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Solo-Coaching – Tearing Down Old Defensive Behaviors

Solo-Coaching – Tearing Down Old Defensive Behaviors

Sometimes, as we grow up, we hang on to old defense mechanisms that served us fine at the time, but now seem to garner negative feedback. Here’s how you too can rewrite old defensive behaviors into something that will serve you much better.

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Personal Growth
5 Ways Rituals Enhance Your Relationship with Yourself and Your Dynamic

5 Ways Rituals Enhance Your Relationship with Yourself and Your Dynamic

Every relationship can be enhanced by ritual and also every person in the exchange can get something from ritual. It’s not hard to get started either.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Rituals and Routines

Consent is Key: SSC and RACK

We will take SSC apart and make consensuality the core for all interactions for it is the most valuable part of a D/s exchange.

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Newsletter Archive
5 Simple Steps to Creating a Personal Submissive Mantra

5 Simple Steps to Creating a Personal Submissive Mantra

For a personal mantra to work, it has to be positive. It has to reaffirm your choices in life and establish a realistic goal you can accomplish or a life dream fulfilled.

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Personal Growth
Who Influences Your Submission?

Who Influences Your Submission?

When I find that I’m paying more attention to what society is trying to tell me and people who don’t know or understand me, then I’m not paying attention to Daddy or my heart. That’s when I lose sight of what’s really important.

3 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Community, Personal Growth
Little Known Ways We Experience Sub Space

Little Known Ways We Experience Sub Space

Sub space is a real thing. It does happen and there are many ways you can reach sub space, experience sub space and come out of sub space. And there are people that don’t reach sub space. That doesn’t make you any less of a submissive, not at all. It just means you experience things differently.

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
The Role of a Collar in a Long Distance D/s Relationship

The Role of a Collar in a Long Distance D/s Relationship

Wearing a collar is not just a way to signify to myself and others that I have given myself to another person, it’s a way to comfort myself when I’m feeling alone and to reassure myself on the days when I don’t feel actively submissive.

2 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Online Submission
Coming to an Understanding – I am a Slave

Coming to an Understanding – I am a Slave

Sometimes, I do feel weak for having these moments, but I have to realize that after all, I’m still human and have all those wonderful human emotions and thought processes to deal with.

12 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Finding My Submissive Focus With a Mantra

Finding My Submissive Focus With a Mantra

If you think that a personal mantra would be a great way to help you keep yourself in the proper submissive mindset, I encourage you to speak with your owner to come up with one that works for you.

2 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Submissive Advent – Day 2: Create a Submissive Token

Submissive Advent – Day 2: Create a Submissive Token

Today we are going to make something that will help remind us of our peace and grace through these next few crazy weeks of gift wrapping, family, friends and frazzled nerves.

9 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Advent Calendar
Submissive Advent – Day 1: In Wait

Submissive Advent – Day 1: In Wait

This month, that something special will hopefully be a new personal realization in yourself and your submissive nature. Take a moment today and select 2 lines from the sonnet above that touches you and your current position in life. Write it out on a note card or piece of paper and tape it to your bathroom mirror or computer monitor. Use it as a reflective mantra this month.

27 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Advent Calendar

Why Safety is Preached to Novices and Why It’s Important to Know Anyway

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 3/3/10 Being in the BDSM community for any length of time you are likely to come across the common sermons of SSC, Safe Calls and First Meeting Safety. When you are novice in BDSM I’d encourage you to listen to these sermons and listen hard; they could protect you as [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Safety

When You Can’t Get Away: Follow Up to Submissive PMS

In a recent video post about Submissive PMS I had someone email me with some questions that I thought deserved a new post. If you haven’t seen the video or attached post, please go to the article and read it first! Now on to his questions: 1. What’s a subbie to do when, for whatever [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
7 Things You Can Do Today to Impove Your Submission

7 Things You Can Do Today to Impove Your Submission

A question I see asked all the time is “how can I be a better submissive?” Here are a few things you can do to make your submission and service better without a lot of work. 1. Move with purpose. If you have been asked to fetch something or approach your Dominant, be precise in [...]

15 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
A Great Example of a Slave’s Rosary

A Great Example of a Slave’s Rosary

On FetLife quite awhile back now, a slave posted her version of a rosary with her Master as the focus. As with any rosary or prayer beads, it is used in mediation and presents a spirituality in service that can be adopted and adapted to fit your relationship. I’ve always had a curiosity with religious [...]

22 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Mindset, Spirituality
Finding Your Spirituality In Service

Finding Your Spirituality In Service

A recent journal prompt I came across really inspired me to write about it.  It is spirituality. A lot of what I hear about spirituality is related to religion, but BDSM can be spiritual too and I’d like to explore that with you. What is the relationship between spirituality and religion? Is BDSM spiritual? –Submissive [...]

15 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Mindset, Service, Spirituality
RACK(Risk Aware Concensual Kink): A Realistic Alternative to SSC

RACK(Risk Aware Concensual Kink): A Realistic Alternative to SSC

In a previous post I talked about Safe, Sane and Consensual or SSC, a safety mantra that quite a bit of the BDSM community has picked up as a way to explain ourselves to non-lifestyle people. It’s an easy way to explain what can’t really be explained. I don’t intend to make this a primer [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Safety

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