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Understanding the Reason Behind, “Am I The Only One?” and How to Respond (With a Bit of Netiquette Rules)

The underlying response to this question is simple, but the reason the person asked it is because it doesn’t feel simple to them. Give the person compassion, not snark.

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
Defining Sub Space

Defining Sub Space

Mistress Steel breaks down the many levels of subspace, as she sees them, and how to navigate them in play.

1 comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics
When Kinky isn’t Sexy

When Kinky isn’t Sexy

Kink and sex are indistinguishable from each other: if something kinky ensues, something sexy is sure to follow. The reality is, however, that the two can, and sometimes should be separated.

3 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics
BDSM Basics – What Your First Date Might Look Like

BDSM Basics – What Your First Date Might Look Like

Welcome back to the next part in the BDSM Basics series. In earlier episodes we figured out if we were kinky, what role we are, how to stay safe and how to find a partner. In this article we’ll talk about what your first date might look like. I’ll cover two different situations for a [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Video Posts
The Longing of Being Owned

The Longing of Being Owned

I remember it was about ten years ago when I was first introduced to the Sleeping Beauty trilogy by Anne Rice. I had stumbled across the series by accident while browsing the erotica section of a local bookstore. I had no idea what they were about but had read a lot of Anne Rice’s works [...]

6 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: The Big Meet

Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: The Big Meet

As I mentioned in my introduction to this series, online submission is a bit of a hot-button among D/s practitioners. There are a lot of great arguments for why it doesn’t work, and for each of those, there’s an equally strong counterargument for why it’s a perfectly valid arrangement; but chances are, unless you’re submitting [...]

5 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships, Safety

Chat Night Transcript from Pervertables Talk with FroggyKM

Chat night transcript from the Pervertables Chat with froggyKM on  7/16/13 froggyKM: ok lets get things started! Hello and welcome to another chat night here on Submissive Guide. Please feel free to talk about the subject whenever a thought comes to mind, this is not a moderated talk and you do not have to ask [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Views & More...
Me vs the German Language  – A Lesson in Patience

Me vs the German Language – A Lesson in Patience

This past year has just been a whirlwind of excitement for me. Moving to a new country to be with my Daddy and everything that comes with moving to a new country, adjusting to a new culture, a new way of life, and a new language. The biggest challenge of my move has been the [...]

2 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
This is Not a Game – BDSM is My Life

This is Not a Game – BDSM is My Life

I am a tumblr whore. There’s no other way to describe it. I spend way too much time on there looking for pictures. Most of the pictures I re-blog and most of those who I follow post lifestyle related pictures. I am very particular about the pictures that I re-blog. The pictures that I post [...]

1 comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Community
10 Tips to Calm Your Nerves When Meeting a Dominant for the First Time

10 Tips to Calm Your Nerves When Meeting a Dominant for the First Time

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 1/19/13 First date jitters are perfectly normal, but it’s a good idea to calm your nerves prior to meeting your date. Before any first date, avoid thinking about the countless “what if” scenarios and simply go without any expectations. Unfortunately, the nervous energy attached to meeting a Dominant for the [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
Daddy’s Little Girl – Exploring the Ageplay Dynamic

Daddy’s Little Girl – Exploring the Ageplay Dynamic

Since I have had a few articles published and have received such a warm and kind welcome from everyone, I have decided to tell you all a little secret that I’ve been hiding for some time now. The relationship that I have with my Master is more than just a Master/slave relationship. We also have [...]

28 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Community, Relationships
The Real Truth About a Dominant’s Limits

The Real Truth About a Dominant’s Limits

I talk a lot about knowing your limits and talking about your limits with your Dominant but I believe this is the first time I’m going to talk about your partner’s limits and what they mean for you. As a refresher, limits are the personal boundaries that we place on ourselves pertaining to our life [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
Mentorships – What to Do Before the Process Begins

Mentorships – What to Do Before the Process Begins

So far, my time in the lifestyle has been one that involved several mentorships.  A few times I was the one learning and a few times I was the one passing on the knowledge.  But, in all of those times, I also took away far more than I gave.  I think that happens – when [...]

Leave a comment Posted by LaneyDoll | Posted in: Personal Growth

[Video Post] Too Young for BDSM – Responding to the Questions I Get from Underage Persons

At least once a month I get an email from someone that is under 18 asking very important questions about BDSM and their curious interest. They all want to know if it’s normal and if I can help them find someone to talk to about it. When I first started getting these emails I would [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Community, Video Posts
A Safe Call Could Save Your Life: How to Set It Up

A Safe Call Could Save Your Life: How to Set It Up

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 3-3-12 I was talking with a Dominant the other day about safe calls and how I feel that they are vital for a novice submissive when meeting someone new, especially when they are so inexperienced in the lifestyle as most tend to be. What he said in response, floored me. [...]

8 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Safety
Perspectives: Flogging

Perspectives: Flogging

I believe the second kinky activity introduced to me after spanking was flogging. Since then I’ve had a love/love relationship with it. Flogging is when a top uses a multi-tailed whip to strike in a swinging motion, often times rhythmically. The material that the flogger is made of varies as much as the sensation. Suede is [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex

Lessons in Submissive Speech 2: Personal Introductions

Generally speaking, the first time you encounter someone in a BDSM context you will likely have to introduce yourself. We’ve all heard that you only get one chance to make a first impression to make sure it’s a good one. I’m going to break this up into two separate sections. One for single submissives and [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Talents and Skills
Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner

Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner

Welcome ted_subby as a new contributor to Submissive Guide! His first post is about a topic that I know many of you can benefit from. Enjoy! “What do I do if my significant other is vanilla?” This is a common situation and one which does not have an easy answer. It is important because, for [...]

27 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Relationships
What Do You Do When Top Drop Rules Your Relationship?

What Do You Do When Top Drop Rules Your Relationship?

This is a guest post by tlbsab. You can find her here on the SubGuide Club. Have you ever had everything you wanted only to have it crash around you because of a simple mistake? It didn’t have to be your mistake; but the emotional toll that it takes on your personality and actions is [...]

10 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Play and Sex, Relationships
A Day in the Life: Autumn Raine Skye

A Day in the Life: Autumn Raine Skye

This is a guest post by Autumn Raine Skye for the Day in the Life Series. I’m a submissive, and I also consider myself a slave. My Master, who is also my husband, had not heard of any aspect of BDSM, until I brought it up to him. So we are fairly new to all [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics
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