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Create SMART Goals For Your New Year’s Resolutions and Reach Your Goals This Year!

Create SMART Goals For Your New Year’s Resolutions and Reach Your Goals This Year!

SMART goals are Specific, Measurable, Agreed upon, Realistic, Time-based tasks that we set for ourselves with the intent of realizing a larger task. We call them goals, but in the end, what we want from our resolutions is less about making and achieving goals and more about making habits.

1 comment Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics

[Video Post] Improving Your Submission – Setting Goals and Making a Plan

Now that you have a specific goal you need to develop a plan to reach that goal.

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Personal Growth, Video Posts
Creating Realistic Submissive Goals Sets You Up for Success

Creating Realistic Submissive Goals Sets You Up for Success

Last year I wrote about the importance of revising your contracts at the start of the New Year so you can make sure that it reflects your current relationship parameters and hard/soft limits.  I’m still a single submissive, and (for the time being) I’m enjoying this journey of self-discovery and self-improvement.  One thing that single [...]

Leave a comment Posted by pinksubgeek | Posted in: Personal Growth
Being a Single Submissive in a Couple’s World

Being a Single Submissive in a Couple’s World

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 1/18/14 When you are a single submissive it can feel like a lonely place. Every kinky place you go it seems like everyone is already in a relationship and there is no room for you. But that’s not true; and being a single submissive can be a special time in [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
A Submissive’s New Year’s Resolutions: Goal Setting in a D/s or M/s Dynamic

A Submissive’s New Year’s Resolutions: Goal Setting in a D/s or M/s Dynamic

Every December as the holidays wane, we start thinking about New Year’s resolutions and ways to make our lives better.  The New Year is a fresh start and optimism is contagious.  For submissives, though, resolutions mean so much more.  Frankly, I’ve decided that the world would be a better place if everyone had a Dom/me [...]

Leave a comment Posted by pinksubgeek | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Personal Growth

Submissive Guide Ecourses – Do They Really Help?

You’ve probably seen the link at the top of this site, or the banners on the side and wondered if the ecourses that I offer are really going to help you learn more about BDSM or submission than reading the websites and books on the subject can do. My answer is yes. The difference between [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Personal Growth
What to Do When You Are Haunted by Past Relationships

What to Do When You Are Haunted by Past Relationships

There are times in our life that we seem to be haunted by the relationships in our past. They cling to us like a life form and don’t seem to want us out their grasp. Most of the time, I feel this occurs because we feel that something is left unresolved with it. Perhaps the [...]

5 comments Posted by LadySneak | Posted in: Relationships
5 Ways to Stop Thinking of Work When You Come Home to Your Dominant

5 Ways to Stop Thinking of Work When You Come Home to Your Dominant

Working outside the home is a requirement for most submissives in D/s relationships. Not everyone gets to be a stay at home submissive. We have family and kids, mortgages and debt to pay. Working is a part of living. But work does not have to be our life. It’s a struggle to change your power [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics

SGBHC #15 | New Year’s Resolutions

Welcome everyone to the Submissive Guide Blog Hop Challenge (SGBHC)!  I am so thrilled to see you here!  First, the challenge… Submissive Challenge #15 New Year’s Resolutions  Do you make New Year’s Resolutions? If so, what goals did you set for yourself this year? How are you doing with keeping them? If not, why not? Do [...]

7 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Views & More...

Submissive Guide Blog Hop Challenge #15 – New Year’s Resolutions

One of the things that people love most about this site is gaining new knowledge and viewpoints.  I have taken it upon myself to organize a day to take place once a month that will encourage bloggers to challenge themselves and explore their submissive choices! Read all the important guidelines  and FAQ on the Blog Hop [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Views & More...
Solo-Coaching: Become a Great Goal-Setter to Achieve Your Submissive and Life Dreams

Solo-Coaching: Become a Great Goal-Setter to Achieve Your Submissive and Life Dreams

I’m a list maker. I’ve always made lists. Grocery lists, cleaning lists, to do lists and also goal lists. They help organize the mish-mash of thoughts constantly running through my head. Making the goals list has made it easier to actualize my dreams and achieve results I never thought possible. I know it can help [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Personal Growth
Active Submission Means Always Improving Yourself

Active Submission Means Always Improving Yourself

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 5-5-12 It is the people who can do nothing who can find nothing to do, and the secret of happiness in this world is not only to be useful, but to be forever elevating one’s usefulness – Sandra Orne Jewett Reading what I have to say day in and day [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Personal Growth
Orgasm on Command Training – Ultimate Goals and Variations

Orgasm on Command Training – Ultimate Goals and Variations

It can be quite obvious what the goal of orgasm on command training is but there are so many things you can do with that goal to make it interesting and exciting for everyone involved. I’m going to talk about a few things that I learned about while doing the research for my own training, [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Ask Anything | The Trap of Self Expectations

Ask Anything | The Trap of Self Expectations

After years of research and thought, I recently entered my first D/s relationship. I was lucky to have found such a Gentleman so quickly. He respects my thoughts, listens to my rants, and is as emotionally available as our long distance allows. I can’t help but feel like I am constantly disappointing Him. He loves [...]

Leave a comment Posted by SehAnru | Posted in: Ask Anything
Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner

Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner

Welcome ted_subby as a new contributor to Submissive Guide! His first post is about a topic that I know many of you can benefit from. Enjoy! “What do I do if my significant other is vanilla?” This is a common situation and one which does not have an easy answer. It is important because, for [...]

27 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Relationships
What Is A Doormat Submissive?

What Is A Doormat Submissive?

A common derogatory word used in submissive circles is “doormat” as in, you don’t want to be a doormat submissive. Rarely is it talked about beyond saying that you should not let your Dominant walk all over you. I agree of course, but for the inexperienced, understanding what that really means can come after being [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Mindset

Overcoming Frustration and Anger as a Submissive

Frustration is a normal human response. It can get out of hand and escalate to anger if not handled well. As submissives we seem to deal with frustration more openly than others in the lifestyle. Let’s start with a definition from wikipedia about frustration. In psychology, frustration is a common emotional response to opposition. Related [...]

16 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Mindset
How To Be Submissive Without a Dominant

How To Be Submissive Without a Dominant

Some of the insane talk coming from online communities all the time is that you can’t be submissive without a Dominant (or can’t be slave without a Master).  This can cause quite a confusion for novice submissives who are learning more about themselves and can even dash your dreams. Okay so I understand why people [...]

10 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics

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