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Beyond Limits: The Illusion of Safety

Beyond Limits: The Illusion of Safety

The only true limitations are those fundamental values that you carry at your core. The inviolate lines that you will not cross for to do so you believe would compromise who you believe yourself to be. That final line in the sand.

1 comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Safety
What are my limits?

What are my limits?

There’s a lot you can do to learn about BDSM and what your limits might be.

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Beginner Basics
Overcoming a Limit (A Reflection)

Overcoming a Limit (A Reflection)

Overcoming limits is a part of the journeys we take as subs. It’s a healthy, often invigorating challenge.

2 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Personal Growth
A Personal Story About Discovering and Testing Limits

A Personal Story About Discovering and Testing Limits

Discovering limits is almost as innocuous and confusing as exploring the kinks and fetishes we do want to play with.

Leave a comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Beginner Basics
How I Identify as Monogamous in a Poly Dynamic

How I Identify as Monogamous in a Poly Dynamic

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 11/22/14 I’ve written a few times about the change in my personal relationship with KnyghtMare and I. He had play and relationship needs that I couldn’t meet and it was creating a rift between us. The only solution that we could see was to open up the relationship. It evolved [...]

Do I have to give control of everything to be submissive?

Do I have to give control of everything to be submissive?

Hello Luna, Just have been wondering something lately and I was hoping you could help out. Is it possible to be someone’s submissive if there’s one thing you just cannot give up control over? I am an incredibly picky eater and it’s actually my biggest fear in life to try new foods. I know it’s [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Exploring Hormone Junkies: Part 2 – Oxytocin

Exploring Hormone Junkies: Part 2 – Oxytocin

This is a guest post by Erika McClean. Everything your partner is doing is driving you crazy.  They leave the toothpaste cap off.  There was no note to let you know where they went off to that morning.  There is fast food trash in your car when you hop in to go to work.  The [...]

1 comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Play and Sex
Exploring Hormone Junkies: Part 1 – Adrenaline

Exploring Hormone Junkies: Part 1 – Adrenaline

This is a guest post by Erika McLean. Why do people kneel and let other people order them about and hit them with things?  It’s perhaps the most common thing I get asked when people find out my sexual interests.  Why, why, why?  There are volumes of things written about this but, being as I’m [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Play and Sex
Ask lunaKM – Fear of Losing Yourself, Poor Contact Frequency and Sending Nude Pictures

Ask lunaKM – Fear of Losing Yourself, Poor Contact Frequency and Sending Nude Pictures

Dear lunaKM, My husband and I have been playing in the BDSM lifestyle for several months now.  I love the idea of this but have always had a strong personality.  I love to please him and want to be a good submissive to him but I fear losing myself or for it to go too [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Ask lunaKM – Forced to Lose Weight, Snarky Submissives and Looking for Community

Ask lunaKM – Forced to Lose Weight, Snarky Submissives and Looking for Community

Dear lunaKM, I have been with my Master for a number of months. Most of the time our relationship is great and we have a very strong bond. My only problem is that he seems to have a fixation with my weight. When I first met him he asked me to lose a few pounds. [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: The Big Meet

Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: The Big Meet

As I mentioned in my introduction to this series, online submission is a bit of a hot-button among D/s practitioners. There are a lot of great arguments for why it doesn’t work, and for each of those, there’s an equally strong counterargument for why it’s a perfectly valid arrangement; but chances are, unless you’re submitting [...]

5 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships, Safety
Ask lunaKM – Final Tests of Submission, BBWs in Kink and Dominant Titles

Ask lunaKM – Final Tests of Submission, BBWs in Kink and Dominant Titles

Dear lunaKM, I recently met a Dom online and corresponded with him for over a month. He made it clear from the beginning what his ‘rules’ were and I agreed to them in principle though I also requested some limits of my own as this was to be my first Master/slave relationship. During the months [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Keys to a Successful Relationship: Trust is Like a Mirror…

Keys to a Successful Relationship: Trust is Like a Mirror…

This is the third in an ongoing series where I will be writing about key factors it takes to have a successful relationship. This third article is about the importance of trust and the role it plays in our relationships. Check out the previous articles – It’s All About Communication and Honesty is the Best [...]

2 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Male submission – Financial Domination

Male submission – Financial Domination

Financial Domination is an area of BDSM which often elicits strong opinions. With other BDSM activities such as spanking and bondage, at some point after the Safe, Sane, and Consensual scene is over there is no damage done and things are typically physically back to the way they were. However, if a sub’s money is [...]

24 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission, Relationships
Keys to a Successful Relationship-It’s All About Communication

Keys to a Successful Relationship-It’s All About Communication

This is the first in an ongoing series where I will be writing about key factors it takes to have a successful relationship. This first article is about the importance that communication plays in our relationships. Awhile ago, I came across this article in the NY Times about how BDSM has become a bit more [...]

6 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Ask lunaKM – Protocol-Driven Leather Lifestyle, Adding Another Submissive and Starting a Submissive Journal

Ask lunaKM – Protocol-Driven Leather Lifestyle, Adding Another Submissive and Starting a Submissive Journal

Dear Luna, In response to your post “Influx of Bossy Newbies Killing Old School Traditions”, I wanted to ask: Where can I learn about the protocol-driven Leather Lifestyle? I’ve wanted to learn about it for some time. On FetLife I’ve seen other’s ask similar questions and each time they were answered with “Every relationship is [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Is My Dominant a Bully?

Is My Dominant a Bully?

I have been in my first D/s relationship for the past 6 months.My Sir and I don’t live together yet but that is the plan for the future, although I am with him whenever I am not working.  There are a few things that are bothering me and I would like to know if these [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships, Safety
Single in the Scene Part IV: Petitioning

Single in the Scene Part IV: Petitioning

This series is written from the perspective that being single in the Lifestyle affords one the opportunity to do some soul-searching, learning, and defining in order to be better equipped to transition into a suitable and desirable relationship in due time. Read - Part I: Boundaries,  Part II: Service, Part III: Slave Resume. So, now that [...]

Your Responsibilities in Play – In and Out of a Relationship

Your Responsibilities in Play – In and Out of a Relationship

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 3/2/13 Our responsibilities as a submissive are important to be aware of. I’ve said a number of times in other articles that often novice submissives feel that once they are in a relationship they don’t have any responsibilities at all. That is far from true. Does that then mean that [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Play and Sex
Male Submission – Fantasy vs Reality

Male Submission – Fantasy vs Reality

In part 1 of my series of articles on male submission I wrote about one archetype of male submission “The Worm.”  For clarification, a large majority of male submissives do not fit that mindset as there are plenty of other dynamics. However, one topic which is common to many male submissives is that the fantasy [...]

25 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission
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