By Guest Author on January 8, 2010
This is a guest post by bgtreasure for the BDSM Play Feature Series here on Submissive Guide. I choose this topic to write about because it is my favorite form of play and has been since I’ve found this wonderful thing we call “The Lifestyle”. The general definition of Impact Play that you will find [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged BDSM, bdsm lifestyle, bdsm play, bdsm play feature, bgtreasure, connection, cons, edge play, event, experience, favorite, feature series, fetlife, fists, floggers, focus, guest post, hands, help, Impact, impact play, lifestyle, love, munch, normal, owned, paddles, play, positions, relationship, rt, series, share, spanking, stress, submissive, subspace, wants, whips |
By lunaKM on January 2, 2010
This week’s video post is about velcro collars. To submissives, a collar is one of the most important things they have. It is a symbol of their commitment, their service and their adoration of a special someone. In most situations, the offering or begging of a collar is not taken lightly. The weight of the [...]
Posted in Video Posts | Tagged begging, cheapen, collars, commitment, community, cons, disposable, Dom, dominant, dominants, experience, hands, Impact, important things, lifetime, marriage, mates, online, opinion, partners, relationship, Relationships, rt, rules, Service, submissive, symbolism, value, velcro collars |
By lunaKM on December 16, 2009
“I have a fetish for wool socks, I just love them!” “I have a fetish for corsets, I can’t get off without thinking of them!” One of these statements is a sure sign of a fetish; the other is a misuse of the term. Sure this is a poor example. How many times have you [...]
Posted in Playtime | Tagged BDSM, blogs, body parts, cons, corsets, desires, development, Dom, dominant, favorite, fetishes, fetishism, fetishist, foot fetish, gender, hands, health, latex, learning, leather, love, obsession, partialism, piercing, play, preference, relationship, role play, rt, safe, sex, sexual fetishes, sexual fetishism, share, size, speech, standing, stimulus, stress, submissive, understanding, what is a fetish, worship |
By Guest Author on December 9, 2009
This post is another guest post by Skylerpet. You can read her other posts here. She’s wants to help us all get through the holidays with less stress. Here’s some tips to help you. If you have other tips for holiday stress, please leave them in the comments! With the holiday season in full swing, [...]
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By Guest Author on November 16, 2009
This is a Guest Post by A. She is a new submissive in her first 24/7 dynamic. I received this wonderfully written review of her first 30 days and she offered to share it with everyone here. Enjoy! It has come to my attention after reading submissiveguide.com that my training with Sir has already begun, [...]
Posted in Submission | Tagged 24/7, acceptance, BDSM, Bondage, clean, cleaning, clothing, control, D/s, Dom, Dominance, dress, dynamic, experience, favorite, fetlife, focus, grooming, growth and development, guest post, hands, help, honesty, infraction, kneeling, learned, learning, lingerie, love, natural, needs, online, orgasm control, play, positions, progress, protocol, punishment, RACK, relationship, requests, review, risk, ritual, rituals, rt, sex, share, spanking, speech, submission, submissive, submissive understanding, toy, toys, training, understanding, wants, worship, writing |
By lunaKM on September 28, 2009
My first ebook up for review is “How To Get The Spanking You Want: The Complete Guide to Asking For it, Getting it, and Making it Better” by Vivian of The Disciplined Feminist. I have an excerpt on this site if you’d like to read it. The author has over 23 years of spanking experience [...]
Posted in Reviews | Tagged advice, Aria, blogs, book, book review, books, control, discipline, Disciplined Feminist, discussion, Dom, dress, experience, fantasy, feminine, hands, help, love, needs, partners, play, real life, relationship, review, rt, series, share, spanking, spanking series, submissive, Variant Books, Vivian |
By Guest Author on September 16, 2009
This is another guest post by dina of kajiradreams. She continues her thoughts on Gor and the life of a kajira. You can also read her thoughts on what it’s like to be an owned kajira. The strengths of a kajira and the misconceptions of what a kajira is and does. And what strengths better [...]
