysis of analysis became a well-known phrase when used by Martin Luther King, Jr., during the Civil Rights Movement.  However, this human phenomenon has been documented for centuries. Paralysis of analysis occurs when one over-thinks an issue, or situation, to the point where the ability to act [...]

2 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Broken Vows: When Vanilla Marriage Falls Apart Because of Kink

Broken Vows: When Vanilla Marriage Falls Apart Because of Kink

I was married before my relationship with my Master, KnyghtMare. We fell in love when dating online was still an unusual thing. We courted and dated for years before we got married. Marriage seemed to be the inevitable next step, so we did that too. Our sex life was very much kink-lite. For the most [...]

41 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
Ask lunaKM – Weakness and Triggers, 24/7 Start and Incompatibility

Ask lunaKM – Weakness and Triggers, 24/7 Start and Incompatibility

Dear lunaKM, I am new to the Submissive role and BDSM in general. To make a long story short I am finally with my best friend from high school 10 years later, after being through a hellish marriage for 5 years and a physically abusive relationship before that…I love my now boyfriend and he is [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Ask lunaKM – Pushing Limits, Exploring as a Top and Talking to Therapists

Ask lunaKM – Pushing Limits, Exploring as a Top and Talking to Therapists

Dear lunaKM, I am a new submissive.  I have been in a relationship with my Dominant for about a year.  I am struggling because my Dominant wants me to explore and push my limits.  He knows that I have had group sex experiences in my past and that they were not positive.   He knows [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Do You Make These Mistakes? Avoid Outing a Fellow BDSM Lifestyler

Do You Make These Mistakes? Avoid Outing a Fellow BDSM Lifestyler

There are a few “sins” in the world of BDSM; ignoring a safe word and touching that which does not belong to you are a few examples.  But, while both of these are bad, one might be able to look at a different point of view.  Someone may ignore a safe word because their scene [...]

1 comment Posted by LaneyDoll | Posted in: Community
The Ring and the Collar: A Personal Opinion on the Symbolism of a Collar

The Ring and the Collar: A Personal Opinion on the Symbolism of a Collar

I am a product of the 80’s, which I think is the greatest decade, ever. I may be a bit partial with my thinking. The music, television, and especially the movies is what makes the 80’s such a memorable decade. One of my favorite movies from that era is “The Princess Bride”. To me, that’s [...]

8 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Relationships
To Have Children Or Not, Now THAT is a Question

To Have Children Or Not, Now THAT is a Question

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 9/22/12 Disclaimer: I do not have children nor are they in my future. The post below discusses the issue of deciding to have children for a variety of reasons besides a natural progression of wanting them, having a partner that wants them and then working towards that end. When KnyghtMare [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
Dealing With Anger As a Submissive

Dealing With Anger As a Submissive

“If your angry, take deep breaths. If your really angry, swear.” – Mark Twain My friend says on her blog, “Anger and I are old friends.” This is why I like her blog so much, because she is very realistic. You’ll probably see a lot of submissives say that they never get angry at their [...]

6 comments Posted by selkie | Posted in: Relationships
The Top 7 Posts of 2012 on Submissive Guide

The Top 7 Posts of 2012 on Submissive Guide

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 9/1/12 As with anything on Submissive Guide I do my best to provide you with accurate opinions and general viewpoints on topics pertaining to BDSM and submission.  Readers such as you, tell me in a variety of ways what I should be focusing on from time to time by the [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive
Submissive Advent – Day 19: Light a Candle

Submissive Advent – Day 19: Light a Candle

Today is day 19 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can go back to that now, or rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also read the introduction post. Most of us enjoy the splendor and glory of candles. Candles are visible reminders of our possible triumph over darkness. Have you [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Advent Calendar

[Video Post] Introducing BDSM to Your Partner

On the heels of a fantastic three-post series on this very subject I’ve been receiving requests for advice and help on how to introduce BDSM to your partner, so I’m going to talk about the key points I think will help any partner open up about BDSM with their mate. It is a scary proposition [...]

11 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships, Video Posts
How Love Feeds Service in a D/s Relationship

How Love Feeds Service in a D/s Relationship

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 6/2/12 It is true that we are newlyweds and we do all the newlywed sort of things that you’d expect to see; the hand holding, overt affection in public, lovey eyes and little giggling grins.  What you may not see is that we’ve actually been together for 8 years and [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
Solo Coaching – Re-write Negative Thinking

Solo Coaching – Re-write Negative Thinking

Last month I told you about a model I’ll be using to help you coach yourself into a better submissive space called the CREATE Model. It has worked for me to begin the internal work on the parts of me I’d like to change. Today we’ll talk about one of the steps of the CREATE [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Personal Growth
Adding The Second Submissive – Branching Out Into Poly Relationships For The First Time

Adding The Second Submissive – Branching Out Into Poly Relationships For The First Time

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 5/19/12 If you had asked me six months ago if I was into poly relationships I’d probably say no. KnyghtMare and I are happily monogamous and have been so for 8 years.  He’s had play partners, but never with any sex so I still considered us monogamous even if the [...]

11 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships

Points to Negotiate in Your D/s Contact That May Not Have Ever Occurred to You

We all put a huge amount of thought into our contacts-or we should.  But there are often times that things arise and we have no way of predicting them.  I recently shared another post about “Outside Forces.”  In that post, I talked about steps that may be taken when an outside force storms it way [...]

5 comments Posted by LaneyDoll | Posted in: Relationships
Fictional Stories of Male Submission

Fictional Stories of Male Submission

Fictional BDSM stories or erotica are often not only enjoyable but also may be a good way to learn what might be enjoyable to the reader in real life.  Those who are new to BDSM often do not know what activities and mindsets they might enjoy and while non-fiction articles, blogs, and communities are a [...]

6 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission

Research Page: Domestic Discipline

One of the easier topics for me to research has been Domestic Discipline. There is so much information out there of all types on this sort of relationship. Much of it is terrible. I’ve weeded through a lot of misunderstandings to get to the truth. Here’s what I’ve learned. Domestic Discipline is the practice between [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships, Research Pages

Research Page: Poly in BDSM

Polyamory in BDSM is a complex and challenging living arrangement no matter who you are. Poly and BDSM separately are entire worlds themselves so to put them together can only mean that there is going to be a lot of negotiation, communication and openness. No matter where you go there is bound to be discussion [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Research Pages
What Does It Means to be Collared?

What Does It Means to be Collared?

If you need to learn more about collars before reading this post, I suggest What is a Collar? What does it mean to be collared? It can mean many things to many different people. For some it is a new beginning in a journey. For others it is a step in the training process. It [...]

32 comments Posted by LadySneak | Posted in: Relationships
How to Use the “30 Days” Memes Effectively to Maximize Submissive Growth

How to Use the “30 Days” Memes Effectively to Maximize Submissive Growth

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 12-17-11 We’ve all seen them on other people’s blogs. You may have even done them as a way to prompt yourself with something to write. They are fun. They are memes. Memes are the quizzes, questions, and games that seem to spread like a virus all over the blogging scene [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Personal Growth
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