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The Role Sex Plays in a D/s Relationship

The Role Sex Plays in a D/s Relationship

Sex and how we’ve learned about sex can form our own opinions about how sexual D/s forms in our lives and how we respond to it. The emphasis of sex in a D/s relationship comes about in a variety of forms and is only limited by your imagination. What role does it play in your relationship?

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Sex and Sexuality
He Wants to Watch: How to Share Your Masturbation Sessions With Confidence

He Wants to Watch: How to Share Your Masturbation Sessions With Confidence

Let’s figure out how we can break down our own walls of fear, embarrassment, shyness and poor body confidence to become their favorite source of this material.

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Play and Sex
When He Slapped Me: My Impressions of Face Slapping

When He Slapped Me: My Impressions of Face Slapping

There are light play activities and those that are intense, even on the edge or taboo. Face slapping is considered the latter. Two years ago, I approached KM with a request for something I never thought I’d ask for. I asked if he’d slap me across the face.

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
The Anatomy of A BDSM Scene: What Happens?

The Anatomy of A BDSM Scene: What Happens?

Let me describe to you what a first scene might be like.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Sexual Exclusivity in Poly Relationships – Is It Possible?

Sexual Exclusivity in Poly Relationships – Is It Possible?

A frequent misconception with poly is that it’s orgiastic group sex all the time.

16 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
3 Easy Steps to Setting the Mood – Make Your Playtime More Orgasmic, Full of Energy and Fun

3 Easy Steps to Setting the Mood – Make Your Playtime More Orgasmic, Full of Energy and Fun

Sure we can! Just because we love rope, leather, floggers, and control doesn’t mean we can’t have the mood set beforehand. So, what do you do?

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Learning About BDSM on YouTube.com

Learning About BDSM on YouTube.com

There’s a treasure trove of information if you know where to look which is what I’m going to share with you here. Today’s newsletter is a listing of all the really interesting BDSM education-focused videos on Youtube I could find when I was surfing around one day.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive, Play and Sex
How Love Feeds Service in a D/s Relationship

How Love Feeds Service in a D/s Relationship

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 6/2/12 It is true that we are newlyweds and we do all the newlywed sort of things that you’d expect to see; the hand holding, overt affection in public, lovey eyes and little giggling grins.  What you may not see is that we’ve actually been together for 8 years and [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships

Research Page: Domestic Discipline

One of the easier topics for me to research has been Domestic Discipline. There is so much information out there of all types on this sort of relationship. Much of it is terrible. I’ve weeded through a lot of misunderstandings to get to the truth. Here’s what I’ve learned. Domestic Discipline is the practice between [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships, Research Pages

[Video Post] Is It Cheating When It’s Online?

Cheating is a big nasty word. It conjures distrust, fear, and doubt in a relationship. It means that someone has violated the negotiated boundaries of the relationship. But is it cheating if the offenses happened online?

11 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships, Video Posts
A Day in the Life: Tlbsab

A Day in the Life: Tlbsab

This is a guest post for the Day in a Life Series. Thank you Tlbsab!

Comments Off Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Processing Pain in Play: What is the Benefit of Pain, Anyway?

Processing Pain in Play: What is the Benefit of Pain, Anyway?

It is important to understand what we get from experiencing pain in a play aspect. Inside are just a few of the benefits of experiencing pain in play.

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
5 Ways to Make Long Distance Relationships Work For You

5 Ways to Make Long Distance Relationships Work For You

Long-distance relationships (LDR) of any sort have always had negative press reviews and I’m sure all of us have heard the, “they never work” response at some point in time. Lifestyle LDR has even more negative connotations as people harp on the inability to fully submit/dominate from a distance. I’m here to tell you that they can work. They have worked. You just have to make it work. Anything worth having is never easy to achieve and both parties have to really want it.

3 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Relationships
Book Review: The Surrendered Wife

Book Review: The Surrendered Wife

Not all of the suggestions would work towards a D/s relationship, but as with everything you read, it’s best to take what you can and leave the rest. A book can only be as good as what you get out of it, so for that reason, I’d have to give it a relatively low rating in comparison to D/s oriented books as far as helpfulness is concerned.

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Reviews
Can You Separate BDSM and Sex?

Can You Separate BDSM and Sex?

But can you really separate the sex from BDSM? You have to admit that much of what we do during play time is rooted in sexual pleasure and sensation. Even if you are never touched sexually you can achieve orgasm. Does this make it sex or BDSM?

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Sex and Sexuality
Simple Steps to Introduce Kink into an Existing Relationship

Simple Steps to Introduce Kink into an Existing Relationship

When you discover that you might be kinky there are a lot of questions surrounding how to accept that. One of those may be trying to explore that kink with your existing partner. But how do you bring up the subject and how do you handle what they may say about the ideas you are [...]

7 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Relationships

Maintenance Spankings; Why Do It?

This week’s video post is about maintenance spankings. Maintenance spankings are a way to keep the relationship fresh, revive the roles on a regular basis and to not let life away from the dynamic interfere with what your relationship goals are. A maintenance spanking can be anything from a scheduled night of the week where [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships, Video Posts
The Emotional Side of Sub Drop and Why It Happens More In Committed Relationships

The Emotional Side of Sub Drop and Why It Happens More In Committed Relationships

Sub Drop can come in many different forms. Sub Drop is the emotional and physical affects of the release and drop of endorphins in the body after a play session.  Most of what you read online are the physical aspects; the fatigue, sadness, aches and pains and recovery from marks. There is a more intense [...]

100 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Mindset, Play and Sex
Personal Grooming Service Skills: How to Give a Romantic Bath

Personal Grooming Service Skills: How to Give a Romantic Bath

Romance gets lost in the rush of work, family, kids and obligations but a romantic bath is not only relaxing, it can create intimacy between you and your partner. In Ancient Rome and Egypt, bathing in scented oils was a prelude to lovemaking. Giving a bath to someone else is not only romantic, but a [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Health and Beauty, Mindset, Service
What Is Polyamory Anyway?

What Is Polyamory Anyway?

Today’s post comes from May (follow her @readheadgirl) a writer and artist. For the longest time when I heard “polyamory,” I thought of hippies in the 70s having orgies at drug parties. I blame my misconception on why I took so long to realize that I am a polyamorous person. Like me, many people have [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships, Sex and Sexuality

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