Posted in Submission | Tagged book, books, comfort, commitment, cons, control, decisions, desires, Dom, dominant, dreams, emotions, fantasy, fear, female, Gor, Gorean Lifestyle, guest post, hands, help, honesty, ideals, journey, kajira, lifestyle, love, misconceptions of Gor, needs, obedience, owned, play, player, purpose, rt, safe, series, sex, slave, sorry, spirit, standing, strengths of kajira, submission, submissive, switch, tall, trust, understanding, value, wants |
By Guest Author on September 15, 2009
Today’s guest post is by dina from Kajiradreams. She’s donated a few posts for this week on Gorean Living so watch for them in the coming days! My Master gave me the task of writing down my thoughts on what it means to be an owned kajira. I can only ever write this from my [...]
Posted in Submission | Tagged 24/7, amazon.com, BDSM, book, books, bottom, choice, collaring, cons, decisions, desires, Dom, dreams, email, emotions, Gor, guest post, guest posts, hands, kajira, limits, love, m/s, natural, needs, owned, phenomenon, play, rt, single, sorry, spirit, submission, submissive, surrender, surrendering, tall, trust, what to wear, writing |
By lunaKM on June 24, 2009
“Go to your room!” Yes even adults in power exchange relationships get treated like children sometimes. A common tool for Dominants in their punishment arsenal is removal. You can be removed from the activity and sent to a time out area. For me that’s the kitchen. Ugh. I hate when I’m banished there. I can [...]
Posted in Mindset | Tagged 2WBSP, apologizing, atonement, banishment, communication, connection, cons, cyber relationships, Dom, dominant, dominants, email, event, hands, infraction, online, Online Submission, power exchange, punishment, relationship, Relationships, rt, separation, short, submission, submissive |
By lunaKM on May 6, 2009
Every so often I want to open up the blog for you to share and teach me on a topic that I don’t know a lot about. This is your chance to teach me and the other readers of this blog. I encourage you to comment, subscribe to the comments and keep coming back to [...]
Posted in Relationships, Roundtable Discussions | Tagged activities, book, cons, event, experience, friendships, hands, Impact, jealousy, lifestyle, limits, marriage, open marriages, open relationships, partners, poly, polyamory, questions, relationship, Relationships, rt, rules, safe, Safety, sex, sexual encounters, share |
By lunaKM on May 1, 2009
Today’s task is to learn an appropriate pose to take when apologizing for wrong-doing. If you need to review the past posts in this series, please take a look at the leading post. This position is hopefully something you don’t have to do often but since we are all human, it is going to happen. [...]
Posted in Submissive Positions | Tagged 2WBSP, apologizing, Dom, dominant, hands, help, infractions, kneeling, learned, learning, positions, punishment, review, rt, series, slave positions, sorry, standing, submissive, Submissive Positions |
![Worship and Obedience [Day 10 - 2WBSP]](http://www.submissiveguide.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/04/01a_supplication_photo-150x150.jpg)
By lunaKM on April 30, 2009
Nearing the end of our 2 Weeks to Better Submissive Positions here at Submissive Guide. Today we are going to learn positions of worship. There will be moments in your submission that a feeling wells up inside of you to show your devotion and respect to your Dominant. You may also be asked to show [...]
Posted in Submissive Positions | Tagged 2WBSP, bow, comfort, Dom, dominant, hands, kneeling, learning, movement, obedience, online, poses, positions, relationship, rt, Service, share, slave positions, submission, submissive, Submissive Positions, worship |
![Offering Your Body for Service [Day 9 - 2WBSP]](http://www.submissiveguide.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/04/2421396361_5059df8502-150x150.jpg)
By lunaKM on April 29, 2009
An intense and beautiful display of your body and offering yourself for service to your Dominant can be intimate, powerful and elegant. Today we are going to brainstorm ways you can offer yourself to your Dominant with them in mind. There is no proper way to do this, but once you find a way that [...]
Posted in Submissive Positions | Tagged 2WBSP, brainstorm, cons, Dom, dominant, hands, how-to, learned, love, makeup, offering for service, play, rt, Service, sex, slave positions, stand at attention, submissive, Submissive Positions, trust, wants |
![Attending Your Dominant [Day 6 - 2WBSP]](http://www.submissiveguide.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/04/offering-apple-lepiaf-geo-150x150.jpg)
By lunaKM on April 26, 2009
In the previous posts we covered basic positions that should now be familiar and perhaps you have worked out in your relationship that you want to employ them. If you need to review you can do that by going to the initial post. Today we will be learning an active position and one that can [...]
