By thisgirl on August 23, 2010
I am bi-sexual, and I have been ever since I can remember. When I was young I obviously didn’t know the way I felt were the first signs of bi-curiosity because the roots of things are never clear back at the time and only make sense much later on! My first experiences Not long after [...]
Posted in Sex and Sexuality, Submission | Tagged bi curiosity, bisexuality, comfort, experience, female, first signs, first time, skills, submission |
By Guest Author on September 16, 2009
This is another guest post by dina of kajiradreams. She continues her thoughts on Gor and the life of a kajira. You can also read her thoughts on what it’s like to be an owned kajira. The strengths of a kajira and the misconceptions of what a kajira is and does. And what strengths better [...]
Posted in Submission | Tagged book, books, comfort, commitment, cons, control, decisions, desires, Dom, dominant, dreams, emotions, fantasy, fear, female, Gor, Gorean Lifestyle, guest post, hands, help, honesty, ideals, journey, kajira, lifestyle, love, misconceptions of Gor, needs, obedience, owned, play, player, purpose, rt, safe, series, sex, slave, sorry, spirit, standing, strengths of kajira, submission, submissive, switch, tall, trust, understanding, value, wants |
By Guest Author on September 14, 2009
This guest post is by Alpine from Alpine Dreams. A bit of a background story. My partner and I don’t live together. We are both Poly, have other relationships and numerous obligations. Staying connected and in a D/s mindframe can be difficult since he does go away sometimes and we can’t always be together on [...]
Posted in Mindset | Tagged blogging, connection, control, D/s, Dom, dominant, dreams, female, guest post, help, kinky, m/s, poly, relationship, Relationships, ritual, rituals, rt, submissive, tasks |
By Guest Author on August 4, 2009
This is a guest post by Christian. He is a switch male of the D/s lifestyle for the past 14 years. For my first post here I am going to write about something I get asked a fair bit. How does one raise kids in a D/s household? As one with several kids I thought [...]
Posted in Relationships, Social Norms | Tagged activities, BDSM, bdsm play, Bondage, Christian, community, D/s, decisions, dress, email, family, female, guest post, help, history, implement, internet, lifestyle, opinion, play, rt, safe, Service, sex, shopping, spanking, stress, submission, submissive, switch, tasks, trust |
By lunaKM on June 23, 2009
This may seem like a really odd topic to be posting in a submissive blog, but there is reason. I’ve had a question recently from a submissive woman who has been asked on occasion to be assertive and dominant in bed by her Dominant. She says she can’t connect with that because she is submissive [...]
Posted in Sex and Sexuality | Tagged assertive in bed, celebration, control, Dom, Dominance, dominant, female, help, love, Mindset, normal, play, role play, roles, rt, serving, sex, sexual dominance, standing, submission, submissive, switching roles, take control of sex, toy |
By lunaKM on May 28, 2009
The idea of orgasm control or denial strikes fear in novice submissives. “What do you mean give over my ability to orgasm whenever I want?” Sure you could think of it that way, but in terms of your submission it could mean so much more. Let me start with the basic definitions. Orgasm Control: When [...]
Posted in Playtime | Tagged Aria, connection, control, definitions, Dom, dominant, dominants, fear, female, novice, orgasm control, orgasm denial, orgasms, play, relationship, Relationships, rt, rules, sex, stress, submission, submissive, surrender, tall, training |
By lunaKM on May 12, 2009
This week’s video post is about masochism and submission. I mentioned this in the post about myths that submissive’s aren’t always masochist. I thought this topic deserved a more in depth discussion. I’m a masochist. I get sexual pleasure from pain. That’s wired into me. I’m also submissive. It’s who I am. For me, [...]
Posted in Online Submission, Video Posts | Tagged BDSM, discussion, Dom, Domestics, dominant, dominants, email, female, learning, Masochism, masochist, myths, play, punishment, questions, rt, Service, sex, sexual pleasure, submission, submissive, value |
By lunaKM on May 9, 2009
The world is full of false truths. These false truths tend to be the assumptions of the uninformed or the beliefs of those who want to scare novices out of their wits. Many of these are because of a narrow view of the world or an inability to accept varying viewpoints. In this post I’m [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged acceptance, advice, assumptions, BDSM, bdsm lifestyle, bdsm myths, BDSM practitioner, bisexuality, deeper submission, Dom, dominant, dominants, false information, falsehoods, female, female submissives, history, information, labels, lifestyle, love, Masochism, masochist, misunderstandings, myths, normal, novice, novices, online, play, poly, polyamorous, polyamory, predators, relationship, rt, self-awareness, sex, sexual identity, sexual orientation, share, slave, standing, submission, submissive, switch, tall, titles, understanding, viewpoints |
By lunaKM on April 15, 2009
Today’s post comes from Skylerpet, a submissive pet in a D/s relationship who volunteered to write an essay for me after seeing the Weekly Tips on YouTube. Thank you Skylerpet! Pet play is one of the most unique, one of the least known and in my opinion one of the most fun and entertaining sub-cultures [...]
