By Guest Author on April 12, 2010
This is a guest post by kahluna. It’s funny to me to see people wanting a Dominant but then looking for “chemistry” as well. They want to fall in love with the Dominant of their dreams. Apparently, these submissives have come into the lifestyle thinking that a Dominant is BDSMs version of Prince Charming. Ladies, [...]
Posted in Relationships | Tagged checklist, common sense, communication, D/s relationship, Dom, dominant, fall in love, love, myths, Relationships, romance, skills |
By Guest Author on January 15, 2010
This is a guest post by dani. She is a new submissive in an Adult Nursing relationship.You can read about Erotic Lactation at Wikipedia or visit Land of Milk and Honey for more information. We didn’t start 2009 with any kind of BDSM activities in our lives, so we have quite the journey over the [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged activities, adult nursing relationship, BDSM, bdsm activities, bdsm play feature, connection, cons, dani, erotic lactation, feature series, fetlife, guest post, information, journey, kinky, love, play, relationship, rt, sex, submissive, tall |
By Guest Author on January 11, 2010
This is another guest post for the BDSM Play Feature here on SubmissiveGuide. This post about Fire Play is by Gwendolyn. Enjoy! I have always been a fire bug and am a volunteer fire fighter. So when I became interested in BDSM and heard about fire play it was definitely top of my list of [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged amazon.com, basics, BDSM, bdsm play, bdsm play feature, book, bottom, cons, danger, Dom, Domme, email, event, events, experience, feature series, fetlife, fire cupping, fire drumming, fire fleshing, fire flogging, fire play, fire whipping, focus, friends, friendships, guest post, Gwendolyn, health, information, learned, leather, love, m/s, online, opinion, pain tolerance, play, poly, questions, review, risk, rt, safe, Safety, scene, Service, single, slave, stress, submissive, support, toy, toys, trust, websites, writing |
By Guest Author on January 8, 2010
This is a guest post by bgtreasure for the BDSM Play Feature Series here on Submissive Guide. I choose this topic to write about because it is my favorite form of play and has been since I’ve found this wonderful thing we call “The Lifestyle”. The general definition of Impact Play that you will find [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged BDSM, bdsm lifestyle, bdsm play, bdsm play feature, bgtreasure, connection, cons, edge play, event, experience, favorite, feature series, fetlife, fists, floggers, focus, guest post, hands, help, Impact, impact play, lifestyle, love, munch, normal, owned, paddles, play, positions, relationship, rt, series, share, spanking, stress, submissive, subspace, wants, whips |
By lunaKM on December 18, 2009
I was listening to Mistress Matisse’s Guest Appearance the other day on the Savage Lovecast (Ep 163). She talks about a lot of kinky topics that callers ask Dan Savage. Somewhere near the end there was an interesting comment by Dan where he asked MM if nerds and geeks are more likely to be into [...]
Posted in Social Norms | Tagged advice, BDSM, body language, Bondage, challenges, dreams, friends, geeks, humor, implement, kinky, love, nerds, online, play, rt, sex, stress, Study |
By lunaKM on December 16, 2009
“I have a fetish for wool socks, I just love them!” “I have a fetish for corsets, I can’t get off without thinking of them!” One of these statements is a sure sign of a fetish; the other is a misuse of the term. Sure this is a poor example. How many times have you [...]
Posted in Playtime | Tagged BDSM, blogs, body parts, cons, corsets, desires, development, Dom, dominant, favorite, fetishes, fetishism, fetishist, foot fetish, gender, hands, health, latex, learning, leather, love, obsession, partialism, piercing, play, preference, relationship, role play, rt, safe, sex, sexual fetishes, sexual fetishism, share, size, speech, standing, stimulus, stress, submissive, understanding, what is a fetish, worship |
By lunaKM on December 14, 2009
Submissive Guide is run by your donations, and affiliate purchases. I’m looking ahead into my 2nd year providing quality writing that is meant to help submissives everywhere learn about themselves and the services they wish to provide. I could use your help. If you find Submissive Guide to be a valuable resource, please consider making [...]
Posted in Webmaster Notes | Tagged BDSM, book, books, cons, contest, donate via paypal, donations, giveaway, help, love, review, Service, submissive, writing |
By lunaKM on November 30, 2009
After the impressive response I got from the first list, I decided to make up another list. Besides, there are many many wonderful submissive blogs out there. Here’s more of the cream of the crop, so to speak. I’d love you to go to each of these websites, leave a comment and tell them Submissive [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged bdsm blogs, Best Submissive Blogs, blogroll, blogs, control, discipline, Disciplined Feminist, little girl, love, submissive, submissive blogs, websites |
By lunaKM on November 25, 2009
Last week I asked you to talk about your favorite scene memory. Here are the submissions I got. There is some excellent advice here folks! Check it out. Make sure you leave comments! (Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.) pet’s journey BDSM is Love The conversation isn’t over. If [...]
Posted in SubWise | Tagged advice, BDSM, carnival, favorite, journey, love, memories, rt, scene, scene memory, share, submission, submissions, submissive, SubWise |
By lunaKM on November 20, 2009
Gather around the table everyone, I’d like to learn about something I don’t know a lot about. I welcome you to add your thoughts and comments to this post and if you feel an inclination, send me a guest post letting me know what you think. This month I’d like to talk about chastity. If [...]
