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The Role Sex Plays in a D/s Relationship

The Role Sex Plays in a D/s Relationship

Sex and how we’ve learned about sex can form our own opinions about how sexual D/s forms in our lives and how we respond to it. The emphasis of sex in a D/s relationship comes about in a variety of forms and is only limited by your imagination. What role does it play in your relationship?

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Sex and Sexuality
He Wants to Watch: How to Share Your Masturbation Sessions With Confidence

He Wants to Watch: How to Share Your Masturbation Sessions With Confidence

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 6/20/15 I know for myself, some of the most embarrassing things my Dominant has asked me are actually quite tame. One of the early ones was masturbating in front of him. Sure I’d been doing it on camera for him for months but having him sit there in the room, [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Play and Sex
When He Slapped Me: My Impressions of Face Slapping

When He Slapped Me: My Impressions of Face Slapping

First published on KinkAcademy.com. I wrote this almost 5 years ago and am sharing it again with you here. As with everything BDSM has to offer, there are what are considered light play activities and those that are intense, even on the edge or taboo. Face slapping is considered the latter.  Two years ago I [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
The Anatomy of A BDSM Scene: What Happens?

The Anatomy of A BDSM Scene: What Happens?

Your first scene with your Dominant is coming up and so far they’ve been pretty foggy as far as what will happen. You’ve never been involved in BDSM before but you are excited and scared for the upcoming session. What’s going to happen? What will you expect to see and do? A scene is in [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Sexual Exclusivity in Poly Relationships – Is It Possible?

Sexual Exclusivity in Poly Relationships – Is It Possible?

Many of my blog stalkers (you know who you are) are aware that just over a year ago KnyghtMare collared another submissive and officially made us a poly group.  We never saw ourselves as polyamorous before, in fact KnyghtMare and I were firmly in the monogamous camp until froggyKM came along and blew that all [...]

16 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
3 Easy Steps to Setting the Mood – Make Your Playtime More Orgasmic, Full of Energy and Fun

3 Easy Steps to Setting the Mood – Make Your Playtime More Orgasmic, Full of Energy and Fun

Picture this: it’s Valentine’s Day and you have a romantic evening planned for you and your honey. How do you prepare yourself and your bedroom for a night of passion and bliss? Do you light candles, lower the overhead lights, play soft, alluring music, perhaps use incense? Maybe you even spread rose petals on the [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Learning About BDSM on YouTube.com

Learning About BDSM on YouTube.com

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 8/18/12 When I first started recording video posts to put on YouTube I didn’t think any BDSM information could be found there, and in fact, thought that my videos would be taken down as soon as they went up. That hasn’t been the case and I’m thrilled about that. But [...]

How Love Feeds Service in a D/s Relationship

How Love Feeds Service in a D/s Relationship

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 6/2/12 It is true that we are newlyweds and we do all the newlywed sort of things that you’d expect to see; the hand holding, overt affection in public, lovey eyes and little giggling grins.  What you may not see is that we’ve actually been together for 8 years and [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships

Research Page: Domestic Discipline

One of the easier topics for me to research has been Domestic Discipline. There is so much information out there of all types on this sort of relationship. Much of it is terrible. I’ve weeded through a lot of misunderstandings to get to the truth. Here’s what I’ve learned. Domestic Discipline is the practice between [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships, Research Pages

[Video Post] Is It Cheating When It’s Online?

A couple weeks ago I was asked about cheating. Specifically if using technology to cyber date someone was considered cheating. It brought me to the conclusion that we needed to have a discussion about it, just you and me. Cheating is a big nasty word. It conjures distrust, fear and doubt in a relationship. It [...]

11 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships, Video Posts
A Day in the Life: Tlbsab

A Day in the Life: Tlbsab

This is a guest post for the Day in a Life Series. Thank you Tlbsab! First let me say that this article is in no way meant to offend anyone and is meant for information only. Religion is the basis of our relationship and is the reason that our lifestyle works for our family. I [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Processing Pain in Play: What is the Benefit of Pain, Anyway?

Processing Pain in Play: What is the Benefit of Pain, Anyway?

Continuing on the topic of processing pain we come to a very basic question, “What’s the benefit of this pain, anyway?” If you aren’t a masochist this can be a question with no clear answer. Some say, “it is part of submission,” others “to please their Sadistic Top,” and still others can say, “the benefits [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
5 Ways to Make Long Distance Relationships Work For You

5 Ways to Make Long Distance Relationships Work For You

This is a guest post by Sephani. She contacted me via email with an interest in writing a post and here  it is! Long-distance relationships (LDR) of any sort have always had negative press reviews and I’m sure all of us have heard the, “they never work” response at some point in time. Lifestyle LDR [...]

3 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Relationships
Book Review: The Surrendered Wife

Book Review: The Surrendered Wife

This month I dived into a book full of controversy with its approach to living intimately with your husband (or partner). I read The Surrendered Wife by Laura Doyle. I didn’t read it to find the reason for the argument between feminists and the author of the book’s ideas. I read it to see what [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Reviews
Can You Separate BDSM and Sex?

Can You Separate BDSM and Sex?

When Master and I get to play, it’s quite sexually charged. We find the play and the energy we swap as very sexual. Our play time usually ends in sex of some form. That’s just how we roll. Does it always have to be that way? Heck no! In fact, when I was casually playing, [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Sex and Sexuality
Simple Steps to Introduce Kink into an Existing Relationship

Simple Steps to Introduce Kink into an Existing Relationship

When you discover that you might be kinky there are a lot of questions surrounding how to accept that. One of those may be trying to explore that kink with your existing partner. But how do you bring up the subject and how do you handle what they may say about the ideas you are [...]

7 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Relationships

Maintenance Spankings; Why Do It?

This week’s video post is about maintenance spankings. Maintenance spankings are a way to keep the relationship fresh, revive the roles on a regular basis and to not let life away from the dynamic interfere with what your relationship goals are. A maintenance spanking can be anything from a scheduled night of the week where [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships, Video Posts
The Emotional Side of Sub Drop and Why It Happens More In Committed Relationships

The Emotional Side of Sub Drop and Why It Happens More In Committed Relationships

Sub Drop can come in many different forms. Sub Drop is the emotional and physical affects of the release and drop of endorphins in the body after a play session.  Most of what you read online are the physical aspects; the fatigue, sadness, aches and pains and recovery from marks. There is a more intense [...]

100 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Mindset, Play and Sex
Personal Grooming Service Skills: How to Give a Romantic Bath

Personal Grooming Service Skills: How to Give a Romantic Bath

Romance gets lost in the rush of work, family, kids and obligations but a romantic bath is not only relaxing, it can create intimacy between you and your partner. In Ancient Rome and Egypt, bathing in scented oils was a prelude to lovemaking. Giving a bath to someone else is not only romantic, but a [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Health and Beauty, Mindset, Service
What Is Polyamory Anyway?

What Is Polyamory Anyway?

Today’s post comes from May (follow her @readheadgirl) a writer and artist. For the longest time when I heard “polyamory,” I thought of hippies in the 70s having orgies at drug parties. I blame my misconception on why I took so long to realize that I am a polyamorous person. Like me, many people have [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships, Sex and Sexuality

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