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Self-Esteem Through Grooming Part 2: Hair

There’s a reason why the expressions “good hair day” and “bad hair day” exist: the behavior of your hair in the morning usually plays a huge role in how you’re feeling for the rest of the day.

1 comment Posted by kallista | Posted in: Personal Growth

How to Turn Your Submissive Experience Into Education for Your Dominant

Ways that a submissive can teach without worrying about “being Dominant” in order for the education to happen and also ways that a submissive could take on education and share that knowledge with their Dominant as a part of their service.

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships, Service
Ask lunaKM – Compatibility, Safewords when Deaf and Power Play Preferences

Ask lunaKM – Compatibility, Safewords when Deaf and Power Play Preferences

Dear lunaKM, I’m a complete newbie when it comes to the D/s world. January of this year I met my very first Dominant online. He was sweet and attentive yet firm. We live in two different states but I had decided to move to His town to be closer to Him. I did everything in [...]

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: The Big Meet

Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: The Big Meet

The first meeting with the person that you’ve begun to build an emotional bond with can be a pretty daunting prospect. Here are a couple of tips and suggestions that will help you during your planning process and throughout your time together.

5 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships, Safety
Keys to a Successful Relationship: Trust is Like a Mirror…

Keys to a Successful Relationship: Trust is Like a Mirror…

Trust is an extremely important factor in the lifestyle, and not just in the bedroom. You can’t have the trust in the bedroom if you don’t have the trust outside of the bedroom.

2 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
You Could Be in Danger While in Top/Sub Space – Learn How to Protect Yourself

You Could Be in Danger While in Top/Sub Space – Learn How to Protect Yourself

What if I told you the impaired judgment, the slow verbal responses, the sweats or shakes and the sluggish behavior can be dangerous to your health and others if you don’t know how to deal with it? Those warning labels aren’t just for alcohol and prescription drugs.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Play and Sex
Some of the Best Kept Secrets to Sub Drop Recovery

Some of the Best Kept Secrets to Sub Drop Recovery

There are things you can do to help you prevent some or all of the symptoms of sub drop. Taking care of yourself after you play is a personal responsibility that I wish more submissives would take upon themselves.

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
How to Write a BDSM Scene Report

How to Write a BDSM Scene Report

The point of a scene report requested is to help you analyze your responses and emotions surrounding the play. So let’s figure out how to write a useful scene report.

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Male Submission – The Worm

Male Submission – The Worm

One common archetype of submissive men is the worm, a man who wants to be humiliated, degraded, and tormented as much as possible by most any and every dominant woman he encounters. Depending upon the male sub’s orientation, he may want to be treated this way by only dominant women, only dominant men, or regardless of gender.

13 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission
Rule #1 – Don’t Touch Anything Without Permission

Rule #1 – Don’t Touch Anything Without Permission

You’ll meet white collar, blue collar and poverty stricken people in the same room enjoying conversation with each other. But a select few people haven’t learned about spatial boundaries or that the number one rule in groups across the country and perhaps the world is that you don’t touch anyone or anything without permission.

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Community
Mentorships – What to Do Before the Process Begins

Mentorships – What to Do Before the Process Begins

Like all relationships, the mentoring one is not one to be entered into lightly – not because things have to be intense but because they could be. The main thing about a mentorship is that everyone is on the same page about expectations and that the lines of communication remain open. With that in mind, there are a few things to consider when seeking a mentor.

Comments Off Posted by LaneyDoll | Posted in: Personal Growth
Dealing With Anger As a Submissive

Dealing With Anger As a Submissive

Everyone handles anger and frustration differently, but I think most would agree that the best way to deal with anger is to cool off before saying or doing something you will regret later on.

6 comments Posted by selkie | Posted in: Relationships
Submissive Advent – Day 14: Don’t Be Afraid to Be Brave

Submissive Advent – Day 14: Don’t Be Afraid to Be Brave

Think about the fears you currently have about your submission, your role in your current relationship or within yourself.

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Advent Calendar

What is Non-sexual Play?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. If somebody said to you that they only wanted to have non-sexual play, how would you interpret this? Does it mean no intercourse but oral is ok? Does it [...]

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary
Solo Coaching – The CREATE Model

Solo Coaching – The CREATE Model

Today I’m going to cover a coaching model that I learned about that will work quite well for our submissive journey. It’s called the CREATE model. The CREATE system is a model that when used will ensure you stay on track

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Personal Growth
Don’t Touch Other People’s Property: The Golden Rule at BDSM Functions

Don’t Touch Other People’s Property: The Golden Rule at BDSM Functions

A golden rule of BDSM is that you do not touch other people’s property. Perhaps this man didn’t get the memo or didn’t realize that people can be property too. It’s hard to speculate now. Either way, let’s talk about the importance of keeping your hands to yourself when in a BDSM social or other form of D/s gathering.

7 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Play and Sex

Lessons in Submissive Speech 7: Polite Interruptions

In everyone’s daily exchanges with people there comes a time we will need to interrupt another person or persons to pass on information. For a polite and graceful submissive you should endeavor to not interrupt someone needlessly but to find an appropriate time to step into their presence.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Talents and Skills
Perspectives: Erotic Spanking

Perspectives: Erotic Spanking

Erotic spanking. It is probably the most common kinky play activity and is done in a lot of relationships that may know nothing about kink at all to those who are extremely kinky. It’s just a hot thing to do during sex. I was being spanked long before I entered the scene. I hope that I never stop being spanked.

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Domestic Duties | How I Make The Bed

Domestic Duties | How I Make The Bed

You don’t have to be a perfectionist to have a tidy bed. A well-made bed in the morning will make it more inviting to curl up into at the end of the day. Your bed will say nice and clean and be an inviting haven for sleep.

8 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Domestics
Perspectives: Rope Bondage

Perspectives: Rope Bondage

Playing with rope is one of the first things that I was exposed to when I discovered kink. To me it was safe and tame and something that didn’t scream kinky freak to me. Besides that I didn’t know what I was doing, the person that I chose to introduce me to a bit of rope did and it was a fantastic first experience all around.

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
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