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7 Things I Wish I’d Known When I Was New to BDSM

7 Things I Wish I’d Known When I Was New to BDSM

There is always time for a bit of education and knowledge before exploration. It can keep you safe, it can make you more aware, it can keep you safe and it can be fun. What 7 things did I learn that I wish I had known a LONG time ago?

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Personal Growth
On Being Pansexual

On Being Pansexual

I am pansexual. I love people. And my lust is unrestricted.

5 comments Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Personal Growth, Play and Sex
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The Best Part About Submission is Our Ability to Choose

If asked what the best part about submission is there are a million ways to answer. But the best part is our ability to choose.

2 comments Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Self-Esteem in Submissives: Self-Talk, Affirmations and Self-Love

Self-Esteem in Submissives: Self-Talk, Affirmations and Self-Love

Whether dominant or submissive, we have been shaped by our pasts. Many of us take the messages we heard in our childhood, into our adult lives and still believe these terrible things about ourselves.

3 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Personal Growth
8 Ways You Might Be a “Doormat” Submissive and How to Stop

8 Ways You Might Be a “Doormat” Submissive and How to Stop

Let’s not confuse the traits of a loving, unselfish and sacrificing submissive with a doormat. Here are some questions you must ask yourself.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
Ask lunaKM – Consideration Periods, Apologetic Sympathy and Sub in the Bedroom – Equal in Everything Else

Ask lunaKM – Consideration Periods, Apologetic Sympathy and Sub in the Bedroom – Equal in Everything Else

Hi lunaKM, I’m semi new to m/s relationships and my new dom and i have been together for a month now. I wanted to know how long does a consideration period last, and should I wait for him to bring up being collared? We agreed to take it slow but we are still very much [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Ask lunaKM – Final Tests of Submission, BBWs in Kink and Dominant Titles

Ask lunaKM – Final Tests of Submission, BBWs in Kink and Dominant Titles

Dear lunaKM, I recently met a Dom online and corresponded with him for over a month. He made it clear from the beginning what his ‘rules’ were and I agreed to them in principle though I also requested some limits of my own as this was to be my first Master/slave relationship. During the months [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Male Submission – The Worm

Male Submission – The Worm

One common archetype of submissive men is the worm, a man who wants to be humiliated, degraded, and tormented as much as possible by most any and every dominant woman he encounters. Depending upon the male sub’s orientation, he may want to be treated this way by only dominant women, only dominant men, or regardless of gender.

13 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission
Labels – Yet Another “L” Word

Labels – Yet Another “L” Word

I have a love/hate relationship with labels. Our lifestyle labels are no different.

10 comments Posted by LaneyDoll | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Submissive Advent – Day 11: Pancake Identity

Submissive Advent – Day 11: Pancake Identity

How many times in your submissive journey have you thought about the words we use to identify ourselves and feel that they just don’t feel quite right?

7 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Advent Calendar
What’s In a Name? Selecting a Scene Name You Can Live With

What’s In a Name? Selecting a Scene Name You Can Live With

Choosing a scene name is one thing if it is only ever going to be used online, but it takes a bit more thinking about if you are going to refer to yourself as it in real life as well or use it as an introduction point at a munch or something like ‘I’m ********* on FetLife’

12 comments Posted by thisgirl | Posted in: Community, Play and Sex
Discretion in the BDSM Community – Anonymity and Personal Privacy Concerns

Discretion in the BDSM Community – Anonymity and Personal Privacy Concerns

How safe are BDSM groups for people in high profile careers and the risk of being exposed? It’s a valid concern for anyone that seeks outside support and knowledge so I thought I’d share with you what I had to say to this person.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Community

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