By lunaKM on May 15, 2010
This is a video post about no limits slavery – or rather, why I think it doesn’t exist. Last month Rayne wrote a post about how she lives in a no limits slavery relationship and how it works for her. I like that she covered a few of the common challenges to her way of [...]
Posted in Submission, Video Posts | Tagged dominants, limits, no limits slavery, rt, slave, value |
By Rayne on April 26, 2010
I said before I’m a “no limits” slave. Bring on the barrage of “What if your master wanted to cut your arm off?” type questions. There are few scenarios related to what most would consider safe and sane kink that I will attempt to avoid, but when it comes right down to it, if The [...]
Posted in Safety | Tagged communication, limits, logic, no limits slavery, novice experiences, safe words, scenarios, slave, trust |
By lunaKM on October 12, 2009
I love surfing the submissive blogs to see what other people are talking about. Many times it gives me something to talk about here on this site. This post is one such example. Over on Underhishand.com, kaya asked about submission and what qualifies it as submission. She asked if you are not expected to do [...]
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By lunaKM on September 24, 2009
<~luna[KM]> Now I’d like to hear from everyone… have you experienced subspace? If you don’t know if you have, it’s okay. <selene1123> i’m pretty new…so i think i have but am not sure <slavelauren> i have <radiogirl> I most definitely have <pet_rain> i’m not sure i think i would like a clear definition i’v heard [...]
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By Guest Author on September 15, 2009
Today’s guest post is by dina from Kajiradreams. She’s donated a few posts for this week on Gorean Living so watch for them in the coming days! My Master gave me the task of writing down my thoughts on what it means to be an owned kajira. I can only ever write this from my [...]
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By lunaKM on August 26, 2009
It can be very scary approaching a Dominant and asking them to play with you. The butterflies in your belly can make it very difficult to take that first step. It can be every worse if you two don’t negotiate the scene so that you get what you want out of it and s/he does [...]
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By lunaKM on August 24, 2009
Competition is human nature. From the time we are children we start to see who is ‘better’ and hopefully that is you. It could be as simple as having more ice cream than your sibling thus making you better or getting the best grade on a test, making you better than everyone else in the [...]
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By lunaKM on August 10, 2009
Each and every day there is the chance to scew up and be disobedient. Luckily, most of us won’t break rules every single day but when we do we know that punishment will come swiftly and precisely. That is, unless you are an online submissive. Then there are a few other steps to having punishment [...]
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By lunaKM on July 27, 2009
An important part of negotiating a scene is discussing what you want out of the scene. Sure there are a lot of really thorough BDSM checklists that you could fill out if you don’t want to really think about what turns you on and drives you crazy with pleasure. BDSM checklists all live under different [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics, Training Resume | Tagged abuse, activities, BDSM, bdsm activities, bdsm checklist, book, books, checklist, cons, desires, experience, health, help, information, kinky, limits, marks, needs, negotiation, online, permanent marks, play, player, resume, rt, safe, Safety, scene, sex, share, submission, training, Training Resume |
By lunaKM on June 19, 2009
When you first start talking to a potential Dominant you go through an initial interview. A lot of times this is just a period where basic questions are asked and your answers help the Dominant gauge just how interested you are in them, how compatible you are with them and what your intelligence level is. [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged Dom, dominant, dominants, dress, experience, good interviews, help, history, interview, limits, preference, preferences, questions, relationship, resume, rt, rules, short, speech, standing, stress, submissive, tips, understanding, wants, what to wear, worship, writing |
By lunaKM on May 11, 2009
Each social situation we expose ourselves to has it’s own set of rules and behaviors. This is also true of BDSM events, perhaps even moreso. A play party will have different rules at each location you may attend one. There will be established rules as well as house/location rules. There are also unspoken rules that [...]
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By lunaKM on May 6, 2009
Every so often I want to open up the blog for you to share and teach me on a topic that I don’t know a lot about. This is your chance to teach me and the other readers of this blog. I encourage you to comment, subscribe to the comments and keep coming back to [...]
Posted in Relationships, Roundtable Discussions | Tagged activities, book, cons, event, experience, friendships, hands, Impact, jealousy, lifestyle, limits, marriage, open marriages, open relationships, partners, poly, polyamory, questions, relationship, Relationships, rt, rules, safe, Safety, sex, sexual encounters, share |
By lunaKM on April 9, 2009
A couple week’s ago I held a Roundtable discussion on Polyamory. You had a lot to say about it. I also had a guest post on polyamory, written by May. Coming up this week is a second guest post about having two Dominats in a poly relationship by Aria. Keep an eye out for that [...]
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By lunaKM on April 3, 2009
This week’s video tip is on the BDSM Checklist. If you’ve just started out in BDSM and have asked a few questions, it is very likely that you have been directed to use a checklist to become familiar with what you may or may not like in play and roles and fetishes. If you haven’t [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics, Training Resume, Video Posts | Tagged abuse, activities, BDSM, bdsm checklist, bdsm play, checklist, email, event, fetishes, help, limits, links, paraphilias, play, play activites, questions, relationship, resume, roles, rt, Safety, share, training, Training Resume, value |
By lunaKM on March 27, 2009
Sub Drop can come in many different forms. Sub Drop is the emotional and physical affects of the release and drop of endorphins in the body after a play session. Most of what you read online are the physical aspects; the fatigue, sadness, aches and pains and recovery from marks. There is a more intense [...]
Posted in Mindset, Playtime | Tagged ad space, advice, aftercare, balance, BDSM, book, boundaries, communication, connection, cons, consensual, depression, dress, emotions, endorphins, experience, fear, friends, help, history, instability, intimacy, kinky, lifestyle, limits, loneliness, love, marks, normal, online, partners, play, purpose, questions, recovery, relationship, Relationships, rt, sadness, scene, sub drop, submissive, trust |
By lunaKM on March 23, 2009
If you’ve been around the BDSM and D/s scene at all there is one of many books that always comes up in conversation as a good book to read when you are new to the whole lifestyle. This book is Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism by [...]
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By lunaKM on February 20, 2009
Predators and abusive Dominants are everywhere. I’ve seen them and been subjected to them in a casual relationship. Thankfully I escaped into a kind and loving relationship that I wouldn’t trade for the world. But how do you know the person you are with is an abuser and not just a strict Dominant? I’m going [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics, Safety | Tagged abuse, abusive relationships, assistance, BDSM, clothing, connection, danger, dangers, dating, Dom, domestic violence project, dominant, dominants, essays, family, guilt, help, internet, learning, leather, limits, love, national leather association, needs, play, predators, red flags, relationship, Relationships, rt, safe, safe words, Safety, sex, support, trust, warning signs, warnings |
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