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Making Him the Dom of Your Dreams – Working With The Man You Have

Oftentimes we find our desire to be submissive or kinky when we are already in a relationship and are not sure really how to proceed with that. It can come as a shock to try to force your desires on your partner and if you address the subject without their thoughts in mind it could [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
Struggling in Submission: Introspection on the Fight to Improve Yourself

Struggling in Submission: Introspection on the Fight to Improve Yourself

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 6/15/13 The most asked question from experienced submissives in the past few months has to do with struggle internally with your own submission, with your resistance to discipline and overall disagreement in a relationship.  It is of course, a natural progression of behavior adjustment and of introspection.  We all know [...]

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What is Primal Play?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. Mr. Samsonite. Every group has one; you know, the guy who can’t show up to the play party without enough luggage to go on a two-week European tour? He [...]

13 comments Posted by slavekathy | Posted in: BDSM Glossary
Male submission – Financial Domination

Male submission – Financial Domination

Financial Domination is an area of BDSM which often elicits strong opinions. With other BDSM activities such as spanking and bondage, at some point after the Safe, Sane, and Consensual scene is over there is no damage done and things are typically physically back to the way they were. However, if a sub’s money is [...]

24 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission, Relationships
Is My Dominant a Bully?

Is My Dominant a Bully?

I have been in my first D/s relationship for the past 6 months.My Sir and I don’t live together yet but that is the plan for the future, although I am with him whenever I am not working.  There are a few things that are bothering me and I would like to know if these [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships, Safety
Help! I Need to Learn to Swear to Please My Dominant

Help! I Need to Learn to Swear to Please My Dominant

I am quite new in action to the lifestyle, but far from new in thought.  I have known basically forever that I am a submissive…but have been stuck on knowing what to do about it. I am now quite happily with my Sir.  He seems very pleased with my natural submissiveness…but we have one are [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Play and Sex
10 Tips to Calm Your Nerves When Meeting a Dominant for the First Time

10 Tips to Calm Your Nerves When Meeting a Dominant for the First Time

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 1/19/13 First date jitters are perfectly normal, but it’s a good idea to calm your nerves prior to meeting your date. Before any first date, avoid thinking about the countless “what if” scenarios and simply go without any expectations. Unfortunately, the nervous energy attached to meeting a Dominant for the [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
Why You Should Know the Truth About Topping from the Bottom

Why You Should Know the Truth About Topping from the Bottom

Topping from the bottom is a feared act for novices because it holds a negative connotation that the person is somehow not submissive if they top from the bottom. It’s whispered and screamed in all of the online forums dealing with BDSM and most of those talk about it with disdain and shame the people [...]

7 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
The Importance of Consent in D/s Negotiation

The Importance of Consent in D/s Negotiation

Consent and Negotiation are probably something that we think about but don’t really acknowledge daily. It is important none the less to think about and address in a Dominant/submissive relationship. Why? There are many reasons but the most important one is being safe not only with your partner but more importantly with yourself. Consent is [...]

6 comments Posted by LadySneak | Posted in: Safety

[Video Post] Alternatives to Kneeling and Visible Signs of Submission

No matter where I go I hear people saying the same thing. Kneeling is the ultimate sign of submission. But what if for some reason or another you can’t kneel to your Dominant? Does that make you less of a submissive? Should you force your body to do something it can’t just to feel submission [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Video Posts

Points to Negotiate in Your D/s Contact That May Not Have Ever Occurred to You

We all put a huge amount of thought into our contacts-or we should.  But there are often times that things arise and we have no way of predicting them.  I recently shared another post about “Outside Forces.”  In that post, I talked about steps that may be taken when an outside force storms it way [...]

5 comments Posted by LaneyDoll | Posted in: Relationships

How To Overcome The Outside Forces That Stress Us

Not too long ago,  my pup and I were faced with something that rears its ugly head to everyone-lifestyle or not.  The dreaded “outside force.”  What is this intruder you may ask?  Well, it is anything outside of the relationship that causes undue tension within a pairing; it is never welcome and always has to be handled [...]

5 comments Posted by LaneyDoll | Posted in: Personal Growth, Relationships
How You Can Respond When Your Family Disapproves of Your Chosen Lifestyle/Sexuality

How You Can Respond When Your Family Disapproves of Your Chosen Lifestyle/Sexuality

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 4-7-12 My family found out that I’m into BDSM/submissive and they are freaking out, what do I do? Coming out to your family, whether it be homosexuality or being kinky is a nerve-wrecking situation for anyone. Not being able to control when and where you family finds out this information [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
Expressing emotions as a submissive

Expressing emotions as a submissive

My Master is quite attentive. However, being use to emotionally based relationships, I feel like I require more emotionally than perhaps He gives. He wants to know when I’ve had a bad day or am disappointed or overwhelmed in anything. But when I express this to him, he seems to clam up. I’ve tried to [...]

1 comment Posted by SehAnru | Posted in: Ask Anything
22 Deal Breakers that May Be Preventing A Dominant from Approaching You

22 Deal Breakers that May Be Preventing A Dominant from Approaching You

I was once chatting with some friends of mine who had mentioned that they were unable to find “their One.” Now, some of these friends are tops; some are bottoms. But all indicated their lack of ability to meet a D/s partner that fit them well. As I mulled over the conversation, I realized that [...]

7 comments Posted by LaneyDoll | Posted in: Relationships
Altered Submissive Speech – Thoughts and Ideas on How to Implement Third Person Speech and other Protocols

Altered Submissive Speech – Thoughts and Ideas on How to Implement Third Person Speech and other Protocols

I was once an online submissive. I know a bit about the language and grammar rules that reside there. They are creative and interesting and serve their purpose online. When you bring them into real life they get more annoying, but in some relationships and dynamics they still serve their purpose. What language adjustments am [...]

10 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Community

The Real Truth Behind the Fear of Topping from the Bottom

There are a lot of things on the internet talking about topping from the bottom as being a bad bad submissive thing. It’s made people terrified that everything they do could be crossing that terrible line. It’s not true. I’ve mentioned it before and I’ll say it again. Bottom topping isn’t as bad as it is [...]

9 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex, Video Posts

Dominant vs. Domineering

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. Often considered interchangeable, the words Dominant and Domineering have very distinct differences. Very basic differences include that Dominants will show compassion and caring while Domineering people push and force [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals
Psychological Aspects of Consensual Rape in BDSM Scenarios

Psychological Aspects of Consensual Rape in BDSM Scenarios

This post is written by Rick’s Fucktoy. It was first posted on Sensual Service, which I closed when I opened Submissive Guide. “Consensual rape.” Quite an oxymoron, I suppose. Rape, by definition, is sexual intercourse in which one party is unwilling and unwanting of the attention and act. A consensual act is something quite contrary [...]

7 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Play and Sex

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