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Exposed! 5 Myths of BDSM You Should Know

Exposed! 5 Myths of BDSM You Should Know

This is a guest post by Rachel M. For novice level masochists at play, who are curious about BDSM, make sure to get all your facts straight. So, before you go full-throttle, humiliating and whipping your partner, collect everything there’s to know first—and don’t rely on what you see in the media. Are you ready [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene  Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 1 of 7) – General Principles

Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 1 of 7) – General Principles

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 10-9-16 by Ambrosio. This was first published on Ambrosio’s site and has a free to distribute license. Abrosio dedicated this article to Beverly M. in Austin. Good Manners vs. Correct Protocol “Manners are of more importance than laws. Manners are what vex or soothe, corrupt or purify, exalt or debase, [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Community, Newsletter Archive
When Journaling Gets Hard – How Depression Affected Our D/s Dynamic and How My Journal Helped Bring Us Back Together

When Journaling Gets Hard – How Depression Affected Our D/s Dynamic and How My Journal Helped Bring Us Back Together

This is a guest post by Elle. I was inspired to write this article by the recent series  about submissive journalling. I found myself wanting to get back into journaling, yet still holding back. This is a personal account of what can happen when journalling goes wrong. In my case, it was when I became [...]

2 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Personal Growth

Hitting the Wall During Play – Limit’s Edge

This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. The Wall: The Wall is one identification of the limit that the mind and body are physically capable of processing. Some submissives will talk about ‘hitting the Wall’ or ‘White Out’. This is [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Play and Sex, Safety
Submissive Myths: Submission is a Result of Childhood Abuse

Submissive Myths: Submission is a Result of Childhood Abuse

This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. If a human being at some point in their childhood becomes the focus of physical and/or sexual abuse does this then turn them into a submissive at some later point in their lives? [...]

1 comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Submissive vs. Slave

Submissive vs. Slave

This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. This distinction appears muddled, misunderstood and generalized by a great number of the people who I converse with. First I would like to make a point. Language at it’s best shifts from area [...]

2 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics
D/s with Family Around

D/s with Family Around

This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. Perhaps one of the most challenging decisions we face as a parent is what we should tell our children, when and how much. By choosing to live within the D/s or BDSM lifestyle [...]

1 comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Community, Relationships
Defining Sub Space

Defining Sub Space

This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. Subspace – This term generally is used to describe a moderate to deep trancelike condition experienced by persons in the submissive position in a D/s relationship during interaction with the person in the [...]

1 comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Jealousy and Mono/Poly Relationships

Jealousy and Mono/Poly Relationships

This is a guest post by Mina Button. She has written for Submissive Guide previously and you can find her writing here. When I first heard about the idea of mono/poly, a relationship in which one partner is monogamous and the other partner isn’t, I thought it could never possibly work.  Well, maybe it could [...]

5 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Personal Growth, Relationships
A Personal Story About Discovering and Testing Limits

A Personal Story About Discovering and Testing Limits

This is a guest post by MermaidHooked. The scene is built upon personal limitations and the ability to be self-aware in the midst of dangerous situations we willingly put ourselves in for the goal of receiving and giving pleasure. Finding and voicing limits can often times be the most daunting part of the BDSM lifestyle. It [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Beginner Basics
A Day in the Life of Rife: Submissive Fantasy vs Submissive Reality

A Day in the Life of Rife: Submissive Fantasy vs Submissive Reality

This is a guest post by rife. Hi this is rife, Sinclair’s boy. Maybe you’ve read dirty things about me, but that’s not the whole story. So what am I up to when not bent over? Well … I love erotica and porn as much as anyone (honest!), but often when people describe it, we [...]

4 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics
A Day in the Life: cyberkittenXLS

A Day in the Life: cyberkittenXLS

This is a guest post by cyberkittenXLS for the A Day in the Life Series. I will preface this by saying there is not really a “typical” day for me as I work 2 part-time retail jobs. That being said let’s assume I work afternoon to evening for this… I wake up to our toddler’s [...]

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A Day in the Life: WKslittleone

A Day in the Life: WKslittleone

This is a guest post by WKslittle one for the Day in the Life Series. Cap/uncapped writing is the author’s way of written communication and is a common choice for online LDR relationships. The Day in the Life Series is the only time I allow posts with non-standard grammar/spelling methods. If this bothers you, then [...]

6 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Coming Out of the Closet… Twice

Coming Out of the Closet… Twice

This is a guest post by Mia. I was a closet lesbian until 2003 and a closet kinkster until 2010, I lost friends each time I came out. When I told people about my sexuality in 2003 I was called a dyke, a pervert and a liar by some of the people I thought of [...]

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Be Not Ashamed – Accepting Who You Are and Where You Came From

Be Not Ashamed – Accepting Who You Are and Where You Came From

This is a guest post by DeliciousVixen. When people are on the outside looking in at the world of BDSM, it is a popular belief of them to say that we must have been wronged some time in our lives to become this way. Whether submissive or Dominant, they would think that our way of living [...]

2 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics
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How I Help Our Finances Without Knowing the Numbers

Welcome new contributor moonlight! When Sir and I moved in together and we opened our bank accounts, it was a huge relief that bill paying was no longer on my to-do list. They always created such anxiety, even when I knew the money was there to cover the bills and then some. It felt as [...]

6 comments Posted by moonlight | Posted in: Service
A Day in the Life: moonlight

A Day in the Life: moonlight

This is a guest post by moonlight. My days usually begin at 7am or so when our child wakes up (although sometimes it is much earlier). I send Sir a good morning message and I check in with the rest of our poly group too. I make breakfast and decide on something for dinner that night in [...]

1 comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics
How Master Took Control of the Finances

How Master Took Control of the Finances

This is a guest post by Nicolette Hart. I am a very independent, strong woman. I have never liked asking for help from others or for money from anyone. I have always been able to figure things out on my own. But when he came along all charming mysterious, he was different from any man I [...]

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Domestic Servitude, Struggling With Being Overwhelmed

Domestic Servitude, Struggling With Being Overwhelmed

This is a guest post by Jessica. Personally, I have had a lot of experience with being overwhelmed by all I have to do around the house, but there are things you can do to make it feel less stressful, less like you are climbing a never-ending mountain. Don’t worry, you are not alone, and [...]

5 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Domestics
Thoughts on Isolation and Feeling Alone

Thoughts on Isolation and Feeling Alone

This is a guest post by kaya from Underhishand.com. I live a fairly isolated lifestyle. I suppose in comparison to some people, you could say that I live an extremely isolated life. It’s not unusual for me to go days on end without ever leaving the house. I don’t answer the door, I don’t answer [...]

6 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Personal Growth
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