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I’m Worried I’m Not Enough for My Dominant

I’m Worried I’m Not Enough for My Dominant

He’s in love with me as well but I’m not so sure that I’m what he needs anymore. His need for his sadistic ways to flourish are being held back by me. As his submissive /slave, is it wrong for me to decide this for him? Tell him that I’m no longer what he needs. Or do I sit back and watch the man I love, my Master, struggle internally?

1 comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything
Sexual Compromise: When You’re Only A Little Horny

Sexual Compromise: When You’re Only A Little Horny

Sometimes I want to be horny, or I am physically horny but my mind isn’t into it. In these situations, I have to find a workaround to get myself where I personally want to be.

Leave a comment Posted by andyiccee | Posted in: Play and Sex
Jealousy and Mono/Poly Relationships

Jealousy and Mono/Poly Relationships

Here’s what has helped Mina learn about jealousy in a mono/poly relationship – it just might help you too.

5 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Personal Growth, Relationships
Submissive Frenzies: When You Want It All RIGHT NOW!

Submissive Frenzies: When You Want It All RIGHT NOW!

Many aspects of BDSM are similar to addictions and Frenzies can be considered to be the ‘withdrawal’ stage. The peculiar thing about this is that a submissive need not ever have engaged in a real life D/s BDSM experience to actually go into this state of need

Leave a comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics
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Are There Basic Expectations in a Dominant That I Should Look For?

Weeding through the number of messages in your inbox asking to get to know you better is a daunting task to most single people, and being submissive looking for a Dominant is no different. Well, perhaps it’s a little different. The compatibility that you are looking for as a submissive is more specific and challenging. [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships
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What’s Your Cutie Mark?

I LOVE “My Little Ponies: Friendship is Magic”. Sometimes in the evenings before bedtime, I will sit and watch episode after episode. My personal favorite is Pinkie Pie. I see a lot of myself in her. In the series, there’s a group, and they’ve dubbed themselves “The Cutie Mark Crusaders”. The reason why they call [...]

4 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
A Submissive’s New Year’s Resolutions: Letting Go and Offering Forgiveness

A Submissive’s New Year’s Resolutions: Letting Go and Offering Forgiveness

“To err is human.  To forgive is divine.” The start of a new year is a very popular time for resolutions and goals, but it’s also a great time for letting go of the past and letting bygones be bygones.  In theory it’s a great idea.  Who doesn’t want a fresh start to the New [...]

Leave a comment Posted by pinksubgeek | Posted in: Personal Growth
Shame Shame, I Know Your Name-Shame and the Lifestyle

Shame Shame, I Know Your Name-Shame and the Lifestyle

Besides getting the regular email updates from Submissive Guide, I also get the email updates from Submissive Guide’s sister site, Dominant Guide. For those of you who don’t know yet, Dominant Guide is the Submissive Guide for dominants. Like Submissive Guide, it’s a great site and is packed full of great articles. I’m sure you’re [...]

6 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Personal Growth

Pain Play Discussed Online – Explore The Variety of Views

Submissive Guide isn’t the only place you can get quality information about the topics of BDSM and this month I’ve been focusing on sadomasochism and pain play. So I’ve done a bit of research and pulled together some of the best online reading on the topic. Browse the list, watch the videos and learn more [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
What to Do When You Are Haunted by Past Relationships

What to Do When You Are Haunted by Past Relationships

There are times in our life that we seem to be haunted by the relationships in our past. They cling to us like a life form and don’t seem to want us out their grasp. Most of the time, I feel this occurs because we feel that something is left unresolved with it. Perhaps the [...]

5 comments Posted by LadySneak | Posted in: Relationships
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What is Primal Play?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. Mr. Samsonite. Every group has one; you know, the guy who can’t show up to the play party without enough luggage to go on a two-week European tour? He [...]

13 comments Posted by slavekathy | Posted in: BDSM Glossary
Single in the Scene Part V: The Truth about Singlehood

Single in the Scene Part V: The Truth about Singlehood

This is kinda pithy, so please hang in there! In this series thus far, I’ve done my absolute best to keep it positive. Maybe in some ways, I’ve managed to gloss over the ‘truth of singlehood’ of a slave, which in a way slightly misses the mark of my desire which is to help those [...]

4 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Mindset, Personal Growth, Relationships
Male submission – Financial Domination

Male submission – Financial Domination

Financial Domination is an area of BDSM which often elicits strong opinions. With other BDSM activities such as spanking and bondage, at some point after the Safe, Sane, and Consensual scene is over there is no damage done and things are typically physically back to the way they were. However, if a sub’s money is [...]

24 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission, Relationships
Keys to a Successful Relationship-It’s All About Communication

Keys to a Successful Relationship-It’s All About Communication

This is the first in an ongoing series where I will be writing about key factors it takes to have a successful relationship. This first article is about the importance that communication plays in our relationships. Awhile ago, I came across this article in the NY Times about how BDSM has become a bit more [...]

6 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Having Enough Love for More than Just One Partner

Having Enough Love for More than Just One Partner

I was on Tumblr one morning and I came across a picture of Johnny Depp and something he had said. Now, I had seen this particular picture several times and thought nothing of it in the past, but this last time I stumbled across it, I got thinking. The more I thought about this quote, [...]

2 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Relationships
How to Move On When The D/s Relationship Ends

How to Move On When The D/s Relationship Ends

Just how does one know how to move on after a relationship has come to an end, regardless of the reasons behind it? That is sometimes a confusing question for submissives to answer for themselves. Often a submissive will feel lost and all alone, as if they feel that no one will understand what they [...]

3 comments Posted by LadySneak | Posted in: Relationships
Little Known Ways We Experience Sub Space

Little Known Ways We Experience Sub Space

I admit that I used to whisper tales of sub space and the other blissful states that I’ve been in as if they were magical golden hours of submission.  I actually believed long ago that sub space is what made me a “real” submissive. Trust me, that bubble didn’t last long. Once it was popped [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Some of the Best Kept Secrets to Sub Drop Recovery

Some of the Best Kept Secrets to Sub Drop Recovery

Sub drop. Declared among submissives as a horrible affliction and the bane of  play and relationships. We try to understand what it happening when it starts to bring us down and if we don’t know what it is can scare us into never playing again. It’s true; sub drop can be bad. For those of [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
This is Not a Game – BDSM is My Life

This is Not a Game – BDSM is My Life

I am a tumblr whore. There’s no other way to describe it. I spend way too much time on there looking for pictures. Most of the pictures I re-blog and most of those who I follow post lifestyle related pictures. I am very particular about the pictures that I re-blog. The pictures that I post [...]

1 comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Community
I’m Polyamorous but Feel Territorial Over Kink, Is This Normal?

I’m Polyamorous but Feel Territorial Over Kink, Is This Normal?

I am in a poly relationship with my partner and I really care for his other partner. For the most part, I am happy for all aspects of their relationship. However, I recently learned that he used nipple clamps that we had purchased together on her and this triggered an unexpected reaction from me. I [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
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