By lunaKM on April 5, 2010
UPDATE: This competition is now closed and I have closed comments on this post. Thanks to everyone for entering – it’s been amazing to see so many entries! I’ll notify winners of their win shortly! OK – I have a pile of books that is growing beside my desk (and on my desk… and on [...]
Posted in Webmaster Notes | Tagged amazon.com, BDSM, book, books, giveaway, how to be kinky, Janet W. Hardy, kinky, Laura Doyle, morpheous, New Bottoming Book, play, Surrendered Wife, winner |
By Guest Author on January 15, 2010
This is a guest post by dani. She is a new submissive in an Adult Nursing relationship.You can read about Erotic Lactation at Wikipedia or visit Land of Milk and Honey for more information. We didn’t start 2009 with any kind of BDSM activities in our lives, so we have quite the journey over the [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged activities, adult nursing relationship, BDSM, bdsm activities, bdsm play feature, connection, cons, dani, erotic lactation, feature series, fetlife, guest post, information, journey, kinky, love, play, relationship, rt, sex, submissive, tall |
By lunaKM on December 18, 2009
I was listening to Mistress Matisse’s Guest Appearance the other day on the Savage Lovecast (Ep 163). She talks about a lot of kinky topics that callers ask Dan Savage. Somewhere near the end there was an interesting comment by Dan where he asked MM if nerds and geeks are more likely to be into [...]
Posted in Social Norms | Tagged advice, BDSM, body language, Bondage, challenges, dreams, friends, geeks, humor, implement, kinky, love, nerds, online, play, rt, sex, stress, Study |
By lunaKM on December 7, 2009
When Master and I get to play, it’s quite sexually charged. We find the play and the energy we swap as very sexual. Our play time usually ends in sex of some form. That’s just how we roll. Does it always have to be that way? Heck no! In fact, when I was casually playing, [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics, Sex and Sexuality | Tagged basics, BDSM, BDSM and sex, bdsm play, chat, decisions, discussion, Dom, dominant, energy, experience, intimacy, kinky, kinky side, negotiation, partners, play, play parties, relationship, rt, rules, scene, sex, sexual pleasure, standing, submissive, transcript, understanding |
By lunaKM on November 2, 2009
I love reading BDSM fiction, erotica and other service books. I broke my kinky teeth on the Story of O so I can’t ignore it on this list, but it’s not the best of the best. I’d like to offer up the books that I love and enjoy to read; most of which I like [...]
Posted in Views & More... | Tagged amazon.com, BDSM, bdsm books, bdsm fiction, book, book list, books, erotica, kinky, love, play, punishment, rt, safe, series, Service, slave, submissive, toy |
By Guest Author on September 14, 2009
This guest post is by Alpine from Alpine Dreams. A bit of a background story. My partner and I don’t live together. We are both Poly, have other relationships and numerous obligations. Staying connected and in a D/s mindframe can be difficult since he does go away sometimes and we can’t always be together on [...]
Posted in Mindset | Tagged blogging, connection, control, D/s, Dom, dominant, dreams, female, guest post, help, kinky, m/s, poly, relationship, Relationships, ritual, rituals, rt, submissive, tasks |
By lunaKM on September 5, 2009
This week’s video post is about an issue that needs more awareness. I had someone ask me for some advice through my email the other day and it went something like this: I just started exploring my kinky side and I’ve only shared it with a few other people. One person that found out started [...]
Posted in Safety, Video Posts | Tagged abuse, advice, ask me, assistance, assistance programs, BDSM, cons, consensual, danger, Dom, domestic violence awareness, domestic violence awareness month, domestic violence project, email, family, fear, help, kinky, kinky side, leather, national domestic violence awareness month, national leather association, needs, NLA-I DVP, relationship, Relationships, rt, safe, Service, share, submission, submissive, support, value |
By lunaKM on August 27, 2009
Our first chat was a great success. Everyone gave permission to post the transcript and continue the conversation here. I loved every minute of interesting conversation. Read and enjoy! <~luna[KM]> Alright, let’s get started. If you haven’t figured out, I’m luna. I started the site in January after I got tired of not finding what [...]
