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The Role Sex Plays in a D/s Relationship

The Role Sex Plays in a D/s Relationship

Sex and how we’ve learned about sex can form our own opinions about how sexual D/s forms in our lives and how we respond to it. The emphasis of sex in a D/s relationship comes about in a variety of forms and is only limited by your imagination. What role does it play in your relationship?

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Sex and Sexuality
31 Days of Submissive Journaling: Day 22 – How to Manage Negative Comments Without Rage

31 Days of Submissive Journaling: Day 22 – How to Manage Negative Comments Without Rage

Accepting criticism is never an easy thing to do. Learn how to curb your knee-jerk responses and anger to keep your readers coming back and to also attract new readers.

Advanced Orgasm Control Techniques

Advanced Orgasm Control Techniques

Once you have control over the orgasm by needing that trigger from the Dominant you can start to move the sensation from being derived in the genitals to the genitals and something else.

Leave a comment Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Play and Sex

Self-Esteem Through Grooming Part 2: Hair

Whether you’re a little, a slave, or a sub, the condition of your hands and hair can make or break your appearance. Just like wearing a costume, you’d never put on an outfit and then leave your hair to do its natural thing, and the remnants of your three week old nail polish on your [...]

1 comment Posted by kallista | Posted in: Personal Growth
Why Isn’t Our Relationship Going Anywhere?

Why Isn’t Our Relationship Going Anywhere?

My boyfriend and I have only recently taken the baby steps from a vanilla relationship to a D/s one. I feel like I’ve followed all the suggested steps about how to transition a relationship, I follow submissive guide religiously, I’ve read lots of books and done plenty of research. We’ve talked and set down guidelines. [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
My Time on the Edge: Exploring Rimming

My Time on the Edge: Exploring Rimming

(Disclosure: I first published this on EdenCafe.com. ) My first experience with ass to mouth sex was a huge surprise. I was playing around with someone, and I said something to the effect of, “kiss my ass” as a way to disagree with something he said, and he rolled me over, pinned me down and [...]

10 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Sex and Sexuality
Working to Develop Personal Rituals

Working to Develop Personal Rituals

Every single day I perform rituals that I’ve created to help me feel connected to my submission even if I’m not in the mood or feeling in the right mindset. They are especially helpful during times of stress and busy life when the D/s may seem pushed back so that other pressing matters can be [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Rituals and Routines
Separating Fantasy from Reality – Using Erotic Novels to Find Truth

Separating Fantasy from Reality – Using Erotic Novels to Find Truth

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 10/6/12 On the heels of “50 Shades of Grey” fame, there are a lot of new and curious people exploring BDSM than there has been in a long time. For the many people who encounter this site through a search they may have their fantasies dashed by reading about the [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Community, Newsletter Archive
Perspectives: Flogging

Perspectives: Flogging

I believe the second kinky activity introduced to me after spanking was flogging. Since then I’ve had a love/love relationship with it. Flogging is when a top uses a multi-tailed whip to strike in a swinging motion, often times rhythmically. The material that the flogger is made of varies as much as the sensation. Suede is [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex

Making Homemade Flour Tortillas – 3 Ways [Recipe]

Ingredients 2 cups All-Purpose Flour 1 1/2 tsp. Baking powder 1 tsp. Salt 2 tsp. Vegetable Oil 3/4 cup Lukewarm milk (2% is fine) Directions Stir together the flour and baking powder in a large mixing bowl. Add the salt and vegetable oil to the lukewarm milk and whisk briefly to incorporate. Gradually add the [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Domestics

Domestic Pleasure Guest Post Series

We all have to domestic duties around the house to do; some by choice and some not. There are submissives that specialize in domestic service and others as a part of their all-encompassing submission. This month I’d like to focus on those Domestic tasks and the mindset behind them that bring submissives into their service. [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Domestics
Anal Play: Beginner to Stretch in No Time

Anal Play: Beginner to Stretch in No Time

I never used to like anal sex.  I wouldn’t let anyone near that part of my body.  There were all sorts of worries and thoughts running through my mind every time someone tried, from concerns about pain, to concerns about cleanliness, to not understanding, on a personal level, how stimulation to this part of the [...]

23 comments Posted by Rayne Millaray | Posted in: Sex and Sexuality
Make-up Application Tips, Tricks and Tutorials

Make-up Application Tips, Tricks and Tutorials

Almost every lady loves to wear make-up. I’m no different, but it’s taken a long time for me to feel confident that I don’t look like a clown when I walk out the door. I’ve started teaching myself a more professional make-up application process and in that I’ve found a lot of excellent resources online [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Health and Beauty

The Top 30 Posts of 2009

A year ago I started a small blog project called Submissive Guide. I wanted it to be an organized place where I could voice my opinions about submission, help novices discover who they are and explore BDSM through the written word. Since that time it has grown to so much more, including an e-book, a [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Views & More...
Domesticity: The Kitchen

Domesticity: The Kitchen

The kitchen is the heart of any home and having a clean and germ-free work environment for cooking and food preparation is important. Knowing some skills and cleaning tips can make keeping your kitchen clean and sparkling effortless. No longer is doing dishes and mopping floors drudgery; enhanced it can be an important part of [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Domestics

Add Your Favorite BDSM Books Reading List to Your Submissive Training Resume

Since the beginning of Submissive Guide I have been writing essays to help you build your service/submissive/slave resume. This is the living document of your experience and training on different tasks and a variety of relationships. If you are interested in reading the previous posts about the Training Resume I suggest you start at the [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Training Resume
Recommended Reading for New Submissives

Recommended Reading for New Submissives

The following is a list of books that I recommend for every novice submissive. The links lead you to Amazon if you are interested in buying the books. Part of your purchase goes towards supporting this site and my efforts at continuing to bring you content on this site. Books Conquer Me: girl-to-girl wisdom about [...]

7 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals
2 Weeks to Better Submissive Positions – Day 9: Offering Your Body for Service

2 Weeks to Better Submissive Positions – Day 9: Offering Your Body for Service

An intense and beautiful display of your body and offering yourself for service to your Dominant can be intimate, powerful and elegant. Today we are going to brainstorm ways you can offer yourself to your Dominant with them in mind. There is no proper way to do this, but once you find a way that [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Submissive Positions
Personal Grooming Service Skills: How to Give a Romantic Bath

Personal Grooming Service Skills: How to Give a Romantic Bath

Romance gets lost in the rush of work, family, kids and obligations but a romantic bath is not only relaxing, it can create intimacy between you and your partner. In Ancient Rome and Egypt, bathing in scented oils was a prelude to lovemaking. Giving a bath to someone else is not only romantic, but a [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Health and Beauty, Mindset, Service
Finding Your Spirituality In Service

Finding Your Spirituality In Service

A recent journal prompt I came across really inspired me to write about it.  It is spirituality. A lot of what I hear about spirituality is related to religion, but BDSM can be spiritual too and I’d like to explore that with you. What is the relationship between spirituality and religion? Is BDSM spiritual? –Submissive [...]

15 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Mindset, Service, Spirituality

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