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By lunaKM on August 9, 2010
From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 5/8/10 Just under 3 years ago the BDSM community was a very differnet place. There has always been discussion boards and chat rooms. We could always connect via mySpace and Facebook, but there was never a centralized social network. Until FetLife came into being. I joined the site when it [...]
Posted in Newsletter Archive, Social Norms | Tagged BDSM, community, facebook, fetlife, information, opinion |
By lunaKM on June 23, 2010
Each month I answer questions asked by readers like you. Come see what I’ve answered this month. Q: I’m quite new to the idea of being a submissive, but after a lot of research and buying a lot of books, I feel that I am ready to explore a bit more. I met an online [...]
Posted in Novice Q & A | Tagged amazon.com, commitment, D/s relationship, Dominance, information, needs, novice, questions, submission, understanding, wants |
By mrsK on May 28, 2010
Okay, so our worlds didn’t really collide, they just tapped each other a little bit. This is what happened: Mr. K, my Master, and I went out to lunch a few weeks ago. One of our protocols is that I prepare his beverages. For iced tea, for instance, he likes one “blue” and one “pink.” [...]
Posted in Relationships | Tagged first time, information, kink, lifestyle, lifestyles, m/s, private life, protocol, ritual, secret identity, two worlds |
By lunaKM on May 26, 2010
Every month I ask for your anonymous questions and pleas for advice. Here are the few I got this month. First one is about introducing D/s into an existing relationship. I also cover 2 dominant relationship, just starting out and writing a letter of intent. How do I introduce my husband to the D/s or [...]
Posted in Novice Q & A | Tagged advice, expectations, experience, information, marriage, needs, negotiation, negotiations, novice, poly, questions, serving, training, Training Resume, two dominants, understanding |
By lunaKM on May 24, 2010
Being that I’m a reader of Jack Rinella via his weekly column that he sent out via a mailing list and I enjoy his essays on his website I was looking forward to reading one of his books. The book I chose to start with is The Compleat Slave – Creating and Living an Erotic [...]
Posted in Reviews | Tagged amazon.com, book, D/s, D/s relationship, information, jack rinella, novice, personal perspective, personal reflection, review, slavery, weekly column |
By nan {SL} on May 7, 2010
Part 1: Information Please! If you’re a new submissive this lifestyle may seem overwhelming at first. A submissive I know terms it ‘the new submissive smell’. Dom/mes sense ‘new blood’, and swarm like piranhas to interact with, play with or train the new submissive in the group. Dom/mes may contact you online or meet you [...]
Posted in Safety | Tagged asking questions, be cautious, information, new relationships, predators, protect yourself, references, SSC, warning signs |
By lunaKM on April 2, 2010
Not long ago I had someone ask me privately why I feel the need to help submissives with this website, and what qualifications I have to tell people how to improve themselves. And it’s true that I don’t have any life coaching training or experience with counseling, but for what I do here only one [...]
Posted in Service | Tagged experience, information, novice, perfection, understanding |
By lunaKM on March 15, 2010
Another question from March Question Month comes from Coco: I am curious about what your thoughts on those who admit to participating underage is? I have been referred to as “vanilla” for being uncomfortable with those who identify/have identified as submissives and slaves at/from a very young age. I can understand experimenting at a young [...]
Posted in Social Norms, Submission | Tagged childhood, experimentation, information, novice, question month, teenagers in BDSM, underage |
By lunaKM on February 24, 2010
Novice Q & A is for you to ask questions about things you’d like more information on, advice you are looking for or anything else. You can even ask me personal questions! My inbox is always open so you can send me questions whenever they occur. Last month I answered questions about appropriate greetings and topping [...]
Posted in Novice Q & A | Tagged advice, answers, ask me, emotions, information, novices, questions, series, understanding |
By lunaKM on February 13, 2010
This video post is about what not to share on your online profile. We all have one somewhere. FetLife being all the rage right now, but also we have alt.com, collarme.com, bondage.com and others where we place ads and identity profiles up to get people interested. This interest can be friends or relationship related; it [...]
