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It’s Okay to be New

It’s Okay to be New

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 5/3/14 Oftentimes, the first lines of an email to me or an opening thread in a discussion group go something like this; “I’m new and am nervous to ask these silly questions so be nice to me.” “I’m really embarrassed to ask since I’m so new, but…” “I’m new to [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Newsletter Archive
Humor and Submission:  Service with a Smile (and a laugh or two)

Humor and Submission:  Service with a Smile (and a laugh or two)

This is a guest post by Lazlo Toth. So much of what we do in this lifestyle has an aura of gravity and seriousness about it.  From the clothing and accouterments we choose to wear, to the names we give ourselves, to the things that we do in our relationships and our play.  Dominance and [...]

1 comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: BDSM Basics
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I Am Submissive–Hear Me Roar!

I went to a local kink event and as an icebreaker the host asked everyone to say what kind of animal they relate to.  When I said I relate to a lioness, I got a ton of strange looks.  I suppose it makes sense.  As a submissive, it might not seem like I’d relate to [...]

1 comment Posted by pinksubgeek | Posted in: Learn to Submit
Single In the Scene Part VIII: Transformation Happens

Single In the Scene Part VIII: Transformation Happens

There’s going to come a point, I pray, that the single slave will be not so single and will be heading towards being owned. So for the last message in this series, I thought I’d talk about releasing the fear of transformation. There’s a song from the late 80′s “Don’t Make Me Over” by Sybil [...]

2 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Mindset
Why is Submission So Hard!

Why is Submission So Hard!

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 7/20/13 I’m often stunned by the amount of mail I get from submissives telling me that they thought submission was going to be easy; that they could stop worrying about life, give up all responsibility and just serve someone else’s whims. The fantasy was strong with these men and women [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Improve Yourself, Newsletter Archive

Chat Night Transcript from “How to Talk Dirty” Chat

This chat occurred on 10/1/13 in the Submissive Guide Chat room. ~lunaKM: alright, let’s get going Hello and welcome to another chat night here on Submissive Guide. Please feel free to talk about the subject whenever a thought comes to mind, this is not a moderated talk and you do not have to ask permission [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Views & More...
lunaKM’s Weekend Reflections

lunaKM’s Weekend Reflections

Things have been a little stressful this week. First, the paycheck was late, then KnyghtMare got sick and finally our game server was hacked. Not exactly a peaceful week! In any case, KnyghtMare is feeling better and the paycheck is on its way. We also decided to refresh the game server so while our stress [...]

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Paralysis of Analysis

Paralysis of Analysis

This is a guest post by Slave Kelly. Paralysis of analysis became a well-known phrase when used by Martin Luther King, Jr., during the Civil Rights Movement.  However, this human phenomenon has been documented for centuries. Paralysis of analysis occurs when one over-thinks an issue, or situation, to the point where the ability to act [...]

2 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Learn to Submit
Broken Vows: When Vanilla Marriage Falls Apart Because of Kink

Broken Vows: When Vanilla Marriage Falls Apart Because of Kink

I was married before my relationship with my Master, KnyghtMare. We fell in love when dating online was still an unusual thing. We courted and dated for years before we got married. Marriage seemed to be the inevitable next step, so we did that too. Our sex life was very much kink-lite. For the most [...]

17 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships

How to Turn Your Submissive Experience Into Education for Your Dominant

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 6/1/13 We don’t often think about the submissive having anything to teach the Dominant, and in many cases a Dominant is teaching the submissive. There’s nothing wrong with that, but when the submissive has more experience or learning in an area it does make it easier if the Dominant is [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships, Service
Ask lunaKM – New Kink Relationship, Seeking Daddy Doms and Resources to Help Those Coming Out Kinky

Ask lunaKM – New Kink Relationship, Seeking Daddy Doms and Resources to Help Those Coming Out Kinky

Dear lunaKM, I just met a man that is a dom, I am very interested in this lifestyle but also VERY new to it. We are both interested in each other and are both looking for a vanilla life outside the bedroom. My question is how do I start a relationship without jumping in bed [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything

Pain Play Discussed Online – Explore The Variety of Views

Submissive Guide isn’t the only place you can get quality information about the topics of BDSM and this month I’ve been focusing on sadomasochism and pain play. So I’ve done a bit of research and pulled together some of the best online reading on the topic. Browse the list, watch the videos and learn more [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Control Your Food Spending with the Grocery Budget Toolbox

Control Your Food Spending with the Grocery Budget Toolbox

It may come to some of you as a shock but I am not a perfect domestic diva. Far from it, in fact. That’s one of the reasons my personal blog has a tagline, “slut learning domestic slavehood.” I’m working my way through homemade cleaners, a homecare chore system that works, scratch cooking and more. [...]

7 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Sponsors

How To Manage, Increase and Explore Pain Tolerances in SM Play

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 5/18/13 Whether you are a hard-core masochist or just a light explorer of sadomasochistic pain play there are always opportunies to experience more, push yourself harder and enhance your pain management techniques. How you learn to do this, and the techniques you employ are unique from submissive to submissive (masochist [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Learning Better Pain Processing Through Visualization

Learning Better Pain Processing Through Visualization

This essay was first written and published in the Society of Janus newsletter “Growing Pains.” I hope you enjoy! from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 5/4/13 Pushing boundaries in pain tolerance is a common request for submissives of all flavors. As a masochist I enjoy pain for the sake of pain. I don’t always want to [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
lunaKM’s Weekend Reflections

lunaKM’s Weekend Reflections

We had a massive website crash on Thursday so if you tried to access the site and couldn’t find it, I apologize. It also impacted the entire Kink Network sites for awhile. KnyghtMare worked hard all day to get things back up and running again. It was very stressful and turns out that a widget [...]

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Ask lunaKM – Weakness and Triggers, 24/7 Start and Incompatibility

Ask lunaKM – Weakness and Triggers, 24/7 Start and Incompatibility

Dear lunaKM, I am new to the Submissive role and BDSM in general. To make a long story short I am finally with my best friend from high school 10 years later, after being through a hellish marriage for 5 years and a physically abusive relationship before that…I love my now boyfriend and he is [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything

Chat Night Transcript from Pervertables Talk with FroggyKM

Chat night transcript from the Pervertables Chat with froggyKM on  7/16/13 froggyKM: ok lets get things started! Hello and welcome to another chat night here on Submissive Guide. Please feel free to talk about the subject whenever a thought comes to mind, this is not a moderated talk and you do not have to ask [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Views & More...
The Slave Journal

The Slave Journal

I listened to a podcast from Erotic Awakening the other day that talked about The Slave Journal. The idea for this document is not the same as having a journal or blog to document your life in and I thought it was an excellent idea and a useful tool for many relationships. Maybe even yours! [...]

12 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Service, Training Resume

Chat Night Transcript – Dominant Aftercare

from the Submissive Guide Chat held 7/09/13 on Aftercare for Dominants [20:10] <~lunaKM> Hello and welcome to another chat night here on Submissive Guide. Please feel free to talk about the subject whenever a thought comes to mind, this is not a moderated talk and you do not have to ask permission to speak or [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Roundtable Discussions
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