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31 Days of Submissive Journaling: Day 22 – How to Manage Negative Comments Without Rage

31 Days of Submissive Journaling: Day 22 – How to Manage Negative Comments Without Rage

Accepting criticism is never an easy thing to do. Learn how to curb your knee-jerk responses and anger to keep your readers coming back and to also attract new readers.

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Release from the Collar: A Journey

March 20, 2014. Sir released me tonight.  I’ve been released. I admire and respect his reasoning.  He has a lot going on and he can’t fulfill his responsibilities as my Dom.  He recognizes this and made the decision with my best interests in mind.  I didn’t ask for this; I wasn’t unhappy with our relationship.  [...]

6 comments Posted by pinksubgeek | Posted in: Beginner Basics
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Is it Really a Bad Thing to be a Selfish Submissive?

The other day, and I can’t recall the reason, but I was thinking about something that happened during a play party I had once attended. I had just gotten my butt whacked and in my happy space. I had my blanket and plate full of snacks(after scene munchies), and was wearing my brand new flannel [...]

6 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Personal Growth, Relationships
Why is Submission So Hard!

Why is Submission So Hard!

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 7/20/13 I’m often stunned by the amount of mail I get from submissives telling me that they thought submission was going to be easy; that they could stop worrying about life, give up all responsibility and just serve someone else’s whims. The fantasy was strong with these men and women [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Personal Growth
The Longing of Being Owned

The Longing of Being Owned

I remember it was about ten years ago when I was first introduced to the Sleeping Beauty trilogy by Anne Rice. I had stumbled across the series by accident while browsing the erotica section of a local bookstore. I had no idea what they were about but had read a lot of Anne Rice’s works [...]

6 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
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Single In The Scene Part VI: Vulnerability

I’m of the opinion that there are many slaves who are unowned for one reason: fear of being vulnerable. The way relationships tend to flow in the vanilla world vulnerability isn’t a necessity to maintain the relationship. Usually most are not surrendering to their partners and both tend to rest assured that they are equals [...]

1 comment Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Mindset, Personal Growth, Relationships, Service
Ask lunaKM – Another Batch of Quick Answers

Ask lunaKM – Another Batch of Quick Answers

Hi Luna! Do you feel that another submissive would be a better Mentor to a novice submissive rather than another Dominant? I personally feel that a person of similar role to you can advise and mentor you better than someone who could be your Dominant. So if you are a slave, you should have a [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Single in the Scene Part V: The Truth about Singlehood

Single in the Scene Part V: The Truth about Singlehood

This is kinda pithy, so please hang in there! In this series thus far, I’ve done my absolute best to keep it positive. Maybe in some ways, I’ve managed to gloss over the ‘truth of singlehood’ of a slave, which in a way slightly misses the mark of my desire which is to help those [...]

4 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Mindset, Personal Growth, Relationships
Ask lunaKM – Weakness and Triggers, 24/7 Start and Incompatibility

Ask lunaKM – Weakness and Triggers, 24/7 Start and Incompatibility

Dear lunaKM, I am new to the Submissive role and BDSM in general. To make a long story short I am finally with my best friend from high school 10 years later, after being through a hellish marriage for 5 years and a physically abusive relationship before that…I love my now boyfriend and he is [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Rules for the Working Sub

Rules for the Working Sub

When you’re working full time in a professional field, the desire to submit can be impeded by a good number of obstacles. As a submissive who balances my full-time employment with my submissive role, one of my chief concerns will always be finding a way to please my dominant while maintaining a strong professional image [...]

3 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Finding a New Love – The Impact of Time on Your BDSM Checklist

Finding a New Love – The Impact of Time on Your BDSM Checklist

Falling in love is easy, so is falling out of love-especially when it is the love of a toy.  One of the assignments that I assign to the people I mentor involves this occurrence.   When I came into the lifestyle, I had two main loves-rope and floggers.  To me, there was nothing better than getting to [...]

4 comments Posted by LaneyDoll | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Personal Growth
Learn How to Nourish Yourself, Your Relationship and Your Submission

Learn How to Nourish Yourself, Your Relationship and Your Submission

Several years ago, I was reading a book. In the book, one of the characters had a tattoo that read “quod nutrit me destruit me”. After reading a bit further, the translation of the quote was given, “that which nourishes me also destroys me”. Long after finishing the book, I was unable to forget that [...]

4 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics

Living M/s Book Club Wrap-Up Participation Showcase

We are all done with this book club, but if you are still reading feel free to comment on this or any of the previous week’s posts. Today I wanted to take some time and showcase all of the favorite quotes, some of the key thoughts and comments on the book from this event. Thank [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Roundtable Discussions
Everything I Know About Submission I Learned from my Cat

Everything I Know About Submission I Learned from my Cat

For the Submissive Guide Newsletter 11/3/12 The many lessons in life can be picked up in some of the most unusual places. The other day I was watching my cats and had a sudden realization that they way they live could have lessons for me and my submission if I wanted to see them. The [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
Struggling to Find Balance in a Stressful Life

Struggling to Find Balance in a Stressful Life

Sometimes it is difficult to find balance when there is so much going on in your life. It is important, however, to find some compromise within yourself because otherwise you may become stressed out. No one wants to be stressed out if they can help it. I know I don’t like that feeling. Balance can [...]

5 comments Posted by LadySneak | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Submissive Advent – Day 19: Light a Candle

Submissive Advent – Day 19: Light a Candle

Today is day 19 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can go back to that now, or rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also read the introduction post. Most of us enjoy the splendor and glory of candles. Candles are visible reminders of our possible triumph over darkness. Have you [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Advent Calendar
Submissive Advent – Day 18: Becoming Real

Submissive Advent – Day 18: Becoming Real

Today is day 18 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can go back to that now, or rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also read the introduction post. The inspiration for today comes from one of my favorite stories, The Velveteen Rabbit. It has a wonderful  ending that we all [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Advent Calendar
Submissive Advent – Day 17: A Moment of Gratitude

Submissive Advent – Day 17: A Moment of Gratitude

Today is day 17 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can go back to that now, or rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also read the introduction post. Showing gratitude is a wonderful way to express to someone that you care for them, who they are and what they have [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Advent Calendar
Submissive Advent – Day 14: Don’t Be Afraid to Be Brave

Submissive Advent – Day 14: Don’t Be Afraid to Be Brave

Today is day 14 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can go back to that now, or rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also read the introduction post. I am afraid. I am afraid that so many novice submissives will not reach their full potential because of fears they will [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Advent Calendar
Submissive Advent – Day 11: Pancake Identity

Submissive Advent – Day 11: Pancake Identity

Today is day 11 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can go back to that now, or rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also read the introduction post. In the book club event we did this fall we read “Conquer Me” by Kacie Cunningham. She has some very wonderful stories [...]

7 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Advent Calendar
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