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7 Myths of Grieving and Understanding Your Responses to Death

7 Myths of Grieving and Understanding Your Responses to Death

This is a guest post by Shahjahani a personal friend and Hospice Nurse. “Grief is a journey, not something you get over” Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D. Grief can be experienced for many reasons, not just the loss of a loved one. Grief is not just related to the loss of a person’s physical presence. Grief [...]

3 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Relationships, Views & More...
Single In the Scene Part VIII: Transformation Happens

Single In the Scene Part VIII: Transformation Happens

There’s going to come a point, I pray, that the single slave will be not so single and will be heading towards being owned. So for the last message in this series, I thought I’d talk about releasing the fear of transformation. There’s a song from the late 80′s “Don’t Make Me Over” by Sybil [...]

3 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Mindset
Coming Out to Friends: Time to Reveal Your Kinky/Submissive Side

Coming Out to Friends: Time to Reveal Your Kinky/Submissive Side

Ever since realizing my role in the lifestyle, I have been faced with a lot of…decisions that I’ve had to make. In some instances, I’ve had no issues with making those decisions. But then there are those instances where the decisions I’ve had to make, aren’t always so easy to make. I’ve had to put [...]

7 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Learn to Submit

Pain Play Discussed Online – Explore The Variety of Views

Submissive Guide isn’t the only place you can get quality information about the topics of BDSM and this month I’ve been focusing on sadomasochism and pain play. So I’ve done a bit of research and pulled together some of the best online reading on the topic. Browse the list, watch the videos and learn more [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Learning Better Pain Processing Through Visualization

Learning Better Pain Processing Through Visualization

This essay was first written and published in the Society of Janus newsletter “Growing Pains.” I hope you enjoy! from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 5/4/13 Pushing boundaries in pain tolerance is a common request for submissives of all flavors. As a masochist I enjoy pain for the sake of pain. I don’t always want to [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Don’t Operate Heavy Machinery While in Top/Sub Space

Don’t Operate Heavy Machinery While in Top/Sub Space

I first published this in Society of Janus’ Bi-monthly newsletter, I thought I’d share it with you as well. From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 4/6/13 Exploring kink is full of exciting experiences and hormonal roller coasters. We manipulate adrenaline and endorphins to give us a pleasurable experience during play. Often without knowing how these hormones [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Play and Sex
What Influences You?

What Influences You?

The other day, I found myself wondering who and what influences me with the decisions I make. The reason why I found myself pondering this is because I had begun to doubt myself and everything I believed and how I lived my life because of something someone had said about me. This person who had [...]

3 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Improve Yourself, Social Norms
Single in the Scene Part IV: Petitioning

Single in the Scene Part IV: Petitioning

This series is written from the perspective that being single in the Lifestyle affords one the opportunity to do some soul-searching, learning, and defining in order to be better equipped to transition into a suitable and desirable relationship in due time. Read - Part I: Boundaries,  Part II: Service, Part III: Slave Resume. So, now that [...]

Your Responsibilities in Play – In and Out of a Relationship

Your Responsibilities in Play – In and Out of a Relationship

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 3/2/13 Our responsibilities as a submissive are important to be aware of. I’ve said a number of times in other articles that often novice submissives feel that once they are in a relationship they don’t have any responsibilities at all. That is far from true. Does that then mean that [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Play and Sex
Single in the Scene Part III: The Slave Resume

Single in the Scene Part III: The Slave Resume

This series is written from the perspective that being single in the Lifestyle affords one the opportunity to do some soul-searching, learning, and defining in order to be better equipped to transition into a suitable and desirable relationship in due time. Read – Part I: Boundaries and Part II: Service. Yeeees – there is a [...]

3 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Improve Yourself, Learn to Submit, Training Resume
lunaKM’s Weekend Reflections

lunaKM’s Weekend Reflections

I’ve been struggling with my submission this week and it’s put tension on our dynamic. It’s a natural thing for me to have moments of questions and struggle with how I live. It will even out but until then I’m having to work harder to keep my focus on what I should be doing and [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Weekend Reflections
Finding a New Love – The Impact of Time on Your BDSM Checklist

Finding a New Love – The Impact of Time on Your BDSM Checklist

Falling in love is easy, so is falling out of love-especially when it is the love of a toy.  One of the assignments that I assign to the people I mentor involves this occurrence.   When I came into the lifestyle, I had two main loves-rope and floggers.  To me, there was nothing better than getting to [...]

4 comments Posted by LaneyDoll | Posted in: BDSM Basics, Improve Yourself
How to Plan a Formal Collaring Ceremony

How to Plan a Formal Collaring Ceremony

Receiving your collar is a special occasion for many submissives and slaves. For some this time means a celebration of your relationship and the commitment that is about to happen. A formal collaring ceremony is what came about because of this need. There are no right or wrong ways to be collared. They can be [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
Learn How to Set Goals that You Can Attain and Reach Them!

Learn How to Set Goals that You Can Attain and Reach Them!

Today I’m excited to announce the launch of a brand new eCourse, Setting Goals, here at Submissive Guide. This ecourse is all about finding and achieving your submissive and life goals and today it is just $10. Sign up for the eCourse today. If you’ve ever wished you knew how to set goals and keep yourself accountable [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Improve Yourself
Ask lunaKM – Being a large submissive

Ask lunaKM – Being a large submissive

I’m so glad I found your site. I am a large woman, about 275, who started exploring but has not yet experienced a D/s relationship. I think I’ve resolved much of my conflict about my sexuality, but I’ve some lingering issues to deal with from the last time I was thinner. I lost 90 pounds [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
3 Easy Steps to Setting the Mood – Make Your Playtime More Orgasmic, Full of Energy and Fun

3 Easy Steps to Setting the Mood – Make Your Playtime More Orgasmic, Full of Energy and Fun

Picture this: it’s Valentine’s Day and you have a romantic evening planned for you and your honey. How do you prepare yourself and your bedroom for a night of passion and bliss? Do you light candles, lower the overhead lights, play soft, alluring music, perhaps use incense? Maybe you even spread rose petals on the [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
When You Encounter Limits Mid Scene

When You Encounter Limits Mid Scene

Imagine this; you are playing and happily enjoying what is going on between the two of you. As the scene continues you start to feel pushed to your limit, but you continue to play. Then, almost without warning you hit a wall and (hopefully) safeword. You’ve just hit a limit. It could be a temporary [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
A Fond Farewell to InformedConsent.co.uk

A Fond Farewell to InformedConsent.co.uk

Some of you may have come across the British website – Informed Consent. It’s a sort of British Fetlife with blog posts, message boards and personals to search. News came out recently to say due to various reasons the person who is behind the site is closing it at the end of February. I thought I’d [...]

4 comments Posted by thisgirl | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Views & More...
Letting Go of the Bank Account – Submitting to Financial Control

Letting Go of the Bank Account – Submitting to Financial Control

Introducing one of Submissive Guide’s newest contributing authors – selkie! Of all the subjects to write about on submission, this seems the most vanilla to me, probably because it didn’t used to be unusual for one partner in a partnership to maintain the bank accounts all that long ago. For some vanilla couples, it still [...]

11 comments Posted by selkie | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Relationships
How You Can Respond When Your Family Disapproves of Your Chosen Lifestyle/Sexuality

How You Can Respond When Your Family Disapproves of Your Chosen Lifestyle/Sexuality

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 4-7-12 My family found out that I’m into BDSM/submissive and they are freaking out, what do I do? Coming out to your family, whether it be homosexuality or being kinky is a nerve-wrecking situation for anyone. Not being able to control when and where you family finds out this information [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
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