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Scenes for Beginners: Ideas You Can Use To Start Exploring Bondage and BDSM Play in the Bedroom

Coming up with ideas on what to do with your partner when it comes to roleplay and kinky sex can be hard as a beginner. How do you set up a scene? What do you do? Let me help you out with some great ideas for play when you are new to BDSM and kinky roleplay.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Play and Sex
Life as a Submissive with Chronic Pain

Life as a Submissive with Chronic Pain

Here are some things about living life in beautiful, fulfilling power exchange alongside a big helping of constant pain.

7 comments Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Personal Growth

Self-Esteem Through Grooming Part 3: Nail Care

Your hands and feet are, to the rest of the world, subtle indicators of your dedication to things.

Comments Off Posted by kallista | Posted in: Personal Growth
Tips For Those Struggling to Enter the Local BDSM Community

Tips For Those Struggling to Enter the Local BDSM Community

I understand. You don’t know anybody there. There are about a bajillion worst case scenarios that your brain has conjured up ever since you first desired to head out into the local community.

3 comments Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Community
Always Getting in Trouble – Submissive Meditation Monday

Always Getting in Trouble – Submissive Meditation Monday

It seems that no matter how long you’ve been doing this thing we call submission, there are times of rebellion, confusion, frustration and just not getting it right.

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Mindset
We all Stumble – Submissive Meditation Monday

We all Stumble – Submissive Meditation Monday

It can come upon us suddenly. That realization that you’ve backslid in your journey.

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Personal Growth
How Giving a Blowjob Has Taught Me That Service and Pleasure Are One

How Giving a Blowjob Has Taught Me That Service and Pleasure Are One

I used to hate giving blow jobs. But now I can say that I actually enjoy them.

19 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Mindset, Sex and Sexuality
It’s Okay to be New – Exploring and Learning as a Novice Submissive

It’s Okay to be New – Exploring and Learning as a Novice Submissive

When you visit this site, I don’t expect you to have all the information you need to make educated responses, or to know what to do first, second and next. It’s a process.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
Humor and Submission:  Service with a Smile (and a laugh or two)

Humor and Submission:  Service with a Smile (and a laugh or two)

By considering it as a form of service, bringing laughter to your relationship, life, and scenes can allow you to enjoy an infrequently discussed but a very pleasurable side of BDSM.

1 comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals
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I Am Submissive–Hear Me Roar!

Until I discovered my submissive self, I always found myself deferring to others as much as possible to avoid conflict. Suddenly I started standing taller, with my shoulders back and my head up.

1 comment Posted by pinksubgeek | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Single In the Scene Part VIII: Transformation Happens

Single In the Scene Part VIII: Transformation Happens

I had to learn that if I’m doing the surrender journey right, a transformation is gonna happen, plain and simple!

3 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Mindset
Why is Submission So Hard!

Why is Submission So Hard!

Submission is hard. It’s not an escape from the world and it doesn’t make you any less of a responsible adult. Being a supportive partner requires work and devotion.

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Personal Growth

Chat Night Transcript from “How to Talk Dirty” Chat

This chat occurred on 10/1/13 in the Submissive Guide Chat room. ~lunaKM: alright, let’s get going Hello and welcome to another chat night here on Submissive Guide. Please feel free to talk about the subject whenever a thought comes to mind, this is not a moderated talk and you do not have to ask permission [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Views & More...
Paralysis of Analysis: Over-thinking Your Submission

Paralysis of Analysis: Over-thinking Your Submission

You become paralyzed in thought. Sometimes, that thought becomes so big and overwhelming, it can cause an interruption in daily living

2 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Broken Vows: When Vanilla Marriage Falls Apart Because of Kink

Broken Vows: When Vanilla Marriage Falls Apart Because of Kink

Ending the marriage was one of the hardest decisions I had to face. I still loved him, he was a great guy and we had fun together. I don’t recommend divorce as the solution to all bedroom problems but let me share what steps we took before a divorce was my final solution.

41 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships

How to Turn Your Submissive Experience Into Education for Your Dominant

Ways that a submissive can teach without worrying about “being Dominant” in order for the education to happen and also ways that a submissive could take on education and share that knowledge with their Dominant as a part of their service.

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships, Service
Ask lunaKM – New Kink Relationship, Seeking Daddy Doms and Resources to Help Those Coming Out Kinky

Ask lunaKM – New Kink Relationship, Seeking Daddy Doms and Resources to Help Those Coming Out Kinky

Dear lunaKM, I just met a man that is a dom, I am very interested in this lifestyle but also VERY new to it. We are both interested in each other and are both looking for a vanilla life outside the bedroom. My question is how do I start a relationship without jumping in bed [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything

Pain Play Discussed Online – Explore The Variety of Views

Some of the best online reading on the topic. Browse the list, watch the videos and learn more about pain play.

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How To Manage, Increase and Explore Pain Tolerances in SM Play

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 5/18/13 Whether you are a hard-core masochist or just a light explorer of sadomasochistic pain play there are always opportunies to experience more, push yourself harder and enhance your pain management techniques. How you learn to do this, and the techniques you employ are unique from submissive to submissive (masochist [...]

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Learning Better Pain Processing Through Visualization

Learning Better Pain Processing Through Visualization

As a masochist I enjoy pain for the sake of pain. I don’t always want to escape from it; rarely do I enjoy sub space because it separates me from the pain. I want to feel it, embrace it and hold it close. I’ve learned a few important skills that push those pain boundaries and bring me further into a sadist’s grasp. The most valuable of those skills is visualization.

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
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