Posted in Views & More... | Tagged abuse, acceptance, BDSM, BDSM and sex, Bondage, book, chat, chat night, community, connection, cons, control, D/s, Dom, Dominance, email, experience, fantasy, fear, focus, Impact, impact play, information, IRC, kink acceptance, kinky, lifestyle, love, masochist, online, opinion, owned, play, play parties, relationship, Relationships, ritual, rt, scene, scening, separation, Service, sex, sexual encounters, share, sharing, spirit, spiritual, standing, stereotype, submission, submissive chat, support, transcript, understanding, wants |
By lunaKM on July 27, 2009
An important part of negotiating a scene is discussing what you want out of the scene. Sure there are a lot of really thorough BDSM checklists that you could fill out if you don’t want to really think about what turns you on and drives you crazy with pleasure. BDSM checklists all live under different [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics, Training Resume | Tagged abuse, activities, BDSM, bdsm activities, bdsm checklist, book, books, checklist, cons, desires, experience, health, help, information, kinky, limits, marks, needs, negotiation, online, permanent marks, play, player, resume, rt, safe, Safety, scene, sex, share, submission, training, Training Resume |
By lunaKM on June 29, 2009
This post is by Skylerpet. She’s written several other posts here for Submissive Guide. You can read more of her work on online submission and pet play here. BDSM and D/s. Some see it as the same, I seem them as two very different things. Here, I plan on explaining the how’s and why’s of [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged 24/7, BDSM, Bondage, caning, chat, comparisons, cons, consensual, D/s, definitions, discipline, Dom, Dominance, dominant, dominants, email, guest post, information, kinky, lifestyle, Masochism, masochist, online, Online Submission, opinion, pet play, play, relationship, Relationships, rt, scene, Service, skylerpet, slave, slavery, spanking, standing, submission, submissive, websites, what is BDSM, what is D/s |
By lunaKM on June 18, 2009
When you discover that you might be kinky there are a lot of questions surrounding how to accept that. One of those may be trying to explore that kink with your existing partner. But how do you bring up the subject and how do you handle what they may say about the ideas you are [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics, Relationships | Tagged activities, amazon.com, Bondage, book, choice, decisions, desires, discussion, Dom, dominant, Dossie Easton, dynamic, emotions, help, intimacy, Introducing Partners to BDSM, kinky, learning, leather, links, love, marriage, online, partners, play, questions, relationship, Resources, role play, rt, sex, spanking, sub frenzy, submissive, suggestions, websites |
By lunaKM on May 30, 2009
This post is from Norische. She allows anyone to post her articles anywhere they will do some good. I could not come up with a better way to say what she does in this article. Please enjoy and comment! I’d love to hear if you have told your family and how it went. “So what [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged abuse, acceptance, activities, BDSM, bdsm lifestyle, choice, choices, Christian, clean, comfort, communication, community, cons, consensual, control, Dom, dress, email, family, fear, floggers, friends, harnesses, help, implement, information, kink acceptance, kinky, leather, lifestyle, love, myths, natural, negotiation, normal, obedience, openness, opinion, outting yourself, paddles, play, progress, relationship, religion, rt, rules, safe, sane, sex, sharing, single, sister, slave, slavery, standing, stress, submissive, tall, telling family, toy, toys, understanding, whips, writing |
By lunaKM on May 16, 2009
Approaching your friends with something as private and sensitive as your sexual interests or lifestyle ideas maybe a decision you have to make sooner or later the further you get into your kinky habits. Your friends are your support system in all other ways of your life, but are they able to handle the new [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged abuse, BDSM, choice, choices, comfort, cons, experience, friends, information, kinky, kinky side, lifestyle, myths, outting yourself, personal choices, personal thoughts, play, questions, relationship, Relationships, rt, sex, sexual interests, share, sharing, submissive, support, telling friends, valid questions |
By lunaKM on April 10, 2009
One of the first questions a new submissive asks themselves is are they normal for desiring the things they do. This could be kinky sex, humiliation or service. Anything that appears to fall outside the vanilla umbrella can cause a novice to question if they are normal. This in fact, is normal. Everyone questions themselves [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged acceptance, BDSM, Bondage, comfort, danger, desires, experience, kinky, love, normal, normalcy, novice, questions, relationship, Relationships, risk, rt, Service, sex, standing, submissive, understanding |
By lunaKM on March 27, 2009
Sub Drop can come in many different forms. Sub Drop is the emotional and physical affects of the release and drop of endorphins in the body after a play session. Most of what you read online are the physical aspects; the fatigue, sadness, aches and pains and recovery from marks. There is a more intense [...]
Posted in Mindset, Playtime | Tagged ad space, advice, aftercare, balance, BDSM, book, boundaries, communication, connection, cons, consensual, depression, dress, emotions, endorphins, experience, fear, friends, help, history, instability, intimacy, kinky, lifestyle, limits, loneliness, love, marks, normal, online, partners, play, purpose, questions, recovery, relationship, Relationships, rt, sadness, scene, sub drop, submissive, trust |
By lunaKM on March 23, 2009
If you’ve been around the BDSM and D/s scene at all there is one of many books that always comes up in conversation as a good book to read when you are new to the whole lifestyle. This book is Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism by [...]
Posted in Reviews | Tagged abuse, advice, amazon.com, basics, BDSM, Bondage, book, books, community, cons, consensual, D/s, danger, Dom, Dominance, dominant, emotions, endorphins, etiquette, experience, explanations, female, help, Impact, impact play, information, kinky, learning, library, lifestyle, limits, love, manners, Masochism, molly devon, negotiation, novice, novices, philip miller, play, player, recommended reading, relationship, Relationships, review, roles, romance, rt, safe, Safety, sane, scene, screw the roses, sex, SSC, standing, submission, submissive, support, tips, toy, toys, tricks, understanding |
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