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Strong and Submissive: Exploring the Phenomenon of Strong Female Submissives

Strong and Submissive: Exploring the Phenomenon of Strong Female Submissives

About half of us are like me – powerful energetic women who love to submit. I become even more of the strong woman that I am outside the bedroom, the strong woman who revels both in her strength and in her submission.

7 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Mindset
Feeling Like a Failure as a Slave

Feeling Like a Failure as a Slave

I know I’m human. Since I am human, that means I’m going to make mistakes. Here are some other tips I’ve found that can help when you find yourself feeling like a failure.

7 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Mindset, Personal Growth, Relationships

How to Access Sub Space

Sub-Space is very similar to other trancelike conditions which are practiced worldwide under names such as prayer, meditation and hypnosis or regression. Here’s a step by step for how you can try to get there.

2 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Mindset, Play and Sex
Even in Lessons There Are More Lessons: How Being Punished Has More To Teach Than You Realize

Even in Lessons There Are More Lessons: How Being Punished Has More To Teach Than You Realize

It’s not just about the lesson that the Dominant is trying to teach you, but for yourself; how to repair faith in yourself and your chosen submission, how to lift the guilt and how to humbly move on in apology, progress, and recovery.

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive
Dominant Personality with a Submissive Identity

Dominant Personality with a Submissive Identity

Everyday you go to work and are in charge of people, or you have a management position. Perhaps you just feel that being in control outside of the home is comfortable for you. But you come home to submit.  Or maybe you are an extroverted person and love interacting socially but with the right person [...]

12 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
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Is it Really a Bad Thing to be a Selfish Submissive?

The other day, and I can’t recall the reason, but I was thinking about something that happened during a play party I had once attended. I had just gotten my butt whacked and in my happy space. I had my blanket and plate full of snacks(after scene munchies), and was wearing my brand new flannel [...]

6 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Personal Growth, Relationships
Orgasm Control: The Master’s Gift of Orgasm

Orgasm Control: The Master’s Gift of Orgasm

As a submissive or slave, there are a lot of things our owners give to us. To me, two important things that owners can give to their property is a collar of ownership and an orgasm and I was reminded about the second gift while reading. This is the next in my series of passages [...]

9 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Sex and Sexuality, Views & More...
Ask lunaKM – Fear of Losing Yourself, Poor Contact Frequency and Sending Nude Pictures

Ask lunaKM – Fear of Losing Yourself, Poor Contact Frequency and Sending Nude Pictures

Dear lunaKM, My husband and I have been playing in the BDSM lifestyle for several months now.  I love the idea of this but have always had a strong personality.  I love to please him and want to be a good submissive to him but I fear losing myself or for it to go too [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything

Making Him the Dom of Your Dreams – Working With The Man You Have

Oftentimes we find our desire to be submissive or kinky when we are already in a relationship and are not sure really how to proceed with that. It can come as a shock to try to force your desires on your partner and if you address the subject without their thoughts in mind it could [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
What to Do When You Are Haunted by Past Relationships

What to Do When You Are Haunted by Past Relationships

There are times in our life that we seem to be haunted by the relationships in our past. They cling to us like a life form and don’t seem to want us out their grasp. Most of the time, I feel this occurs because we feel that something is left unresolved with it. Perhaps the [...]

5 comments Posted by LadySneak | Posted in: Relationships
Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: The Big Meet

Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: The Big Meet

As I mentioned in my introduction to this series, online submission is a bit of a hot-button among D/s practitioners. There are a lot of great arguments for why it doesn’t work, and for each of those, there’s an equally strong counterargument for why it’s a perfectly valid arrangement; but chances are, unless you’re submitting [...]

5 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships, Safety
Ask lunaKM – Relationship Stress, Cruising Protocol and Poly Issues

Ask lunaKM – Relationship Stress, Cruising Protocol and Poly Issues

Dear lunaKM, I’ve been a sub for about 6 mo now…online Dom. (this is my first experience being a sub) I have a lot of respect for Him, but can’t get my act together enough to obey everything He wants me to do. I am overwhelmed with my personal life and work and the stress [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Enhance Your Sex and BDSM Play with Rituals in the Bedroom

Enhance Your Sex and BDSM Play with Rituals in the Bedroom

You are a bedroom submissive. You may only submit only in the bedroom, or on weekends or for only set time periods. So having rituals seems foreign to you, right? Maybe. They aren’t meant for you, right? Wrong. If you’ve ever thought that ritual and meditation was for full time submissives only or those in [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Personal Growth
Working to Develop Personal Rituals

Working to Develop Personal Rituals

Every single day I perform rituals that I’ve created to help me feel connected to my submission even if I’m not in the mood or feeling in the right mindset. They are especially helpful during times of stress and busy life when the D/s may seem pushed back so that other pressing matters can be [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Rituals and Routines
Ask lunaKM – Pushing Limits, Exploring as a Top and Talking to Therapists

Ask lunaKM – Pushing Limits, Exploring as a Top and Talking to Therapists

Dear lunaKM, I am a new submissive.  I have been in a relationship with my Dominant for about a year.  I am struggling because my Dominant wants me to explore and push my limits.  He knows that I have had group sex experiences in my past and that they were not positive.   He knows [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: Introduction

Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: Introduction

After writing “Rules for the Working Sub” my Dom suggested that I continue writing articles that focus on the long distance aspects of our relationship. At her encouragement, I’ve decided to try my hand at a series which I hope will be of help to anyone who is involved, or is thinking of becoming involved, [...]

11 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Online Submission
5 Simple Steps to Creating a Personal Submissive Mantra

5 Simple Steps to Creating a Personal Submissive Mantra

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 4/20/13 Developing your own personal mantra is a path to peace and achievement. You can then use your mantra whenever you feel stressed or out of focus with your submission. I use my mantra on a daily basis to keep my mindset on my Dominant and the behavior he has [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Personal Growth
What Influences Your Submission?

What Influences Your Submission?

The other day, I found myself wondering who and what influences me with the decisions I make. The reason why I found myself pondering this is because I had begun to doubt myself and everything I believed and how I lived my life because of something someone had said about me. This person who had [...]

3 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Community, Personal Growth
Little Known Ways We Experience Sub Space

Little Known Ways We Experience Sub Space

I admit that I used to whisper tales of sub space and the other blissful states that I’ve been in as if they were magical golden hours of submission.  I actually believed long ago that sub space is what made me a “real” submissive. Trust me, that bubble didn’t last long. Once it was popped [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Male Submission – Selfishness

Male Submission – Selfishness

The title of this article may seem self-contradictory but submission means different things to different people and also almost all human beings are selfish to at least some degree at some point in our lives. Many submissives gain pleasure directly from the pleasure of their dominant and they are clearly not the target of this [...]

18 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission
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