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Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 5 of 7) – Flagging, Symbols, and Rituals

by Ambrosio. This was first published on Ambrosio’s site and has a free to distribute license. Abrosio dedicated this article to Beverly M. in Austin. Flagging not Flogging Flagging refers to non-verbal signals that serve as very specific cues in the scene. Most of them originated from the Gay leather scene of the 40′s and [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Rituals and Routines

Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 4 of 7) – Play Parties

by Ambrosio. This was first published on Ambrosio’s site and has a free to distribute license. Abrosio dedicated this article to Beverly M. in Austin. Three Types of Parties Play parties — or dungeon parties — are parties where people in the Leather and BDSM scene can go to play, socialize, and watch. There are [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Community, Play and Sex

Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 3 of 7) – Cruising With Class

by Ambrosio. This was first published on Ambrosio’s site and has a free to distribute license. Abrosio dedicated this article to Beverly M. in Austin. Expectations of Sex BDSM is not always about sex. BDSM is not synonymous with swinging, swapping, or Polyamory — although it’s possible for it to co-exist with these lifestyles. A [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Rituals and Routines
Finding Love in the D/s Lifestyle

Finding Love in the D/s Lifestyle

The topic of love in regards to Lifestyle relationships is usually a pretty hot topic. Everyone has an opinion, thought, rule, or feeling about it. After hearing so much about love, the newcomer may end up a bit confused. After all, in the vanilla world, especially in Western culture, love is a really big deal. [...]

3 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Community, Mindset, Relationships, Service
Ask lunaKM – Final Tests of Submission, BBWs in Kink and Dominant Titles

Ask lunaKM – Final Tests of Submission, BBWs in Kink and Dominant Titles

Dear lunaKM, I recently met a Dom online and corresponded with him for over a month. He made it clear from the beginning what his ‘rules’ were and I agreed to them in principle though I also requested some limits of my own as this was to be my first Master/slave relationship. During the months [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Ask lunaKM – Protocol-Driven Leather Lifestyle, Adding Another Submissive and Starting a Submissive Journal

Ask lunaKM – Protocol-Driven Leather Lifestyle, Adding Another Submissive and Starting a Submissive Journal

Dear Luna, In response to your post “Influx of Bossy Newbies Killing Old School Traditions”, I wanted to ask: Where can I learn about the protocol-driven Leather Lifestyle? I’ve wanted to learn about it for some time. On FetLife I’ve seen other’s ask similar questions and each time they were answered with “Every relationship is [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Ask lunaKM – Influx of Bossy Newbies Killing Old School Traditions

Ask lunaKM – Influx of Bossy Newbies Killing Old School Traditions

My question is not so much specifically for a submissive, to be honest, i don’t know where to go about this. But after all i have read from you, Luna, i respect your opinions & views & thought you would be best to ask. I have noticed that in the last few years, so many [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Community
Single in the Scene Part III: The Slave Resume

Single in the Scene Part III: The Slave Resume

This series is written from the perspective that being single in the Lifestyle affords one the opportunity to do some soul-searching, learning, and defining in order to be better equipped to transition into a suitable and desirable relationship in due time. Read – Part I: Boundaries and Part II: Service. Yeeees – there is a [...]

3 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Personal Growth, Training Resume
A List of National BDSM Events – Attend One, or Two, or Three

A List of National BDSM Events – Attend One, or Two, or Three

Go to an event they said. But they never said what events exist. Well now you have no excuse. Here’s a short list of regional and national, and even some international events pertaining to BDSM and the kink lifestyle. Check them out, register and book your rooms. There is fun and education to be had! [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
The Chase is On – Communicating Openly With Your Dominant

The Chase is On – Communicating Openly With Your Dominant

I was talking with a friend of mine awhile ago and she said something that really piqued my attention. She was telling me about her boyfriend and how upset she is over the fact that he won’t chase after her. They had some kind of argument and stormed out of the apartment. She got in [...]

11 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Book Review: Playing Well with Others

Book Review: Playing Well with Others

It’s been awhile since I read a book for review on the site, but this book I have been waiting for months to be released and I was thrilled to get an autographed (and kissed) copy by donating to their release tour. Playing Well with Others: Your Field Guide to Discovering, Exploring and Navigating the Kink, [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Reviews
Bootblacking and Why I Love It

Bootblacking and Why I Love It

This is a guest post by Red Vinyl Kitty. You can read about her life as a slave kitty at Sub Mission. I was approached by LunaKM a few months ago to write a guest post for her blog.  I do not usually do guest posts, but she wanted me to write one about my [...]

1 comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Talents and Skills

What is Boot Blacking?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. One of the specialized talents that some submissives and slaves pick up is boot blacking. It holds its tradition in the leather community as an honorable service to a [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary
Your Right to Choose-Feminism and the Lifestyle

Your Right to Choose-Feminism and the Lifestyle

When I was twenty, I met my first dominant in person. I was extremely excited and nervous about this because for months before meeting in person, we had talked a great deal through emails, online chatting services, and phone calls. The weekend he and I had planned to meet was over Memorial Day weekend. This [...]

20 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Community
Dressing the Part – What to Wear at BDSM Community Functions

Dressing the Part – What to Wear at BDSM Community Functions

For new people and established ones alike, deciding what to wear to an event can be an adventure-in fun, in stress or in dread.  Admittedly, it is much easier for someone who has been to the dungeon, the event, the club to know what to wear upon a return visit.  But even someone who loves to get dressed to go [...]

Leave a comment Posted by LaneyDoll | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Community, Play and Sex

Points to Negotiate in Your D/s Contact That May Not Have Ever Occurred to You

We all put a huge amount of thought into our contacts-or we should.  But there are often times that things arise and we have no way of predicting them.  I recently shared another post about “Outside Forces.”  In that post, I talked about steps that may be taken when an outside force storms it way [...]

5 comments Posted by LaneyDoll | Posted in: Relationships

Acronyms, Abbreviations and Initialisms in BDSM Conversation

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. Oftentimes instead of writing out the words we abbreviate or create acronyms or groups of initials to say the same thing. Here is a list of the more common [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary
Perspectives: Gags

Perspectives: Gags

Being introduced to a ball gag was a scary thing for me. I had always envisioned it as limiting my breathing and never thought to try it out before it showed up in a scene. The first ball gag I owned was small, spongy ball on a leather strap. It was small and I could open [...]

12 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
How You Can Respond When Your Family Disapproves of Your Chosen Lifestyle/Sexuality

How You Can Respond When Your Family Disapproves of Your Chosen Lifestyle/Sexuality

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 4-7-12 My family found out that I’m into BDSM/submissive and they are freaking out, what do I do? Coming out to your family, whether it be homosexuality or being kinky is a nerve-wrecking situation for anyone. Not being able to control when and where you family finds out this information [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
Book Review: Master/slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice

Book Review: Master/slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice

I had to really think about whether I wanted to review this book on Submissive Guide or not because it’s not directed to submissives. In fact the description of the book says that it’s for Masters and those new to BDSM that are called to Mastery. I started reading it with an open outlook though [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Reviews
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