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Ask lunaKM – Quick Fire Answers on Being a Great Submissive, Guilt, Shame and More

Ask lunaKM – Quick Fire Answers on Being a Great Submissive, Guilt, Shame and More

My question is how do i learn to be great for a Master seeing that i am a man. Women have so many advantages to pleasing their Master than i do. Can you give me some pointers? Thank you. I’m not really sure what advantages that are uniquely female that don’t have a male counterpart. [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Play and Sex, Relationships
Male Submission – Foot Fetish

Male Submission – Foot Fetish

In this part 3 of my series of articles about Male Submission on The Submissive Guide, I discuss the role of a foot fetish. There are a whole lot of guys who have a fetish for feet, and while there are women who also have a foot fetish it is by far more prevalent with [...]

11 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission, Play and Sex
Male Submission – The Worm

Male Submission – The Worm

As the first in a series of articles focusing on male submission, this article presents thoughts about one of the archetypes of male submission, the “worm.” Men and women are different, of course, and in some cases that goes beyond the obvious physical characteristics. Almost all of the articles on The Submissive Guide are valid [...]

13 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission
Labels – Yet Another “L” Word

Labels – Yet Another “L” Word

Like the vanilla world we live in, the kinky world is full of labels.  And if you want to stir up a heated discussion, bring up “labels.”  It is pretty hard to have a room full of people, talking about labels without someone getting upset.  And rightfully so.  A lot of people feel that labels [...]

10 comments Posted by LaneyDoll | Posted in: Beginner Basics

Acronyms, Abbreviations and Initialisms in BDSM Conversation

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. Oftentimes instead of writing out the words we abbreviate or create acronyms or groups of initials to say the same thing. Here is a list of the more common [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary
Fictional Stories of Male Submission

Fictional Stories of Male Submission

Fictional BDSM stories or erotica are often not only enjoyable but also may be a good way to learn what might be enjoyable to the reader in real life.  Those who are new to BDSM often do not know what activities and mindsets they might enjoy and while non-fiction articles, blogs, and communities are a [...]

6 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission
How to Use the “30 Days” Memes Effectively to Maximize Submissive Growth

How to Use the “30 Days” Memes Effectively to Maximize Submissive Growth

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 12-17-11 We’ve all seen them on other people’s blogs. You may have even done them as a way to prompt yourself with something to write. They are fun. They are memes. Memes are the quizzes, questions, and games that seem to spread like a virus all over the blogging scene [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Personal Growth

For Consent to Count…ASSENT Has to Matter

This is a guest post by SherynB. Please take the time to read the whole thing. It’s an important issue that needs to be addressed. Okay, there’s a 600lb gorilla in the room, and I’m done pretending it’s not there. What we do isn’t pretty or politically correct, and frankly, it’s dangerous if we can’t get (and [...]

10 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Community, Safety
Virgins Can Love BDSM Too: How Sexual Preference Doesn’t Have to Involve Sex

Virgins Can Love BDSM Too: How Sexual Preference Doesn’t Have to Involve Sex

Virginity. It’s valued and prized and then remembered. There’s even people who believe in a second virginity. Of course there are also BDSM virgins when people just get started. But, the question I got posed to me the other day was if you are a sexual virgin can you even know that you are interested [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
A Feminist Submissive – Does Such a Person Exist? Yes! And I’ll Tell You Why

A Feminist Submissive – Does Such a Person Exist? Yes! And I’ll Tell You Why

In the first article of this series, I discussed how I see feminism fitting in with both the BDSM community and submission. Moving to a personal level, I have identified with feminism since I could say the word. As I grew up, I would say that my ‘type’ of feminism was definitely more of a [...]

4 comments Posted by nan {SL} | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Community
Acceptance of My Feminist Submissive Identity

Acceptance of My Feminist Submissive Identity

I have spent much time pondering the seemingly conflicting views of feminism and submission. In the first part of my article, I would like to discuss feminism and how it fits in with my view of both the BDSM community and submission. In the second part, I will explore how I practice feminism in my [...]

7 comments Posted by nan {SL} | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Community
Book Review: The Surrendered Wife

Book Review: The Surrendered Wife

This month I dived into a book full of controversy with its approach to living intimately with your husband (or partner). I read The Surrendered Wife by Laura Doyle. I didn’t read it to find the reason for the argument between feminists and the author of the book’s ideas. I read it to see what [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Reviews
The Ins and Outs of Fetishes

The Ins and Outs of Fetishes

“I have a fetish for wool socks, I just love them!” “I have a fetish for corsets, I can’t get off without thinking of them!” One of these statements is a sure sign of a fetish; the other is a misuse of the term. Sure this is a poor example. How many times have you [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Now Available: The Spanking Series in E-Book!

Now Available: The Spanking Series in E-Book!

If you have ever wondered how you can get the spanking you’ve always wanted but wasn’t sure how to ask for it, there is a book for you. I was just offered the chance to review a copy of How to Get the Spanking You Want: The Complete Guide to Asking for It, Getting It [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Views & More...
Book Review: Different Loving

Book Review: Different Loving

Today’s BDSM lifestyle practicioners thrive on real experiences to help them learn and grow within thier own personal choices. Many books written for the beginner are not so filled with real life stories as Different Loving. I chose to review this book here because I know I learned more about myself and what I wanted [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Reviews
Stereotyping Submission as Feminine

Stereotyping Submission as Feminine

I read in an online forum recently about the stigma that a Master or Dom should be manly or masculine. So many replied that they agreed and had found a Dominant that was physically stronger than they were. I was not in agreement and questioned why they idea of masculinity was associated with Dominance. No [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Community
What Is Polyamory Anyway?

What Is Polyamory Anyway?

Today’s post comes from May (follow her @readheadgirl) a writer and artist. For the longest time when I heard “polyamory,” I thought of hippies in the 70s having orgies at drug parties. I blame my misconception on why I took so long to realize that I am a polyamorous person. Like me, many people have [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships, Sex and Sexuality

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