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When Kinky isn’t Sexy

When Kinky isn’t Sexy

Kink and sex are indistinguishable from each other: if something kinky ensues, something sexy is sure to follow. The reality is, however, that the two can, and sometimes should be separated.

3 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics

BDSM Basics: Am I Kinky If…?

You’re surfing the internet one day and come across a forum of people talking about their sex lives. It’s interesting to you so you stop and read a bit. Just when you thought you were like everyone else, someone mentions something that you enjoy doing during sex and the responses are, “Oh that’s kinky!” It [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Video Posts
Traveling With Toys: A Submissive’s Dilemma

Traveling With Toys: A Submissive’s Dilemma

I used to travel a lot for work, and whenever I was on a trip I had rules about what toys I was supposed to pack.  Every now and then Sir added new things to the list.  To make toy storage easier, I discovered that the most ideal toy bag was a bedazzled pink purse [...]

3 comments Posted by pinksubgeek | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Ask lunaKM – Roleplay Scenarios, Unable to Kneel and Boost of Confidence

Ask lunaKM – Roleplay Scenarios, Unable to Kneel and Boost of Confidence

Dear lunaKM, My question involves role play, I was wondering if there are some scenarios that are available to give an individual some idea of how to start a scene. And or what kind of scene would be the easiest to get started with because I am a beginner and I usually go my instinct [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Coming Out to Friends: Time to Reveal Your Kinky/Submissive Side

Coming Out to Friends: Time to Reveal Your Kinky/Submissive Side

Ever since realizing my role in the lifestyle, I have been faced with a lot of…decisions that I’ve had to make. In some instances, I’ve had no issues with making those decisions. But then there are those instances where the decisions I’ve had to make, aren’t always so easy to make. I’ve had to put [...]

7 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics

Making Him the Dom of Your Dreams – Working With The Man You Have

Oftentimes we find our desire to be submissive or kinky when we are already in a relationship and are not sure really how to proceed with that. It can come as a shock to try to force your desires on your partner and if you address the subject without their thoughts in mind it could [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
Ask lunaKM – Sexting, How to get Started and Scene Fantasies

Ask lunaKM – Sexting, How to get Started and Scene Fantasies

Dear lunaKM, My D/s is a long distance relationship. We have not met in person. Just starting out, he’s training me so to speak. I am new. We are planning to meet eventually, it is set. So my question: He sends me scenes via text. Does a submissive send scenes as well? What scene form [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Book Review: Leading and Supportive Love

Book Review: Leading and Supportive Love

The truth about Dominant and submissive relationships isn’t that we are an alternative lifestyle within the BDSM arena, it’s that we are a strong and supportive relationship type that goes beyond and sometimes without kink. Chris Lyon has written a fantastic book that does a great job describing and detailing the two roles of a [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Reviews
Ask lunaKM – New Kink Relationship, Seeking Daddy Doms and Resources to Help Those Coming Out Kinky

Ask lunaKM – New Kink Relationship, Seeking Daddy Doms and Resources to Help Those Coming Out Kinky

Dear lunaKM, I just met a man that is a dom, I am very interested in this lifestyle but also VERY new to it. We are both interested in each other and are both looking for a vanilla life outside the bedroom. My question is how do I start a relationship without jumping in bed [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Ask lunaKM – Compatibility, Safewords when Deaf and Power Play Preferences

Ask lunaKM – Compatibility, Safewords when Deaf and Power Play Preferences

Dear lunaKM, I’m a complete newbie when it comes to the D/s world. January of this year I met my very first Dominant online. He was sweet and attentive yet firm. We live in two different states but I had decided to move to His town to be closer to Him. I did everything in [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything

#domsubchat – Transcript of Twitter Chat – Writing a Kinky Dating and/or Social Profile

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Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Views & More...
Take the Bite Out of Submitting to Pain – Sadomasochism Is Not a Part of Submission

Take the Bite Out of Submitting to Pain – Sadomasochism Is Not a Part of Submission

I’m here to break the news to you about a piece of misinformation about submissives. Are you ready? You do not have to like pain or be a masochist to be submissive. That’s it. That piece of news right there leads to one of the largest reasons so many of you are confused. You think [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Daddy-Little Girl Dynamics: It’s Not Easy Being A Little

Daddy-Little Girl Dynamics: It’s Not Easy Being A Little

I don’t know about you, but when I was child, I didn’t always think it was all that easy. I remember grownups all around me telling me how “easy I had it” and to “just wait until I became an adult” because that’s when life would start getting hard. I would always look at them [...]

16 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships
Ask lunaKM – Another Batch of Quick Answers

Ask lunaKM – Another Batch of Quick Answers

Hi Luna! Do you feel that another submissive would be a better Mentor to a novice submissive rather than another Dominant? I personally feel that a person of similar role to you can advise and mentor you better than someone who could be your Dominant. So if you are a slave, you should have a [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
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What is Primal Play?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. Mr. Samsonite. Every group has one; you know, the guy who can’t show up to the play party without enough luggage to go on a two-week European tour? He [...]

13 comments Posted by slavekathy | Posted in: BDSM Glossary
Ask lunaKM – Weakness and Triggers, 24/7 Start and Incompatibility

Ask lunaKM – Weakness and Triggers, 24/7 Start and Incompatibility

Dear lunaKM, I am new to the Submissive role and BDSM in general. To make a long story short I am finally with my best friend from high school 10 years later, after being through a hellish marriage for 5 years and a physically abusive relationship before that…I love my now boyfriend and he is [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Male submission – Financial Domination

Male submission – Financial Domination

Financial Domination is an area of BDSM which often elicits strong opinions. With other BDSM activities such as spanking and bondage, at some point after the Safe, Sane, and Consensual scene is over there is no damage done and things are typically physically back to the way they were. However, if a sub’s money is [...]

24 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission, Relationships
Do You Make These Mistakes? Avoid Outing a Fellow BDSM Lifestyler

Do You Make These Mistakes? Avoid Outing a Fellow BDSM Lifestyler

There are a few “sins” in the world of BDSM; ignoring a safe word and touching that which does not belong to you are a few examples.  But, while both of these are bad, one might be able to look at a different point of view.  Someone may ignore a safe word because their scene [...]

1 comment Posted by LaneyDoll | Posted in: Community
I’m Polyamorous but Feel Territorial Over Kink, Is This Normal?

I’m Polyamorous but Feel Territorial Over Kink, Is This Normal?

I am in a poly relationship with my partner and I really care for his other partner. For the most part, I am happy for all aspects of their relationship. However, I recently learned that he used nipple clamps that we had purchased together on her and this triggered an unexpected reaction from me. I [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
Male Submission – Selfishness

Male Submission – Selfishness

The title of this article may seem self-contradictory but submission means different things to different people and also almost all human beings are selfish to at least some degree at some point in our lives. Many submissives gain pleasure directly from the pleasure of their dominant and they are clearly not the target of this [...]

18 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission
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