Posted in Playtime, Relationships | Tagged 24/7, BDSM, begging, Bondage, bow, chat, collars, communication, cons, D/s, Dom, dominant, email, experience, female, focus, Gor, hands, help, human animals, human pet, learning, lifestyle, movement, needs, opinion, owned, pet play, pets, play, protocol, punishment, questions, relationship, role play, rt, rules, safe, Safety, scene, sex, short, skylerpet, slave, stress, submission, submissive, switch, tall, tips, toy, toys, training, tricks, writing |
By lunaKM on March 23, 2009
If you’ve been around the BDSM and D/s scene at all there is one of many books that always comes up in conversation as a good book to read when you are new to the whole lifestyle. This book is Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism by [...]
Posted in Reviews | Tagged abuse, advice, amazon.com, basics, BDSM, Bondage, book, books, community, cons, consensual, D/s, danger, Dom, Dominance, dominant, emotions, endorphins, etiquette, experience, explanations, female, help, Impact, impact play, information, kinky, learning, library, lifestyle, limits, love, manners, Masochism, molly devon, negotiation, novice, novices, philip miller, play, player, recommended reading, relationship, Relationships, review, roles, romance, rt, safe, Safety, sane, scene, screw the roses, sex, SSC, standing, submission, submissive, support, tips, toy, toys, tricks, understanding |
By lunaKM on March 19, 2009
I read in an online forum recently about the stigma that a Master or Dom should be manly or masculine. So many replied that they agreed and had found a Dominant that was physically stronger than they were. I was not in agreement and questioned why they idea of masculinity was associated with Dominance. No [...]
Posted in Social Norms, Submission | Tagged BDSM, D/s, Dom, Dominance, dominant, dominants, dynamic, dynamics, essays, family, female, feminine, feminism, gender, gender roles, machismo, masculine, needs, online, play, relationship, Relationships, roles, rt, sex, share, stereotype, submission, submissive |
By lunaKM on March 6, 2009
Recently there has been a lot of talk about Feminism and it’s role in society where it’s related (or not related) to submission in a D/s context. I read kaya’s post from Under His Hand, that while being a rant, was a well thought out discussion on how narrow minded a lot of feminists are [...]
Posted in Social Norms, Submission | Tagged choice, choices, D/s, danger, discussion, Dom, dominant, family, female, feminism, feminist movement, movement, norms, opinion, opposing views, poll, relationship, rt, single, societal views, submission, winner |
By lunaKM on February 27, 2009
The most frequent question I get asked is what is about rituals; what are they, how do I start one, are they hard, do they help with your submission, etc. They really aren’t that difficult once you understand what they are. There’s no sacred rites or incantations or anything, unless that is what you want. [...]
Posted in Rituals and Routines, Service | Tagged amazon.com, BDSM, blogs, book, books, ceremony, collaring, D/s, desires, Dom, dominant, Domme, etiquette, female, Gor, help, leather, links, love, m/s, meditation, Mindset, online, protocol, resume, ritual, rituals, rosary, rt, rules, slave, stress, structure, submission, submissive, symbols, training |
A good book can help you learn more about yourself and your submission or enhance a skill you have always wanted to learn. Here is a growing list of books to help you on the way. Do you have a suggestion for a book listed here? Please email me at subguide@gmail.com. Thank you. View Submissive [...]
By lunaKM on February 24, 2009
In this week’s video tip I talk about what training is to a submissive and the value it has to a D/s relationship. When someone thinks of slave training, what is the first thing that pops into your mind? Is it a submissive on their knees going through the paces that their Dominant puts them? [...]
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By lunaKM on January 30, 2009
You’ve met the perfect person; they are strict and charming, their dominance is a perfect compliment to your submission. There is just one hang-up. They are shorter than you, or they could be smaller in stature than you. Could there be an issue with your ability to submit to someone that can’t overpower you physically [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged BDSM, body types, bottom, control, Dom, Dominance, dominant, Domme, dreams, female, height challenged, help, power exchange, preference, preferences, relationship, rt, share, short, short stature, size, submission, submissive, tall, topping from the bottom |
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