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How Do I Let Him Know I’m Committed to Him?

How Do I Let Him Know I’m Committed to Him?

How can I tell my partner that I’m not going anywhere and am interested in a long term relationship and possibly marriage?

Comments Off Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything, Beginner Basics
I’m Worried I’m Not Enough for My Dominant

I’m Worried I’m Not Enough for My Dominant

He’s in love with me as well but I’m not so sure that I’m what he needs anymore. His need for his sadistic ways to flourish are being held back by me. As his submissive /slave, is it wrong for me to decide this for him? Tell him that I’m no longer what he needs. Or do I sit back and watch the man I love, my Master, struggle internally?

1 comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything
Ask lunaKM – Forced to Lose Weight, Snarky Submissives and Looking for Community

Ask lunaKM – Forced to Lose Weight, Snarky Submissives and Looking for Community

Dear lunaKM, I have been with my Master for a number of months. Most of the time our relationship is great and we have a very strong bond. My only problem is that he seems to have a fixation with my weight. When I first met him he asked me to lose a few pounds. [...]

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Male Submission – Fantasy vs Reality

Male Submission – Fantasy vs Reality

Many submissive men have fantasies which have been developed over many years, sometimes leading to a focus on extreme and/or specific situations despite not having experienced anything. This may lead to misunderstandings with potential partners between fantasies and actual desires as the sub man may not even be able to recognize the difference at first.

25 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission
How Do You Deal With Discomfort Being a Plus Sized Submissive?

How Do You Deal With Discomfort Being a Plus Sized Submissive?

The idea of spending a lot of time naked and exposed terrifies me, especially if a lot of crawling is involved, which I think he will ask me. How do you deal with your discomfort over your body with your partner? Part of me says to just trust him to take the lead on this matter, but I’m not sure.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Tearing Down the Green-Eyed Monster – Handling Jealousy

Tearing Down the Green-Eyed Monster – Handling Jealousy

Most confuse jealousy and envy. I know I’ve been bitten a few times by jealousy but thankfully I worked through them and realized that there was nothing to worry about. I’ve conquered jealousy and you can too. Today we’ll talk about what jealousy is, compare it to envy and then figure out some tips on combating jealousy.

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Personal Growth
Submissive Advent – Day 14: Don’t Be Afraid to Be Brave

Submissive Advent – Day 14: Don’t Be Afraid to Be Brave

Think about the fears you currently have about your submission, your role in your current relationship or within yourself.

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Advent Calendar
Never Say Never: Overcoming Hard Limits

Never Say Never: Overcoming Hard Limits

When absolute trust is present, and the dominant is interested and experienced in helping to overcome fears and phobias, working through hard limits can be very empowering.

4 comments Posted by slavekathy | Posted in: Play and Sex
Just How Much Trust do YOU Have?

Just How Much Trust do YOU Have?

Trust is a big factor in all relationships. I would even go as far to say that trust is an even bigger factor in D/s and M/s relationships than most others, but I could be wrong. How do you know when you really trust someone?

10 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
How You Can Respond When Your Family Disapproves of Your Chosen Lifestyle/Sexuality

How You Can Respond When Your Family Disapproves of Your Chosen Lifestyle/Sexuality

My family found out that I’m into BDSM/submissive and they are freaking out, what do I do?

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
Ask Anything | Painfully Shy and New

Ask Anything | Painfully Shy and New

Hello, I’m very inexperienced in the world of D/s. I’ve read lots of information to try and help me understand myself and I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that this is what I’ve always been looking for. I’m at a stage now where I feel that I need to talk to other submissives [...]

3 comments Posted by SehAnru | Posted in: Ask Anything
Keeping It Fresh – How to Spice Up Your Kinky Life

Keeping It Fresh – How to Spice Up Your Kinky Life

Every relationship experiences periods of boredom in the bedroom, kinky ones are not excluded from this. So what do you do about it?

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Play and Sex
Single in the Scene Part I: Boundaries

Single in the Scene Part I: Boundaries

By setting our boundaries, we can ensure that we are navigating the ‘lifestyle’ waters as safely as possible. This is a personal responsibility that each of us have that is at its core about self preservation.

2 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Mindset, Personal Growth
What a Pain: Does Pain Tolerance Change Over Time?

What a Pain: Does Pain Tolerance Change Over Time?

Tolerance will grow in time, and will change. Most of the fun in exploring bdsm is in trying new things together, nobody can have everything thrown at them on day one.

5 comments Posted by thisgirl | Posted in: Play and Sex
What to Do When Your Dominant is Not Emotionally Available

What to Do When Your Dominant is Not Emotionally Available

It is possible that emotional availability is not the problem at all — it’s just plain availability. All of us have busy lives these days.

32 comments Posted by Twist | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships

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