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The Role Sex Plays in a D/s Relationship

The Role Sex Plays in a D/s Relationship

Sex and how we’ve learned about sex can form our own opinions about how sexual D/s forms in our lives and how we respond to it. The emphasis of sex in a D/s relationship comes about in a variety of forms and is only limited by your imagination. What role does it play in your relationship?

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Sex and Sexuality
31 Days of Submissive Journaling: Day 22 – How to Manage Negative Comments Without Rage

31 Days of Submissive Journaling: Day 22 – How to Manage Negative Comments Without Rage

Accepting criticism is never an easy thing to do. Learn how to curb your knee-jerk responses and anger to keep your readers coming back and to also attract new readers.

Comments Off Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: 31 Days of Submissive Journaling, Beginner Basics
Advanced Orgasm Control Techniques

Advanced Orgasm Control Techniques

Once you have control over the orgasm by needing that trigger from the Dominant you can start to move the sensation from being derived in the genitals to the genitals and something else.

Comments Off Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Play and Sex

Self-Esteem Through Grooming Part 2: Hair

There’s a reason why the expressions “good hair day” and “bad hair day” exist: the behavior of your hair in the morning usually plays a huge role in how you’re feeling for the rest of the day.

1 comment Posted by kallista | Posted in: Personal Growth
Why Isn’t Our Relationship Going Anywhere?

Why Isn’t Our Relationship Going Anywhere?

Although we aren’t a 24/7 D/s relationship, I feel like it’s not going anywhere? He isn’t doing his part to be informed or active as a Dom no matter how many times I suggest things.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
My Time on the Edge: Exploring Rimming

My Time on the Edge: Exploring Rimming

Truthfully, I wanted to put this activity on my “hell no” list, but because he’s very persuasive, and because I could not find any solid reasons why I didn’t want to do it, I sought out information so that I could educate myself about it.

10 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Sex and Sexuality
Working to Develop Personal Rituals

Working to Develop Personal Rituals

Creating a personal ritual that will work for your submission doesn’t require some how-to book or any sort of religious calling. Anyone can create a meaningful ritual that works for them.

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Rituals and Routines
Separating Fantasy from Reality – Using Erotic Novels to Find Truth

Separating Fantasy from Reality – Using Erotic Novels to Find Truth

Fantasies are great lived and relived in our minds but there comes a time when our desire to experience what we’ve read is strong. Make sure you have all the facts and place yourself firmly in reality before you try to explore them. It will mean a safer more enjoyable time for you and your partner.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Community, Newsletter Archive
Perspectives: Flogging

Perspectives: Flogging

Flogging remains one of my favorite activities and KnyghtMare is pretty good with one or two floggers (Florentine-style), and he teaches it in classes in the area. As with the other Perspectives posts I wanted to share with you how it feels for a submissive to be the receiver of a flogging.

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex

Making Homemade Flour Tortillas – 3 Ways [Recipe]

Ingredients 2 cups All-Purpose Flour 1 1/2 tsp. Baking powder 1 tsp. Salt 2 tsp. Vegetable Oil 3/4 cup Lukewarm milk (2% is fine) Directions Stir together the flour and baking powder in a large mixing bowl. Add the salt and vegetable oil to the lukewarm milk and whisk briefly to incorporate. Gradually add the [...]

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Domestics
Anal Play: Beginner to Stretch in No Time

Anal Play: Beginner to Stretch in No Time

I never used to like anal sex.  I wouldn’t let anyone near that part of my body.  There were all sorts of worries and thoughts running through my mind every time someone tried, from concerns about pain, to concerns about cleanliness, to not understanding, on a personal level, how stimulation to this part of the [...]

23 comments Posted by Rayne Millaray | Posted in: Sex and Sexuality
Make-up Application Tips, Tricks and Tutorials

Make-up Application Tips, Tricks and Tutorials

Almost every lady loves to wear make-up. I’m no different, but it’s taken a long time for me to feel confident that I don’t look like a clown when I walk out the door. I’ve started teaching myself a more professional make-up application process and in that I’ve found a lot of excellent resources online that I want to share with you.

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Health and Beauty

The Top 30 Posts of 2009

To celebrate one year of excellent writing I wanted to showcase the top 30 posts of 2009. I’ve noted in the link if the author was a guest post. Please take a look at what has had the most views since starting out one year ago. You may have missed a few gems!

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Views & More...
Domesticity: The Kitchen

Domesticity: The Kitchen

The kitchen is the heart of any home and having a clean and germ-free work environment for cooking and food preparation is important. Knowing some skills and cleaning tips can make keeping your kitchen clean and sparkling effortless. No longer is doing dishes and mopping floors drudgery; enhanced it can be an important part of [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Domestics

Add Your Favorite BDSM Books Reading List to Your Submissive Training Resume

Since the beginning of Submissive Guide I have been writing essays to help you build your service/submissive/slave resume. This is the living document of your experience and training on different tasks and a variety of relationships. If you are interested in reading the previous posts about the Training Resume I suggest you start at the [...]

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Training Resume
Recommended Reading for New Submissives

Recommended Reading for New Submissives

The following is a list of books that I recommend for every novice submissive. The links lead you to Amazon if you are interested in buying the books. Part of your purchase goes towards supporting this site and my efforts at continuing to bring you content on this site. Books Conquer Me: girl-to-girl wisdom about [...]

7 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals
2 Weeks to Better Submissive Positions – Day 9: Offering Your Body for Service

2 Weeks to Better Submissive Positions – Day 9: Offering Your Body for Service

An intense and beautiful display of your body and offering yourself for service to your Dominant can be intimate, powerful and elegant. Today we are going to brainstorm ways you can offer yourself to your Dominant with them in mind. There is no proper way to do this, but once you find a way that [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Submissive Positions
Personal Grooming Service Skills: How to Give a Romantic Bath

Personal Grooming Service Skills: How to Give a Romantic Bath

Romance gets lost in the rush of work, family, kids and obligations but a romantic bath is not only relaxing, it can create intimacy between you and your partner. In Ancient Rome and Egypt, bathing in scented oils was a prelude to lovemaking. Giving a bath to someone else is not only romantic, but a [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Health and Beauty, Mindset, Service
Finding Your Spirituality In Service

Finding Your Spirituality In Service

A recent journal prompt I came across really inspired me to write about it.  It is spirituality. A lot of what I hear about spirituality is related to religion, but BDSM can be spiritual too and I’d like to explore that with you. What is the relationship between spirituality and religion? Is BDSM spiritual? –Submissive [...]

15 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Mindset, Service, Spirituality

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