Posted in Safety, Video Posts | Tagged abuse, Alt.com, Bondage, Bondage.com, CollarMe, cons, danger, dangers, dating, depression, email, false sense of security, family, fetlife, friends, information, internet, online, Online dating, online profiles, profile safety, relationship, rt, safe, Safety, security, Service, share, share photos, sharing, support, tips |
By Guest Author on January 15, 2010
This is a guest post by dani. She is a new submissive in an Adult Nursing relationship.You can read about Erotic Lactation at Wikipedia or visit Land of Milk and Honey for more information. We didn’t start 2009 with any kind of BDSM activities in our lives, so we have quite the journey over the [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged activities, adult nursing relationship, BDSM, bdsm activities, bdsm play feature, connection, cons, dani, erotic lactation, feature series, fetlife, guest post, information, journey, kinky, love, play, relationship, rt, sex, submissive, tall |
By Guest Author on January 11, 2010
This is another guest post for the BDSM Play Feature here on SubmissiveGuide. This post about Fire Play is by Gwendolyn. Enjoy! I have always been a fire bug and am a volunteer fire fighter. So when I became interested in BDSM and heard about fire play it was definitely top of my list of [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged amazon.com, basics, BDSM, bdsm play, bdsm play feature, book, bottom, cons, danger, Dom, Domme, email, event, events, experience, feature series, fetlife, fire cupping, fire drumming, fire fleshing, fire flogging, fire play, fire whipping, focus, friends, friendships, guest post, Gwendolyn, health, information, learned, leather, love, m/s, online, opinion, pain tolerance, play, poly, questions, review, risk, rt, safe, Safety, scene, Service, single, slave, stress, submissive, support, toy, toys, trust, websites, writing |
By lunaKM on December 4, 2009
I had a question sent to me via YouTube asking me about for information about dress protocols. I can only tell you what I am familiar with, so be aware that there are many many other forms of dress protocols and just as many (if not more) reasons behind them. I’m going to assume that [...]
Posted in Rituals and Routines | Tagged ask me, BDSM, clothing, Dom, dominant, dominants, dress, event, grooming, information, makeup, play, poses, preference, preferences, protocol, purpose, relationship, rt, rules, safe, sex, share, shaving, short, submissive, symbols, wants, what to wear |
By lunaKM on November 27, 2009
The Submissive Guide Newsletter is your personal direct channel to what’s on my mind. It’s delivered every 2 weeks right to your inbox for you to read at your own leisure. You are missing out if you haven’t signed up. I’ve got so much more to tell you; and I’m doing it with the newsletter. [...]
Posted in Views & More... | Tagged bdsm newsletter, bottom, contest, dates, desires, email, essays, giveaway, information, needs, newsletter, novice, rt, sign up, submissive, submissive guide newsletter, suggestions, tips, wants |
By lunaKM on November 23, 2009
One of the cornerstone books recommended for submissives and Dominants alike has always been Erotic Slavehood by Christina Abernathy. Once two individual books; Miss Abernathy’s Concise Slave Training Manual and Training with Miss Abernathy, this omnibus has everything you could want in a manual about training submissives. When I first read this book I was [...]
Posted in Reviews | Tagged amazon.com, book, books, Dom, dominant, dominant partner, dominants, Impact, information, m/s, Miss Abernathy, relationship, review, rt, Service, single, slave, slave training, standing, submissive, training, understanding |
By lunaKM on October 17, 2009
This week’s video post is about sub space. When you first heard about sub space it was probably something that you either thought you’d never experience or something that seemed so strange and foreign that you believed it to be a myth. Then you heard the stories and could swear that people were on drugs [...]
Posted in Playtime, Video Posts | Tagged connection, Dom, dominant, emotions, endorphins, experience, focus, happiness, information, love, masochist, play, prayer, rt, Service, slave, spirit, sub space, submission, subspace, trust, value |
By lunaKM on October 6, 2009
FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE – Please cross-post Welcome to the 3rd Annual Submissive Journey Weekend… I am proud to announce that registration for the next Submissive Journey Weekend is now open. We cordially invite those who identify as submissive, slave, girl, boi /boy, bottom, pup, etc. to a weekend of learning, growth and support. All genders, [...]
Posted in Views & More... | Tagged BDSM event, bottom, classes, discussion, educational opportunities, event, experience, focus, gender, growth, information, journey, learning, love, questions, relationship, rt, Service, sex, sexual orientation, share, SJW, skills, slave, submissive, submissive event, submissive journey weekend, support, training |
By lunaKM on September 24, 2009
I am in need of someone to make 2 banners for Submissive Guide. Now before you go running off to make them, please contact me. They aren’t specifically for the website but something I have coming up in the next few days. This is a paying job! Contact me for more information please. –lunaKM
Posted in Webmaster Notes | Tagged information, submissive |
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