By lunaKM on April 23, 2010
From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 10-24-09 WHAT IS ROLE-PLAYING? When you think of role-playing what comes to your mind? Naughty school girl? Nurse-patient? French maid? A lot of what we do can classify itself under role-playing. In fact D/s is a form of role-play. For many people it is just a character they don to [...]
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By lunaKM on October 21, 2009
Protocol. It can be a scary word if you are new to submission. In a relationship, it is likely that you will have some protocol established to control your behavior. So, what is protocol? Simply defined, protocol is the set of special rules that you follow for defined situations that remind you of your place [...]
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By lunaKM on September 28, 2009
My first ebook up for review is “How To Get The Spanking You Want: The Complete Guide to Asking For it, Getting it, and Making it Better” by Vivian of The Disciplined Feminist. I have an excerpt on this site if you’d like to read it. The author has over 23 years of spanking experience [...]
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By Guest Author on September 16, 2009
This is another guest post by dina of kajiradreams. She continues her thoughts on Gor and the life of a kajira. You can also read her thoughts on what it’s like to be an owned kajira. The strengths of a kajira and the misconceptions of what a kajira is and does. And what strengths better [...]
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By lunaKM on September 9, 2009
You know you’ve entered online submissive ground when everyone you don’t know starts to refer to you as sister. It’s been years since I’ve ‘lived’ online but this is something that has always irked me. Recently on FetLife I saw a question that had an interesting twist to the whole sister submissive thing that I’d [...]
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By lunaKM on August 31, 2009
A few months ago I started a list of things you can do to improve your submission immediately. If you want to see what’s in that list, you can find that post in the archives. I’d like to continue to add to that list because there are always things you can do but may not [...]
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By lunaKM on August 27, 2009
Our first chat was a great success. Everyone gave permission to post the transcript and continue the conversation here. I loved every minute of interesting conversation. Read and enjoy! <~luna[KM]> Alright, let’s get started. If you haven’t figured out, I’m luna. I started the site in January after I got tired of not finding what [...]
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By lunaKM on August 21, 2009
This month’s book review is of one of the books I gave away in the July Book Contest. The New Bottoming Book by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy (formerly Lady Green) is a great beginner’s guide to bottoming. According to the authors, this “new version” contains much of the original advice, like “connecting” and [...]
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By lunaKM on August 5, 2009
I’m personally not a very domestic person. When I do find the desire to clean it’s normally to relieve stress (believe it or not). It can help calm my nerves and give my mind something else to do while working on the house. Since I’ve become Master’s stay at home submissive I find I need [...]
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By lunaKM on August 3, 2009
We all have responsibilities in life. The family needs to be taken care of and fed, you have to work, pay the bills and keep the home repaired. Kids have to be cared for and carted around from games to classes to other outings. There are days you feel that there aren’t enough hours in [...]
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By lunaKM on May 29, 2009
There is no way to be sure but, the large majority of information about the D/s lifestyle is in fiction form. While it’s nice to escape into emotional and physical stories, they are fantasy. For submissives looking to get their feet wet, these stories could hinder or harm the very ideas that develop in the [...]
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By lunaKM on May 20, 2009
Today’s BDSM lifestyle practicioners thrive on real experiences to help them learn and grow within thier own personal choices. Many books written for the beginner are not so filled with real life stories as Different Loving. I chose to review this book here because I know I learned more about myself and what I wanted [...]
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By lunaKM on April 7, 2009
This week’s video tip is on Red Flags of Fake Dominants. The question I was asked today is, “How do you identify fake Dominants and what are some red flags to be watchful of?” First, what is a fake Dominant? A fake Dominant is someone who is just out for sex, fantasy and an easy [...]
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By lunaKM on March 4, 2009
“What one has not experienced, one will never understand in print.” -Isadora Duncan I began my journey into D/s and BDSM in online chat rooms; namely those on IRC (BDSM-Net and Bondage.com). I knew nothing of what the lifestyle would be for me, only the fantasy that I lived when I got home from class [...]
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By lunaKM on December 22, 2008
When someone becomes a submissive for the first time and finds a dominant the first words I generally hear them say is that they like being of service or they like serving. When asked what it is about service that they enjoy it tends to boil down to sex and play. There is far more [...]
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