Posted in Roundtable Discussions | Tagged cages, chastity, chastity belts, choice, cons, control, guest post, inclination, love, opinion, orgasm control, questions, rt, submission |
By Guest Author on November 16, 2009
This is a Guest Post by A. She is a new submissive in her first 24/7 dynamic. I received this wonderfully written review of her first 30 days and she offered to share it with everyone here. Enjoy! It has come to my attention after reading submissiveguide.com that my training with Sir has already begun, [...]
Posted in Submission | Tagged 24/7, acceptance, BDSM, Bondage, clean, cleaning, clothing, control, D/s, Dom, Dominance, dress, dynamic, experience, favorite, fetlife, focus, grooming, growth and development, guest post, hands, help, honesty, infraction, kneeling, learned, learning, lingerie, love, natural, needs, online, orgasm control, play, positions, progress, protocol, punishment, RACK, relationship, requests, review, risk, ritual, rituals, rt, sex, share, spanking, speech, submission, submissive, submissive understanding, toy, toys, training, understanding, wants, worship, writing |
By lunaKM on November 13, 2009
With Thanksgiving (USA) just around the corner I thought it would be fitting to write about gratitude, and how to express your gratitude to the one you serve. Sure you can say thank you. That’s standard. I really hope you take every opportunity to say thank you, but what if you want a few more [...]
Posted in Relationships, Rituals and Routines | Tagged bath, being thankful, development, Dom, Dominance, dominant, dynamic, focus, gratitude, happiness, help, kneeling, love, normal, online, play, relationship, Relationships, requests, ritual, rituals, rt, rules, Service, setting the table, sex, share, showing appreciation, skills, stress, submission, thanksgiving |
By lunaKM on November 2, 2009
I love reading BDSM fiction, erotica and other service books. I broke my kinky teeth on the Story of O so I can’t ignore it on this list, but it’s not the best of the best. I’d like to offer up the books that I love and enjoy to read; most of which I like [...]
Posted in Views & More... | Tagged amazon.com, BDSM, bdsm books, bdsm fiction, book, book list, books, erotica, kinky, love, play, punishment, rt, safe, series, Service, slave, submissive, toy |
By lunaKM on October 26, 2009
I’ve been witness to a shocking new trend in relationships lately. Perhaps I’m old school or old fashioned but what I’m seeing in today’s society, and not just the BDSM culture, is the lack of effort in relationships. As I was raised I was taught that something worthwhile wasn’t always easy to achieve and you [...]
Posted in Relationships | Tagged advice, BDSM, begging, communication, cons, disposable, disposable relationship mentality, disposable relationships, experience, family, happiness, love, marriage, online, questions, recommendations, relationship, Relationships, ritual, rt, spirit, spiritual, standing, understanding |
By lunaKM on October 17, 2009
This week’s video post is about sub space. When you first heard about sub space it was probably something that you either thought you’d never experience or something that seemed so strange and foreign that you believed it to be a myth. Then you heard the stories and could swear that people were on drugs [...]
Posted in Playtime, Video Posts | Tagged connection, Dom, dominant, emotions, endorphins, experience, focus, happiness, information, love, masochist, play, prayer, rt, Service, slave, spirit, sub space, submission, subspace, trust, value |
By lunaKM on October 15, 2009
lunaKM> So, first I’d like to get some impression about how new you are to submission. Could you please tell me how long you have been exploring submission and if you are in a relationship right now? lunaKM> hello aquamuse aquamuse> Hello, I’m new of course. eagerslut> I am in a relationship and just recently [...]
Posted in Views & More... | Tagged 24/7, activities, BDSM, book, bottom, calendar, chat, chat night, choice, choices, classes, clean, connection, cons, control, D/s, Dom, Dominance, dominant, dominants, Domme, dress, event, events, experience, focus, grace, growth, health, help, IRC, kneeling, learned, learning, lifestyle, love, m/s, marriage, mentor, natural, needs, newsletter, online, perfection, pride, purpose, relationship, requests, Resources, routine, rt, rules, separation, Service, serving, sex, sharing, shaving, shower, size, slave, stress, submission, submissive, submissive chat, surrender, tall, tasks, tips, training, transcript, writing |
By lunaKM on October 12, 2009
I love surfing the submissive blogs to see what other people are talking about. Many times it gives me something to talk about here on this site. This post is one such example. Over on Underhishand.com, kaya asked about submission and what qualifies it as submission. She asked if you are not expected to do [...]
Posted in Submission | Tagged activities, blogs, changing, competition, cons, discussion, Dom, dominant, limits, love, needs, normal, opinion, preference, preferences, RACK, relationship, routine, rt, submission, submissive, submissive blogs, washing dishes, what is submissive |
By lunaKM on October 6, 2009
FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE – Please cross-post Welcome to the 3rd Annual Submissive Journey Weekend… I am proud to announce that registration for the next Submissive Journey Weekend is now open. We cordially invite those who identify as submissive, slave, girl, boi /boy, bottom, pup, etc. to a weekend of learning, growth and support. All genders, [...]
Posted in Views & More... | Tagged BDSM event, bottom, classes, discussion, educational opportunities, event, experience, focus, gender, growth, information, journey, learning, love, questions, relationship, rt, Service, sex, sexual orientation, share, SJW, skills, slave, submissive, submissive event, submissive journey weekend, support, training |
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