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Be Not Ashamed – Accepting Who You Are and Where You Came From

Be Not Ashamed – Accepting Who You Are and Where You Came From

What I wish for you, dear reader, is that you accept yourself for who you are really. Embrace it with boldness and move forward in your life with that new freedom.

2 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics

Why Identifying Your Wants and Needs is So Important as a Novice Submissive

Understanding your needs and how important certain ones in your life is a key component to finally reaching happiness and fulfillment.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics

Making Him the Dom of Your Dreams – Working With The Man You Have

Just because your partner got a little kinky that one time during sex does not mean they have a kinky bone in their body.

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
Male submission – Financial Domination

Male submission – Financial Domination

There are several different types of Financial Domination, including dynamics which do not involve the dominant receiving any money whatsoever. This is often not understood when some people rail against Financial Domination as a legitimate kink.

24 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission, Relationships
A Slave’s Longing – Not Quite Frenzy

A Slave’s Longing – Not Quite Frenzy

A longing is not a frenzy, though it’s quite possible that the feeling of yearning can lead to a frenzy. But what I feel in the moments when I experience a deep longing for what isn’t there is a mixture of emotions

11 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Mindset, Relationships
How to Safely Manage Sub Frenzy

How to Safely Manage Sub Frenzy

How to manage sub frenzy so that it leaves you smarter, stronger and more prepared to handle the rush.

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
BDSM and Submission: The Five Precepts of Service

BDSM and Submission: The Five Precepts of Service

Meditating on these precepts offers me inspiration and guidance. I think of these as five bottomless practices that can be continually explored and deepened. They are not linear and have no value as theories or concepts. To be understood and realized, they have to be lived into and communicated through action.

5 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Personal Growth
Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner

Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner

To open a dialog, communicate with your partner to understand what potential there may be, if any, for BDSM to be included in your relationship.

27 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Relationships

Overcoming Frustration and Anger as a Submissive

Frustration is a normal human response. It can get out of hand and escalate to anger if not handled well. As submissives, we seem to deal with frustration more openly than others in the lifestyle.

16 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Mindset

Out of the Office and Into the Home: Making the Change From Working to Stay-at-Home Submissive

Overall it has been a positive change, even if it wasn’t planned to happen right now. We are rolling with the change, making it work for us and honestly, are very happy with how things are developing for us. Staying-at-home is work, but work that I can feel good about because it is improving our personal life and enhancing our dynamic.

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Service
Sluts: Debunking Another BDSM Myth

Sluts: Debunking Another BDSM Myth

This is a guest post by Slut M as a response to SubWise #6 about BDSM Myths. According to the mythological story, a slut is a downtrodden woman who by nature or by circumstances is propelled to debase her body in sexual desires. And so the story goes: these sexual desires control her and her [...]

7 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Sex and Sexuality

Dominance as a Slave Training Tool for Better Submission

When starting out in submission, there are a lot of roads you can choose and so many people direct novices to training and needing to be trained. Most of these novices then seek out a Master or Dominant to train them. This concept that the Dominant can teach the submissive more about surrender is a [...]

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Mindset
Do You Answer When Submission Calls You?

Do You Answer When Submission Calls You?

There is no way to be sure but, the large majority of information about the D/s lifestyle is in fiction form. While it’s nice to escape into emotional and physical stories, they are fantasy. For submissives looking to get their feet wet, these stories could hinder or harm the very ideas that develop in the [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
How Rules In a D/s Relationship Can Have a Positive Effect on Your Submission

How Rules In a D/s Relationship Can Have a Positive Effect on Your Submission

Rules, instructions and assignments are things that are given to me by my Dominant for very important reasons. To follow them should bring me the pride and happiness that I feel for him, and remind me that he cares for me. Rules are in place to keep me in line, place my heart and mind [...]

13 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Mindset, Relationships, Rituals and Routines
What Should You Do When Your Wants or Needs Aren’t Met?

What Should You Do When Your Wants or Needs Aren’t Met?

To conclude this series on wants and needs I’d like to talk about what to do when you needs and wants are not being met.  We’ve already discussed how important the fulfillment of needs are to your relationship and also what your desires are. You can also review how to express your wants and needs [...]

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Service
How to Document Your Skills and Training in your Submissive Resume

How to Document Your Skills and Training in your Submissive Resume

Your Training Resume is a folder or binder with all of your training, history and experience in it, so that you can give it to a prospective Dominant or to keep a training history for yourself. It’s a novel concept for submissives and one that I’ve not seen so far. Part of the Resume is [...]

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Training Resume
How To Talk About Your Wants and Needs With Your Dominant

How To Talk About Your Wants and Needs With Your Dominant

In the previous post about Wants and Needs we began to understand the importance of Needs for ourselves and our relationship. If you would like to go back and read The Importance of Needs to review, please do so. In this post I’d like to talk about how to express your wants and needs with [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Relationships
The Real Meaning Behind Service and Serving as a Submissive

The Real Meaning Behind Service and Serving as a Submissive

When someone becomes a submissive for the first time and finds a dominant the first words I generally hear them say is that they like being of service or they like serving. When asked what it is about service that they enjoy it tends to boil down to sex and play. There is far more [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Service
For People Looking to Discover Your Submissive Nature

For People Looking to Discover Your Submissive Nature

Discovering your submissive nature isn’t always a sudden process. For many people it takes some soul searching to see that you may enjoy being a people-pleaser or that when someone asks you to do something you happily do it without a second thought. For others it takes some social reprogramming to allow your full nature [...]

16 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Mindset

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