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I’m Afraid of My Long Distance Dom

I’m Afraid of My Long Distance Dom

For fear of angering him I submit and abide by this punishment, leaving me more stressed I have fallen in love with my dom, I am not allowed to call him by name. I feel I m pushed up against a wall at all times. What should I do?

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships, Safety
How Long Should I Wait For Him To Contact Me?

How Long Should I Wait For Him To Contact Me?

Hi  Luna.  Yes I have a question…. I never know where I stand with this man. He talks about the future when we are together. He brings it up, he speaks what we will be doing etc. I don’t say too much. I want this very badly, but he calls all the shots. This is fine with [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Beginner Basics
Ask lunaKM – How Can I Manage Sub Drop in a Long Distance Relationship?

Ask lunaKM – How Can I Manage Sub Drop in a Long Distance Relationship?

I’m sure you have addressed this… But would you be willing to give some advice on sub drop in long distance relationships? I have been with my Dom 7 months and he is wonderful, amazing, and perfect at after care, but there still is the emotional sub drop after play. Thank you for any advice you can [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Tips for Developing Long Distance Relationships

Tips for Developing Long Distance Relationships

from the 3/14/15 Submissive Guide Newsletter I admit that it’s been over a decade since I was in a long distance relationship, but I know that even with that thought, the complexities of a long distance relationship are still a common part of what I deal with on a daily basis in responding to emails [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: Missing You

Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: Missing You

Intro: Where were we again? It might be in poor taste to pick up where I left off after nearly a two-year hiatus from Submissive Guide, but I felt that long distance relationships was as appropriate as any to begin with, if not a little ironic. My Dominant and I are on the cusp of [...]

2 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships
How I Prepare for Master’s Visit

How I Prepare for Master’s Visit

For whatever reason it seems that many members of the BDSM community are in long-distance, or temporarily long-distance relationships with our dominants. In some of the online forums I am a part of I regularly see submissives and babygirls freaking out in the days before their dominant arrives for a visit – as I am [...]

1 comment Posted by andyiccee | Posted in: Relationships, Service
Putting First Things First: Staying Connected When Apart

Putting First Things First: Staying Connected When Apart

This year, I was sent away for work for almost 3 months. That is a long time to be away from my Master! As the dates approached, I worried about the silly things – would He be able to come and visit? Would my roommate be nice? And ugh – a roommate! I knew it [...]

4 comments Posted by moonlight | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships
What It Is Like Being a Little in a Long Distance Relationship

What It Is Like Being a Little in a Long Distance Relationship

The other day I got an email from a reader who had a question about being in a long distance relationship with his little and wanting to know some ideas on how to make that work. Like usual when I get a question from a reader, I got super excited(because I do love hearing from [...]

12 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Online Submission, Relationships
Exploring Play and Punishment in a Long Distance Relationship

Exploring Play and Punishment in a Long Distance Relationship

If you’ve wondered whether you can enjoy kinky playtime with your Dominant in a long distance relationship (LDR), wonder no more! I am here to tell you that it’s entirely possible—and very enjoyable. While we were separated by a few thousand miles, I was very fortunate that my Dom was only one time zone ahead [...]

11 comments Posted by pinksubgeek | Posted in: Online Submission, Play and Sex
Playtime Activities You Can Do in Long Distance Relationships

Playtime Activities You Can Do in Long Distance Relationships

I think that many of us would agree that while playtime is not the most important aspect of our relationships, it plays a fairly vital role in our happiness in those relationships. It is, after all, one of the things that drive us to realize that mainstream relationships just don’t fit right for us, the [...]

6 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Online Submission
Ask lunaKM – Sexting, How to get Started and Scene Fantasies

Ask lunaKM – Sexting, How to get Started and Scene Fantasies

Dear lunaKM, My D/s is a long distance relationship. We have not met in person. Just starting out, he’s training me so to speak. I am new. We are planning to meet eventually, it is set. So my question: He sends me scenes via text. Does a submissive send scenes as well? What scene form [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
The Longing of Being Owned

The Longing of Being Owned

I remember it was about ten years ago when I was first introduced to the Sleeping Beauty trilogy by Anne Rice. I had stumbled across the series by accident while browsing the erotica section of a local bookstore. I had no idea what they were about but had read a lot of Anne Rice’s works [...]

6 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Expressing Your Submission (with hair!)

Expressing Your Submission (with hair!)

I’ve read a half-dozen articles on scattered around the scene that talk about all sorts of methods for keeping your body clean, for dressing to inspire confidence—or tactics to boost confidence without wearing anything at all; I’ve seen articles detailing in methods of hair removal, of after-hair-removal-care, but somehow in the jumble of cyberspace, I [...]

6 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: The Big Meet

Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: The Big Meet

As I mentioned in my introduction to this series, online submission is a bit of a hot-button among D/s practitioners. There are a lot of great arguments for why it doesn’t work, and for each of those, there’s an equally strong counterargument for why it’s a perfectly valid arrangement; but chances are, unless you’re submitting [...]

5 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships, Safety
Developing Effective Communication in Long Distance Relationships

Developing Effective Communication in Long Distance Relationships

To say that communication is important in a relationship is like saying that man must breathe to live: one simply shouldn’t have to specify its importance. Yet somehow, although I have never heard of a person who died because he forgot how to breathe, I have seen many relationships fall apart due to a distinct [...]

4 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Online Submission
Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: Introduction

Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: Introduction

After writing “Rules for the Working Sub” my Dom suggested that I continue writing articles that focus on the long distance aspects of our relationship. At her encouragement, I’ve decided to try my hand at a series which I hope will be of help to anyone who is involved, or is thinking of becoming involved, [...]

11 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Online Submission
Rules for the Working Sub

Rules for the Working Sub

When you’re working full time in a professional field, the desire to submit can be impeded by a good number of obstacles. As a submissive who balances my full-time employment with my submissive role, one of my chief concerns will always be finding a way to please my dominant while maintaining a strong professional image [...]

3 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics
The Role of a Collar in a Long Distance D/s Relationship

The Role of a Collar in a Long Distance D/s Relationship

Welcome kallista to Submissive Guide contributors! It’s no secret that having a working long distance relationship is a challenge, even under the most traditional circumstances, but when the dynamics of your relationship are dependent upon the delicate balance of give and take between Dominant and submissive, the potential challenges that you face increase tenfold. When [...]

2 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Online Submission
I’m a Shy Web Cam Model, Can That Be Detrimental to Finding a Dominant?

I’m a Shy Web Cam Model, Can That Be Detrimental to Finding a Dominant?

I’m very new to this lifestyle. I became interested in it because I work part time as a webcam model and found I really enjoyed doing as I was told. I am exploring online and trying to better understand what I like. However the Dominants I have encountered have issues with me. They don’t like [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Beginner Basics
Male Submission – Foot Fetish

Male Submission – Foot Fetish

In this part 3 of my series of articles about Male Submission on The Submissive Guide, I discuss the role of a foot fetish. There are a whole lot of guys who have a fetish for feet, and while there are women who also have a foot fetish it is by far more prevalent with [...]

11 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission, Play and Sex
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