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The Longing of Being Owned

The Longing of Being Owned

I remember it was about ten years ago when I was first introduced to the Sleeping Beauty trilogy by Anne Rice. I had stumbled across the series by accident while browsing the erotica section of a local bookstore. I had no idea what they were about but had read a lot of Anne Rice’s works [...]

6 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Broken Vows: When Vanilla Marriage Falls Apart Because of Kink

Broken Vows: When Vanilla Marriage Falls Apart Because of Kink

I was married before my relationship with my Master, KnyghtMare. We fell in love when dating online was still an unusual thing. We courted and dated for years before we got married. Marriage seemed to be the inevitable next step, so we did that too. Our sex life was very much kink-lite. For the most [...]

41 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships

How to Turn Your Submissive Experience Into Education for Your Dominant

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 6/1/13 We don’t often think about the submissive having anything to teach the Dominant, and in many cases a Dominant is teaching the submissive. There’s nothing wrong with that, but when the submissive has more experience or learning in an area it does make it easier if the Dominant is [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships, Service

Pain Play Discussed Online – Explore The Variety of Views

Submissive Guide isn’t the only place you can get quality information about the topics of BDSM and this month I’ve been focusing on sadomasochism and pain play. So I’ve done a bit of research and pulled together some of the best online reading on the topic. Browse the list, watch the videos and learn more [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
What to Do When You Are Haunted by Past Relationships

What to Do When You Are Haunted by Past Relationships

There are times in our life that we seem to be haunted by the relationships in our past. They cling to us like a life form and don’t seem to want us out their grasp. Most of the time, I feel this occurs because we feel that something is left unresolved with it. Perhaps the [...]

5 comments Posted by LadySneak | Posted in: Relationships

How To Manage, Increase and Explore Pain Tolerances in SM Play

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 5/18/13 Whether you are a hard-core masochist or just a light explorer of sadomasochistic pain play there are always opportunies to experience more, push yourself harder and enhance your pain management techniques. How you learn to do this, and the techniques you employ are unique from submissive to submissive (masochist [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Keys to a Successful Relationship: Trust is Like a Mirror…

Keys to a Successful Relationship: Trust is Like a Mirror…

This is the third in an ongoing series where I will be writing about key factors it takes to have a successful relationship. This third article is about the importance of trust and the role it plays in our relationships. Check out the previous articles – It’s All About Communication and Honesty is the Best [...]

2 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Learning Better Pain Processing Through Visualization

Learning Better Pain Processing Through Visualization

This essay was first written and published in the Society of Janus newsletter “Growing Pains.” I hope you enjoy! from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 5/4/13 Pushing boundaries in pain tolerance is a common request for submissives of all flavors. As a masochist I enjoy pain for the sake of pain. I don’t always want to [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Keys to a Successful Relationship – Honesty is Really the Best Policy

Keys to a Successful Relationship – Honesty is Really the Best Policy

This is an ongoing series where I will be writing about key factors it takes to have a successful relationship. This second article is about the importance that honesty plays in our relationships. The first one is It’s All About Communication I remember growing up, I always heard from the adults around me that honesty [...]

2 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Me vs the German Language  – A Lesson in Patience

Me vs the German Language – A Lesson in Patience

This past year has just been a whirlwind of excitement for me. Moving to a new country to be with my Daddy and everything that comes with moving to a new country, adjusting to a new culture, a new way of life, and a new language. The biggest challenge of my move has been the [...]

2 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
How to Move On When The D/s Relationship Ends

How to Move On When The D/s Relationship Ends

Just how does one know how to move on after a relationship has come to an end, regardless of the reasons behind it? That is sometimes a confusing question for submissives to answer for themselves. Often a submissive will feel lost and all alone, as if they feel that no one will understand what they [...]

3 comments Posted by LadySneak | Posted in: Relationships
This is Not a Game – BDSM is My Life

This is Not a Game – BDSM is My Life

I am a tumblr whore. There’s no other way to describe it. I spend way too much time on there looking for pictures. Most of the pictures I re-blog and most of those who I follow post lifestyle related pictures. I am very particular about the pictures that I re-blog. The pictures that I post [...]

1 comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Community
I’m Polyamorous but Feel Territorial Over Kink, Is This Normal?

I’m Polyamorous but Feel Territorial Over Kink, Is This Normal?

I am in a poly relationship with my partner and I really care for his other partner. For the most part, I am happy for all aspects of their relationship. However, I recently learned that he used nipple clamps that we had purchased together on her and this triggered an unexpected reaction from me. I [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
The Ring and the Collar: A Personal Opinion on the Symbolism of a Collar

The Ring and the Collar: A Personal Opinion on the Symbolism of a Collar

I am a product of the 80’s, which I think is the greatest decade, ever. I may be a bit partial with my thinking. The music, television, and especially the movies is what makes the 80’s such a memorable decade. One of my favorite movies from that era is “The Princess Bride”. To me, that’s [...]

8 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Relationships
Male Submission – Foot Fetish

Male Submission – Foot Fetish

In this part 3 of my series of articles about Male Submission on The Submissive Guide, I discuss the role of a foot fetish. There are a whole lot of guys who have a fetish for feet, and while there are women who also have a foot fetish it is by far more prevalent with [...]

11 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission, Play and Sex
Why You Should Know the Truth About Topping from the Bottom

Why You Should Know the Truth About Topping from the Bottom

Topping from the bottom is a feared act for novices because it holds a negative connotation that the person is somehow not submissive if they top from the bottom. It’s whispered and screamed in all of the online forums dealing with BDSM and most of those talk about it with disdain and shame the people [...]

7 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Male Submission – Fantasy vs Reality

Male Submission – Fantasy vs Reality

In part 1 of my series of articles on male submission I wrote about one archetype of male submission “The Worm.”  For clarification, a large majority of male submissives do not fit that mindset as there are plenty of other dynamics. However, one topic which is common to many male submissives is that the fantasy [...]

25 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission
What Everyone Ought to Know About Finding and Managing Limits

What Everyone Ought to Know About Finding and Managing Limits

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 12/1/12 We are surrounded by boundaries and fences, limits and “do no pass” signs. Everything we do has limitations and restrictions. So, it may come as no surprise that you too have limits that you will not cross; be it in your relationship or pertaining to sex and play. Some [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Play and Sex
The Chase is On – Communicating Openly With Your Dominant

The Chase is On – Communicating Openly With Your Dominant

I was talking with a friend of mine awhile ago and she said something that really piqued my attention. She was telling me about her boyfriend and how upset she is over the fact that he won’t chase after her. They had some kind of argument and stormed out of the apartment. She got in [...]

11 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Rule #1 – Don’t Touch Anything Without Permission

Rule #1 – Don’t Touch Anything Without Permission

I’ve been involved with local and regional BDSM groups since I first learned about BDSM in 2003. You get to meet a lot of people during events and some of them have quirks and perversions that you’ve never heard of. You’ll meet white collar, blue collar and poverty stricken people in the same room enjoying [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Community
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