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Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 6 of 7) – A Few Notes on High Protocol

While good manners are important in all situations, leather protocol should not be a source of anxiety for novice doms and subs. In part 6 of Ambrosio’s series on Protocol and Etiquette, a few rules for formal introductions, dining and general “vanilla” etiquette are covered.

Comments Off Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Rituals and Routines

Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 5 of 7) – Flagging, Symbols, and Rituals

In this part of Ambrosio’s series, you learn all about Flagging, the Hanky code and Symbols or Rituals you can use to identify others interested in similar kinks and power exchange styles.

Comments Off Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Rituals and Routines

Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 4 of 7) – Play Parties

In part 4 of Ambrosio’s series on Protocol and Etiquette, it’s play parties! Come read a set of sample party rules and three different types of parties you may encounter in your local BDSM community.

Comments Off Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Community, Play and Sex

Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 3 of 7) – Cruising With Class

Ambrosio covers “cruising” in part 6 of this series on Leather protocol and etiquette. Take head of the warnings and tips for those casual experiences.

Comments Off Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Rituals and Routines
Finding Love in the D/s Lifestyle

Finding Love in the D/s Lifestyle

The topic of love in regards to Lifestyle relationships is usually a pretty hot topic. Everyone has an opinion, thought, rule, or feeling about it.

3 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Community, Mindset, Relationships, Service
Ask lunaKM – Final Tests of Submission, BBWs in Kink and Dominant Titles

Ask lunaKM – Final Tests of Submission, BBWs in Kink and Dominant Titles

Dear lunaKM, I recently met a Dom online and corresponded with him for over a month. He made it clear from the beginning what his ‘rules’ were and I agreed to them in principle though I also requested some limits of my own as this was to be my first Master/slave relationship. During the months [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Ask lunaKM – Protocol-Driven Leather Lifestyle, Adding Another Submissive and Starting a Submissive Journal

Ask lunaKM – Protocol-Driven Leather Lifestyle, Adding Another Submissive and Starting a Submissive Journal

Dear Luna, In response to your post “Influx of Bossy Newbies Killing Old School Traditions”, I wanted to ask: Where can I learn about the protocol-driven Leather Lifestyle? I’ve wanted to learn about it for some time. On FetLife I’ve seen other’s ask similar questions and each time they were answered with “Every relationship is [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Is The Influx of Bossy Newbies Killing Old School Traditions?

Is The Influx of Bossy Newbies Killing Old School Traditions?

What can i say to those who snub their noses at the old school ways of BDSM to maybe make them see how damaging what they are doing is? Or even possibly help to change their attitudes?

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Community
Single in the Scene Part III: The Slave Resume

Single in the Scene Part III: The Slave Resume

The slave resume is a snapshot of you – the services you thrive in, something you’d like to learn, S&M experiences/desires, interests, hobbies, in other words, you’re sharing the highlights of yourself that you desire to find a compatible match for.

3 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Personal Growth, Training Resume
A List of National BDSM Events – Attend One, or Two, or Three

A List of National BDSM Events – Attend One, or Two, or Three

Go to an event they said. But they never said what events exist. Well now you have no excuse. Here’s a short list of regional and national, and even some international events pertaining to BDSM and the kink lifestyle.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
The Chase is On – Communicating Openly With Your Dominant

The Chase is On – Communicating Openly With Your Dominant

It’s hard sometimes to open up and talk about what’s going on. Yes, it is much easier for one party to just assume that the other party knows what’s going on when in reality; they don’t even have a clue. How is a slave’s Master to know that the slave is struggling with keeping in the mindset they need unless the slave speaks up?

11 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Book Review: Playing Well with Others

Book Review: Playing Well with Others

This book by Lee Harrington and Mollena Williams is the quintessential guide for novices and seasoned players ready to enter the BDSM community. No other book like this exists so it’s a great addition to your personal kink library.

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Reviews
Bootblacking and Why I Love It

Bootblacking and Why I Love It

The thing for me which is so very wonderful about polishing Master’s shoes is that it is something that I can do on my own to show Master how much I am thinking about him. My focus is always on what I can do in order to make Master’s life better.

1 comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Talents and Skills

What is Boot Blacking?

One of the specialized talents that some submissives and slaves pick up is boot blacking. It holds its tradition in the leather community as an honorable service to a Dominant who is or has earned their leathers.

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary
Your Right to Choose-Feminism and the Lifestyle

Your Right to Choose-Feminism and the Lifestyle

I know that being a feminist means different things to different people. To me, feminism has always been about having the right to choose to lead the kind of life that I want to.

20 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Community
Dressing the Part – What to Wear at BDSM Community Functions

Dressing the Part – What to Wear at BDSM Community Functions

For new people and established ones alike, deciding what to wear to an event can be an adventure in fun, in stress or in dread. But even someone who loves to get dressed to go out can face moments of uncertainty when it comes to planning an outfit for the evening.

Comments Off Posted by LaneyDoll | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Community, Play and Sex

Points to Negotiate in Your D/s Contact That May Not Have Ever Occurred to You

We all put a huge amount of thought into our contacts-or we should. But there are often times that things arise and we have no way of predicting them.

5 comments Posted by LaneyDoll | Posted in: Relationships

Acronyms, Abbreviations and Initialisms in BDSM Conversation

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. Oftentimes instead of writing out the words we abbreviate or create acronyms or groups of initials to say the same thing. Here is a list of the more common [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary
Perspectives: Gags

Perspectives: Gags

Being introduced to a ball gag was a scary thing for me. But no one ever warned me of the feeling of drool dripping down your chin. As with other Perspectives posts I wanted to share with you how it feels as a submissive exploring gags

12 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
How You Can Respond When Your Family Disapproves of Your Chosen Lifestyle/Sexuality

How You Can Respond When Your Family Disapproves of Your Chosen Lifestyle/Sexuality

My family found out that I’m into BDSM/submissive and they are freaking out, what do I do?

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
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