Posted in Submissive Positions | Tagged 2WBSP, active positions, assistance, attentiveness, calendar, comfort, cons, Dom, dominant, event, grace, hands, information, learned, learning, movement, needs, organization, positions, preparedness, relationship, review, rt, safe, Service, serving, shopping, slave positions, standing, submissive, Submissive Positions |
![To Bow and Curtsy Appropriately [Day 5 - 2WBSP]](http://www.submissiveguide.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/04/bow-curtsy_halfninja-150x150.jpg)
By lunaKM on April 25, 2009
This is a continuation of the ongoing project for submissive positions here at Submissive Guide. Today we will cover bowing and curtsying. Every culture has a different way to show respect and acknowledge a title holding member of their society. I believe most of them us a form of bow or curtsy to honor that [...]
Posted in Submissive Positions | Tagged 2WBSP, bow, comfort, curtsy, D/s, Dom, dominant, focus, grace, hands, IRC, positions, purpose, rt, Service, show respect, slave positions, submissive, Submissive Positions, value |
![Rise From The Floor With Finesse [Day 4 - 2WBSP]](http://www.submissiveguide.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/04/nude-statue-david_boyle-150x150.jpg)
By lunaKM on April 24, 2009
The next part of this two week series is about getting up from the floor. You’ve already learned about kneeling, standing at attention and lowering yourself with grace. Stick around, we have a lot to learn. If you’ve ever watched Memoirs of a Geisha you have seen how graceful it can be to rise from [...]
Posted in Submissive Positions | Tagged 2WBSP, Dom, dominant, getting up off the floor, grace, hands, help, kneeling, learned, links, movement, positions, progress, review, rising from the floor, rt, series, standing, submissive |
![Gracefully Lowering Yourself [Day 3 - 2WBSP]](http://www.submissiveguide.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/04/kneeling-quinnanya-150x150.jpg)
By lunaKM on April 23, 2009
We have covered standing and kneeling so far in the positions project here at Submissive Guide. Today we will cover going from standing to kneeling in a graceful way. It’s not as easy as you think. First you have to pick out one kneeling posture and one standing posture from the previous posts. This way [...]
Posted in Submissive Positions | Tagged 2WBSP, comfort, control, grace, graceful movement, hands, help, kneeling, learning, movement, perfection, positions, rt, slave positions, stand at attention, standing, submissive, Submissive Positions |
![Standing at Attention [Day 2 - 2WBSP]](http://www.submissiveguide.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/04/standing-madame_monnika-150x150.jpg)
By lunaKM on April 22, 2009
Today’s challenge in the two week project here at Submissive Guide is all about standing at attention. One of the most common ways you can present yourself as submissive to a Dominant is by the way you stand. You may do it now even though you don’t have any specific rules as to how to [...]
Posted in Submissive Positions | Tagged 2WBSP, Dom, dominant, family, favorite, friends, hands, positions, rt, rules, slave positions, stand at attention, standing, submissive, Submissive Positions |
![Learning to Kneel [Day 1 - 2WBSP]](http://www.submissiveguide.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/04/kneeling-notquitetrish-150x150.jpg)
By lunaKM on April 21, 2009
Today’s post in the two week project here at Submissive Guide is focused on kneeling. Do you kneel in front of your Dominant partner at any point of your service? Is there a specific way to do that? For someone new to BDSM, it is common to think you must kneel a lot of the [...]
Posted in Submissive Positions | Tagged 2WBSP, BDSM, comfort, Dom, dominant, dominant partner, favorite, focus, grace, hands, kneeling, learning, online, play, Playtime, positions, real life, relationship, Relationships, rt, Service, short, slave positions, standing, submissive, Submissive Positions, support |
By lunaKM on April 15, 2009
Today’s post comes from Skylerpet, a submissive pet in a D/s relationship who volunteered to write an essay for me after seeing the Weekly Tips on YouTube. Thank you Skylerpet! Pet play is one of the most unique, one of the least known and in my opinion one of the most fun and entertaining sub-cultures [...]
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